Ministers Get Frustrated Too

    Monday, July 21, 2014, 8:48 PM [General]

    This is the message that I saw when I read the article, reading between the lines and modifying the words:

    (Modified from Article – Frustrating Things that Pastors Do)


    I’m pro-pastor, but I’m not blind.

    These men (and women) are called of God and assigned some of the most difficult work in the universe, and for the most part they labor well and long and you never hear a complaint out of them. They are special.

    Most of them.


    The typical pastor (Minister) serves a church running 100 or fewer in attendance, which tells you the offerings are insufficient to provide much of a living for him or her. In some cases they hold down a second job or their spouse works. Or both. Or, most amazing of all, he or she manages to live on what the church can pay.  I believe in these individuals. They are my brothers and sisters. My admiration of them knows no bounds.

    Most of them.


    Here is a list of the 5 most frustrating things pastors do.


    FIRST: It’s frustrating to see preachers cut corners on sermon preparation.


    In the world I live in, the only time 90 percent of the congregation sees the pastor is on Sunday morning.

    And yet.                                                                                                                                                            

    From the scant attention given the Sunday sermon by many ministers, from the small study time allotted to its preparation, and from the haphazard delivery of the message during the morning worship service, one would think neither the members nor the minister put a value on the sermon.

    (But,) It is the single most important thing the pastor does.


    SECOND: It’s frustrating when preachers miss the entire point of what a sermon should be.


    The wise minister will tell himself, “The Lord (Our God) has a message for our people next Sunday. He alone knows who is going to be present, and what each person is struggling with. (The wise minister will ask:  What message will be most beneficial and help our members as they go out into their world until we meet again?)  Therefore, I will go to Him, asking what He would have me preach.”

    It’s a great feeling (to know that our words have helped to guide someone in their journey).


    THIRD: It’s frustrating to see ministers issue instant assessments on how well the sermon worked today.


    When a minister feels like a failure, nothing good results. Often he will adopt one of two extreme measures: he will either throw in the towel, give up and quit, or he will adopt manipulative tactics to get people (to change what they do).


    Neither is wise. Both are self-defeating and unworthy.


    One could wish every minister knew several critical things about the practice of preaching:

    –often, it’s more planting and cultivating than harvesting.

    Be wise.

    –just because people do not (make) a commitment to the church or to serve (at) the end of your sermon does not mean the message did not do its powerful work or that you did poorly.

    Be patient.

    –people are complex beings, and build mighty defenses against the work of the Holy Spirit. Destroying those barriers–which the Spirit of God alone can accomplish–takes time.

    Be faithful.

    –you are not the judge of your own effectiveness, not now and not ever.

    Be trusting.

    –and finally, even the Holy Spirit does not manipulate people into decision-making but allows each one to “choose this day whom you will serve,” so neither should you.


    FOURTH: It’s frustrating to see ministers ignore the great sermon-building resources the Lord (Our God) has put all around them.


    Often we keep our message a secret and do not discuss it with those who are around us.  We do not ask for input or suggestions about our subject for the week.


    What I’m doing is what I wish someone had done for me as a young pastor: prod my thinking, stir my juices, tell me something on a text I hadn’t thought of, pass along a great story on that subject I might be able to use.


    All around the minister are other individuals and pastors. Each one is a mother lode of information and insights, experiences and concerns. Tapping into that resource is as simple as making a phone call: “Bob, do you have a few minutes to meet me for coffee?” And then, in your office or the coffee shop or the fast food restaurant or down at the service station, after you’ve exchanged pleasantries, you say, “Can I pick your brain? I’m preaching Sunday on ____________, ‘Talk to me about that. Anything at all that comes to mind.’”


    Have something to write with. Jot down what is said. Take the conversation wherever it goes. Then, at the end, whether that’s 2 minutes or 20, thank him or her and end that portion of the discussion. If you or they need to leave, do so.


    Repeat as often as needed. There are (many people willing to talk and listen) in your community.


    Oh, and one more thing that is so obvious it should not have to be said, but it does: do not limit yourself to ministers of your denomination. Some of the best insights you’ll ever get will come from men or women of God who did not attend your seminary or any seminary for that matter, but who have devoted themselves to (serving God and Humanity).


    Ministers tend to be loners. How self-defeating this is. We do see many who tried it, but rarely with positive results.


    FIFTH: It’s frustrating to see ministers constantly frustrated.


    A preacher (minister) will see and learn and know what he needs to do to be more effective, but because of a heavy load of administration or pastoral work, he does not have the energy or will or time to change. To make radical changes means adjusting his or her schedule and that frequently requires the support of the ministerial and office team as well as the congregation. That takes time and energy and patience.


    Free yourself of the frustrations that hound you. Concentrate your efforts in the areas where you are strongest. There are others who know more than you and are willing to do what you are doing in the other areas of the ministry.  This will keep you from spinning your wheels as a result of busy work someone else could be doing and free you up for more profitable ministry.

    I have a strong feeling that when we are frustrated by our ineffectiveness, God may be the One who sent us the frustration in the hope that we would take drastic action to rearrange matters in our lives.


