How many of us have asked, “Is this all there is?” We burn the candle at both ends with work commitments, volunteer commitments and family commitments (sometimes in that order), and on top of that we work hard to schedule time for ourselves, for exercise and for entertainment. At the end of the week we’re exhausted and perhaps overwhelmed with multiple simultaneous sound tracks creating noise in our heads. We feel like there has to be more in life, but in reality, there is already too much.
How can we step off the treadmill and find more meaning with less doing? Many traditions embrace the idea of emptiness—both emptying the mind to encounter the soul and, more especially, emptying oneself of one way of being to make space for a new way of becoming. There is a Jewish saying that you can’t pour into a full cup. “Islam” translates roughly to "surrender." Eastern traditions employ several meditation practices to transcend self. Even in nature many things cease to be one thing in order to become something else. A seed ceases being a seed in order to become a tree. Emptiness may hurt, but it is also our best hope for the healing and life change we seek.
Recent posts explored what it means to rely on God-help rather than self-help when seeking life change and renewal. The Twelve Step addiction recovery tradition offers special wisdom on this point. Recovery seekers know that one has to create a power vacuum in order to make space for God’s power to enter. They recognize this wisdom as the Third Step, or making “a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.”
As logical as this emptying sounds, it is incredibly difficult to do. We can become deathly attached to our own desires. Pharaoh is the Bible’s biggest loser. He was willing to endure any number of plagues and to lose everything rather than doing a Third Step. When talking about surrendering our earthly desires, attachments and plans to make space for God’s power and care in a Third Step, recovery seekers invariably talk of “taking it back” at some point in the journey.
At least recovery seekers recognize that it’s either God’s will or their own will in the driver’s seat. Many religious seekers hope for a little auxiliary God-help without taking the difficult step of surrendering their own will. Sometimes we want God to be almighty on our terms.
Join the conversation. What practices help you empty yourself and surrender your will?
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