A listening mind is a quiet mind.
Remember that you are happiest when you are slowly detailing. Be a detailist. Detailing means listening. Cleaning. Attending.
My communication and work is perfection. It is composition.
If you or someone else is having a freak out, come back to your own ground.
Is "giving love" to others impossible if one is not grounded and composed in one's own life? I am thinking that the attempt to be loving to others is useless if one is not living from their own ground. It ends up being some kind of idealistic theater act.
Nothing ever ends and nothing ever begins. It is just an ongoing process. You don't end relationships, you move in a different direction and maintain harmony within yourself.
Do not over extend yourself beyond your ability to compose and be composed.
Do not plan your whole life out. Just take the next step. Do not look beyond the next step.
What worked yesterday will not work today. Today is different.
Do not introduce thoughts of distance to get from here to there. There is nowhere else to go or become. You can relax.
Don't ever sacrifice your own balance to go for what you think you are wanting.
Always work from the ground up.
Be complete in all you do.
There is no urgency in my life. No time table. Just let it all happen at its own pace, in its own way. Trust. Success is not as important as moment to moment wise living.
When working, be smooth, be neutral and engaged. Don't be urgent and rushed. Just apply yourself. This is a different kind of happiness. This makes you feel better about yourself and less flaky and scattered and drifty.
Fear is nothing but a habit. The antidote is listening.
If it is not working, let it go.
Antidote for everything is to clear the space. Less is more. Just simplify.
Working with fear:
Know that you are in the right place at the right time.
Know your intent.
Ask for help.
Appreciate what you have first and you will attract more. Be specific in what you do want in your life, but always have appreciation. Appreciation is not possible if one has a cluttered and conflicted mind. A listening mind is a quiet mind.
Work from the ground up. Clear your plate entirely, take a shower, arrange
your work space, etc before you start working. Eat, sleep, drink water. Go from the foundation and up. This creates balance and composure, so you have a firm footing.
To ground myself:
- Clear the space
- Inwardly reach out
- Take a little nap
- Shower a little
- Drink some water
- Reduce stimulation in environment
- Take another nap
All relationships are good. There are no failed relationships. Keep the ones you like alive, let the rest go.
Contribute. Do something of actual use.
Solution to violence in the world:
- See that all emotion seeks a target.
- Speech that sources itself from emotion seeks a target.
- To calm emotion, there must be an inward silencing.
- Humans need to recognize when their speech or opinions are arising from emotion, and retreat back and calm the emotion. This way there is never any targeting in speech or in energy coming from one human to another.
Addition by subtraction:
Ask yourself what you can get rid of, to create that sense of simplicity, vastness and peace. No need to always add what is new. Subtract what is old.
"There is no complexity in happiness, for simplicity is its one essential ingredient. Rejoice then, in the factual nature of your true essence."
Just keep your composure and live a simple, retiring life, where things are not looking like some kind of continual martyrdom. You give what you can, and maintain your peace. Don't join the whirlwind. Let it go and create your own style of being.
Remember that being alone only means loneliness if you need a nap or need to clear something or are off balance. Rest and rest and just take care of you. Everything else flows from there. Don't worry so much about hurting people's feelings if you need to be alone. And just recognize that you are here learning and being alone is not so bad.
I am imagining my absolute freedom from the need to chase this and that .... it is all here for me and I am going to rest.
If I make any kind of statement or proclamation about who I am, what I am doing, I am immediately enslaved and burdened by that proclamation.
There is no cost of freedom. There is no price to pay, no karma to work through, no path to an end. Just hold that feeling of freedom, that we are totally free, and let it manifest in the material world. We are free. There is no need to ask for it or earn it.
When you're burdened with obligation, you cannot feel your own desire to connect.
Just keep kind of quiet and soft and sit back. Don't talk so much.
I drink lots of water (very important).
Don't react to others' heaviness with heaviness. Listen to them and connect with them and to yourself bless them.
I have been conditioned to sometimes think that people don't like me when they actually do, however, because I start acting as if they don't like me, it presents a dilemma for them. My overlaying perception is changing my reality.
I deny the very existence of chaos in any form. It is merely a perception. All that exists is the pure perfection and love. I ask for assistance in changing my consciousness to perceive this perfection, this beauty.
Do not ever judge a situation as out of control.
When someone is freaking out and blaming you, do not come from your emotions when talking to them. Do not get gushy and apologetic. See the situation as not a problem. See it as already resolved.
Don't counter dramatic extreme language with more of your own. Just talk.
Don't make meditation into a thing. Meditation is an unthing. It is a peeling back.
Count your blessings when you start to feel lack. Find one thing to be grateful for.
Don't get lost in it. Just work. Just live.
Don't make the world into your problem to solve. Make it my playground to contribute, to give, to appreciate in, to reach out in small ways. Don't concern yourself with others' problems so much. Reach out to them and create a good thing and know that there is no problem.