    No one lacking courage need apply for this work.

    You can do this. Stand strong. Trust God. Do right.


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    A Simple Creed

    Sunday, July 13, 2014, 1:54 AM [General]

    Be ours a religion which, like sunshine, goes everywhere;
    its temple, all space;
    its shrine, the good heart;
    its creed, all truth;
    its ritual, works of love;
    its profession of faith, divine living.

    ~ Theodore Parker, from the Welcome: Unitarian Universalist Primer, bySkinner House

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    Your Path

    Tuesday, July 8, 2014, 1:05 PM [General]

    Stand up and look around.  All you see is Tao.  Pick a text that resonates within your heart and mind. That text will be easy for you to understand.  Walk your path one step at a time. The way before you is your path.  Let nature guide and direct you.  You are already One with Tao.

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    Follow your heart

    Monday, July 7, 2014, 12:10 PM [General]

    Follow your heart and then you will know, the best course of action to take.  Follow the teachings of Jesus, but remember, most of his teachings are not found within the Bible.  Do good, to the best of your ability, knowing that is God's plan for your life.  The whole world is God's house and temple.  You are one of his Children.  Let others think what they may, we are all part of a great family.  God will not be found in structures built of stone, or in hearts of stone, but he will be found in the heart of all who do good and serve their father, mother, brothers, and sisters with love.  (Just my opinion.)

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    Part of Nature

    Sunday, July 6, 2014, 2:47 PM [General]

    The pine tree and the flower are both a part of nature. One is always green to demonstrate the essence of life is permanent. The other comes and goes with the seasons and demonstrates that life unfolds and changes. Both have their purpose and place. Neither is good or evil in their own right. Both plant seeds in the heart and mind that can be nurtured and will grow. You too, are a part of nature: You have a part that is permanent and other parts that are always changing with the seasons. To be complete we must embrace all the parts of our nature.

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    Something to Consider

    Saturday, July 5, 2014, 2:30 AM [General]

    Life is a dream.
    Most are asleep.
    Living is death.
    Roles are reversed.

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    Something to Contemplate

    Saturday, July 5, 2014, 2:29 AM [General]

    Life is a dream.
    Most are asleep.
    Living is death.
    Roles are reversed.

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    To Be Successful

    Saturday, June 21, 2014, 2:08 AM [General]

    Do the most productive thing possible with every given moment.  Do surround yourself with experts in their fields.  Do take their advice for their experience will be greater than yours. Don't think you have to do it all.  Utilize the talents and abilities of the individuals who work for you or volunteers who are willing to help. Just my opinion for those who want to be successful in life.

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    Theologian or Metaphysician

    Friday, June 13, 2014, 3:38 AM [General]

    Recently I was introduced as a learned Theologian.

    Theology is the field of study and analysis that treats of God and of God's attributes and relations to the universe. It is the study of divine things or religious truth; divinity. Theology has been called a Divine Science that is separate from organized religion or religious dogma. It focuses on understanding God and the many different forms used by man to explain how God interacts with all creation and humanity.

    Metaphysics has been called a division of philosophy that is concerned with the fundamental nature of reality and being. But it is more than a philosophy, it is a search for truth, a Divine Science seeking to understand God and the workings of the Universe. Like Theology, it has been referred to as the Queen of all Sciences.

    People have many different definitions for these terms. You may call me a Theologian or a Metaphysician, or whatever designation appeals to you. Theology and Metaphysics go hand in hand. My goal is to understand God and our relationship to each other as a family. To serve God, I must love and serve humanity by sharing the knowledge and wisdom that I gain.

    I will do my best to do this and seek to bring together the human family by promoting harmony, peace, love, and understanding.

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    Something to Consider

    Thursday, June 12, 2014, 2:47 AM [General]

    Consider that our physical body is mortal and subject to the cycles of life. It is designed to last a thousand years but in the way we live it is discarded in less than 100 years. It is designed for this realm of life and provides a vehicle or shell for our soul to live in and use. This body is composed of the elements of the earth and they return into it again when the work is done.

    The soul comes from another source. To the soul the body may be like a prison or grave. To be in this body gives a sense of separation from the One. This earth to the soul can be a heaven or hell, maybe a place between that many call purgatory or the Bardo plain. It is here that the soul learns to correct its mistakes and grows in knowledge and wisdom. Until you reach the point of awakening, illumination, or remembering your heritage and home, you are considered in many ancient texts to be one of the walking dead. Many take this state to be life but it is only one phase of existence in the journey of the soul. When this phase is complete, the soul is released and again free from restraint. Our soul may then decide to return to help and guide other souls or come back to this realm to continue its learning and growth.

    When our cycle of learning is complete, we realize that each one of us has a purpose and place. We have our home with the One and all are part of the spirit of the Tao. The Tao is within and around all. No matter where we are, or what we do, we are within and part of the Tao. This cannot be fully explained. But, knowing this is the difference between being one of the truly living or being one of the dead. (Just my opinion.)

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