I recently lost my best friend and my "adopted" sister. I don't know if I was right or wrong, but on my anniversary she sent me an email, subject was;" Look what my husband did for me." and she added a photo of a cabin he was building for her for her candle making. I wrote back and told her how wonderful it was for her and what a great husband she had and I was happy for her. I had just come back from the cemetery after putting flowers on Chuck's crypt and I wasn't in the best of moods. I was very sad, depressed and crying. Then i made the fatal mistake of writing that since it was my anniversary, I wished she had waited a couple of days to send me that email. She wrote me back an email that blasted me with a fury and hatred I had never seen from her in the entire 35 years we had been friends. She told me not to ever contact her again, she had blocked my email, and told me to "lose" her phone number and address as she wouldn't accept any contact from me. Five days before I had sent her a "friend" greeting card that she refused delivery on and it was returned to me.
I was so shocked, upset and depressed over losing her friendship I cried for days, and considered sending an email from a different account in hopes that she would read it. I decided not to do that because I couldn't take any more of her hateful comments. I talked this over with my very wise son and he advised me to forget about her and get on with my life. That if she would get so upset over my comment, she had a problem and I couldn't fix it.
She was the only friend who stood by me after my husband died. She was also my maid of honor when I got married.
Right now I am over the inital shock and decided that if she felt that way towards me, there was nothing I could do to about the situation. I have come to terms with her "dropping" me from her life, but I am, and will continue to miss her phone calls, cards and emails.
I feel so alone and sad that she would go off on me like that, and i wish I could "fix" our friendship, but, after the things she said to me, I don't think we can ever be friends again and I will miss her. It is like a death for me that I need to get over.
How very sad for you both & what an awful loss! I'm sure she only misjudged what you were trying to say.Give it sometime,& I'm sure it will mend.35 years is alot of water under the bridge for something as a misinterpited email to distroy.
cdkelleyMay God heal you both soon,
Cathy :)
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