Deprogramming patterns that are in the brain. The brain is like a computer. Journalling is a good way to dump things that you don't want.
1 Journal: "Patterns I learned in Childhood"
Write down all the things parents, siblings, friends doing when you were a child. Do this for 45 days. Then you burn it or shred it and say I do not choose to retain these patterns anymore. This forces the brain to look at the patterns.
2 Journal: "Patterns I do choose to have."
Write down new patterns and affirmations.
Is this what the holidays are all about? Getting together with friends and getting satiated? Food, drink, etc. Is this it? Wine and dine, talk. Watch a movie. Hang out. I want something different. What? Space. Clarity. Simplicity. Groundedness. Do I want a family? Not if I don't have space. Simplicity. Perfect order. Peace from the ground up. The satiation part feels sloppy and dull.
I WOULD RATHER HAVE EASY PERFECTION ON THE GROUND
Work epiphany - the simple daily game plan.
Truth is, I had been becoming bored with my work. I had been having trouble keeping myself focused. I have been working in a more scattered, less methodical way. Just wading in, and it is just an unpleasant way of of working because their is less sense of direction and elegance. I had been feeling overwhelmed, and now with the use of to do lists, I am having more fun with it. I like creating order and detailing. I get deflated when I feel like things are getting away from me and my work does not have a certain elegance in it. Then I start drifting away from my work, having trouble staying interested. I had lost that recently, and it was feeling like I was in a struggle with everything. This is why I started "whining" to Mary about being burned out. Am I actually burned out? Or was I just in need of a shift in the way I approached work? I was burned out on my own approach. I can handle the workload. I was just maybe burned out on my own approach to life in general, which had become rather like wading in and just doing doing doing, without a simple, daily game plan to refer to. Applying management tools, like organized to do lists, is making me feel more sane with it. I am learning how to enjoy work, and not always be looking for some kind of escape.
There is an empowerment in "My whole life is work", because I get paid enough to comfortably pay my bills, and have money leftover to save or to improve my house. This reduces stress greatly.
Sometimes I get in a personal crisis that says "Is this it?" and I want some fantasy life, some family life, and I start to feel like I am missing something. Then I get to feeling resentful about working so much ... but I think this is a kind of illusion. No matter what, there is always alot to do. This is a rebelliousness against the challenges of life, which is a theme that arises every now and then with me, and I have learned not always to take it as meaning that something has to change, outwardly. It could mean that I just need to settle in and enjoy myself.
Work with disorder by learning to be still and not seek a memorized outcome by practicing a memorized action.
You become dull and unavailable when you do a memorized action toward a memorized goal. This makes you relate only to images in your mind, not in the actual of what is going on, moment to moment.
Notice when you swim in your own memories. Stop and listen to a moment. Be still.
The mind is calm, the form is balanced. The life is balanced.
I will not use the words "I want" anymore. Just "I choose".
Choosers can't be beggars.
If you pay attention to something that is discordant, you have fed it.
If you pay attention to something that is positive, you have fed that.
Don't feed emotions. Whether positive or negative. Experience it and let it go.
If you choose, you are in balance. If you shut something out, you are acting from fear.
It's very easy to go in directions that are convoluted and chaotic.
Do ... or do not. There is no try.
What you do is not so important. How much you accomplish is not so important. Be totally present while you are doing it.
Your ambition for yourself is far less than what you would become if you ceased trying to become anything and just sought to be totally present with whatever you are doing. Just be, without becoming, and you will become much.
I like to think of meditation as communing, rather than practicing, because practice is a repetition of something that is planned. Communing is more of an open exploration and checking in with the reality of life.
Space and composition are the antidote for negative emotions.
We only have each other. We have us. That bond is what is beautiful.
Bob, be useful in a real, concrete way.
Merit is not built by intensity. Merit is built by just relaxing and living. Letting yourself be. Does this accumulate anything? No ... because time is an illusion and accumulation over time is not possible. There is just this. Leave the intensity behind.
It's simple ... I like to create space and simplicity and let go of the past -- even what happened two minutes ago -- clear the space. The only kind of woman I would want to be involved with would ALSO like to create space and simplicity and letting go of the past. That way I am not battling her. This is what I choose.
I am designing my sacred space. My reality. Journal about what is in your space, and make it complete. Otherwise, you get half a space. And when you have half a space, what do you have? A leak. You have a gap in you support system, and you go out into the world off balance.
Don't apologize to people for things that are not your responsibility. Don't say you're sorry. If you do this, they may just pile it on, especially if they are in the habit of not taking responsibility for their own life. Your apology will open the flood gates. Don't take part in drama. To apologize to them is to agree with their drama. Just be happy and take care of yourself, your life, your thoughts, your responsibilities, so that you don't get angry and end up blaming them.