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When you become aware of an “ugly” feeling and you are telling yourself, “I’m angry.”  I’ll use “angry” in this example.  You can substitute any feeling that is discomforting or upsetting.

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Shift your sentence from “I’m angry” to “A part of me is feeling angry.”  This is recognition that you and the feeling are separate.  You are not the feeling.

Say “Hello” to the part of you that is feeling angry.  When you first try this practice, it feels counter intuitive.  It certainly is different from common strategies, maybe even some you have tried in the past—to ignore the feeling, to deny it, to argue with it, to try to talk yourself out of the feeling.  Saying “hello” is a way of acknowledging the presence of the feeling and recognizing that it has come to you, often without your conscious invitation.  Saying “hello” indicates that you are trying to move toward willingness to consider what the feeling might be trying to tell you.

You can add even more power to your shift by adding a phrase, “I’m sensing…” and then add, “…that a part of me is feeling angry.”

Place a hand on the location in your body where you feel the sensation the most.  Some common places that feelings show up are in your stomach, throat, chest (heart area), neck, shoulders, or head.  If you don’t sense a particular place in your body where the feeling seems to be showing itself, simply place your hand over your heart.  This gesture often has a calming effect.

Listen to what the part of your body or the anger has to say.  Sometimes the feeling will remind you of a situation in your life, past or present, in which you have felt this way before.  Any number of memories, thoughts, feelings, images that come to mind may be part of the message.  Ponder what they might be telling you.

After you’ve listed carefully, you may be able to say, “No wonder I’m sensing part of me is angry.”  This is a way to show compassion to yourself.  Having gone through this process you may be able to respond to your situation in a different way.

Remember you can substitute any discomforting or upsetting feeling for anger.

 

I learned this practice from Ann Weiser Cornell.  Visit her website for fuller explanation and additional resources:  focusingresources.com.

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When you become aware of an “ugly” feeling and you are telling yourself, “I’m angry.”  I’ll use “angry” in this example.  You can substitute any feeling that is discomforting or upsetting.

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Shift your sentence from “I’m angry” to “A part of me is feeling angry.”  This is recognition that you and the feeling are separate.  You are not the feeling.

Say “Hello” to the part of you that is feeling angry.  When you first try this practice, it feels counter intuitive.  It certainly is different from common strategies, maybe even some you have tried in the past—to ignore the feeling, to deny it, to argue with it, to try to talk yourself out of the feeling.  Saying “hello” is a way of acknowledging the presence of the feeling and recognizing that it has come to you, often without your conscious invitation.  Saying “hello” indicates that you are trying to move toward willingness to consider what the feeling might be trying to tell you.

You can add even more power to your shift by adding a phrase, “I’m sensing…” and then add, “…that a part of me is feeling angry.”

Place a hand on the location in your body where you feel the sensation the most.  Some common places that feelings show up are in your stomach, throat, chest (heart area), neck, shoulders, or head.  If you don’t sense a particular place in your body where the feeling seems to be showing itself, simply place your hand over your heart.  This gesture often has a calming effect.

Listen to what the part of your body or the anger has to say.  Sometimes the feeling will remind you of a situation in your life, past or present, in which you have felt this way before.  Any number of memories, thoughts, feelings, images that come to mind may be part of the message.  Ponder what they might be telling you.

After you’ve listed carefully, you may be able to say, “No wonder I’m sensing part of me is angry.”  This is a way to show compassion to yourself.  Having gone through this process you may be able to respond to your situation in a different way.

Remember you can substitute any discomforting or upsetting feeling for anger.

 

I learned this practice from Ann Weiser Cornell.  Visit her website for fuller explanation and additional resources:  focusingresources.com.

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Spiritual practice:  Celebrate Diversity of Religions To be hospitable, you need to accept pluralism as a natural condition in the world. Celebrate the diversity of the Creation. One particularly valuable spin-off of hospitality is inter-religious dialogue. Spirit speaks in many languages, and this spiritual practice helps us receive these multiple messages. — Henri J. M. Nouwen in Ministry and Spirituality

 

To celebrate the diversity of religions, write out a story in your journal about an encounter with another religion — a conversation with a believer, a visit to a sacred site, attendance at a ritual, or use of a practice — and what you learned from the experience.  If you have the opportunity, share your story with another person.

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Sun, 22 Mar 2015 15:40:35 -0500 http://community.beliefnet.com/pastorbob http://community.beliefnet.com/pastorbob To be hospitable, you need to accept pluralism as a natural condition in the world. Celebrate the diversity of the Creation. One particularly valuable spin-off of hospitality is inter-religious dialogue. Spirit speaks in many languages, and this spiritual practice helps us receive these multiple messages. — Henri J. M. Nouwen in Ministry and Spirituality

 

To celebrate the diversity of religions, write out a story in your journal about an encounter with another religion — a conversation with a believer, a visit to a sacred site, attendance at a ritual, or use of a practice — and what you learned from the experience.  If you have the opportunity, share your story with another person.

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A spiritual practice for this week: See the Light and Shadow Surprisingly, we cannot see light itself

only reflected light.
Even at that light and darkness,
brightness and shadow,
provide the necessary contrast
that make it possible for us to see.
God is only known in the reflection.
You are the reflection!
You are the reflection in all your brightness
and shadow.

I took an art class many years ago. I remember only one repeated line the instructor used: “drawing is made up of light and shadow.” That’s true of seeing too, light and shadow. Look around you. What do you see? Could you see it without light? Could you see it without shadows?

Take a few minutes to write your answers to these questions. What does this exercise tell you about light and shadow in your life? Consider whether you can really appreciate one without the other?

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Sun, 15 Mar 2015 16:13:29 -0500 http://community.beliefnet.com/pastorbob/blog/2015/03/15/a_spiritual_practice_for_this_week:_see_the_light_and_shadow http://community.beliefnet.com/pastorbob/blog/2015/03/15/a_spiritual_practice_for_this_week:_see_the_light_and_shadow Surprisingly, we cannot see light itself

only reflected light.
Even at that light and darkness,
brightness and shadow,
provide the necessary contrast
that make it possible for us to see.
God is only known in the reflection.
You are the reflection!
You are the reflection in all your brightness
and shadow.

I took an art class many years ago. I remember only one repeated line the instructor used: “drawing is made up of light and shadow.” That’s true of seeing too, light and shadow. Look around you. What do you see? Could you see it without light? Could you see it without shadows?

Take a few minutes to write your answers to these questions. What does this exercise tell you about light and shadow in your life? Consider whether you can really appreciate one without the other?

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Spiritual practice: Mid-Course Check on the Lenten Journey At the beginning of Lent, we considered the call of Jesus.

  • Jesus invites us to a way of celebration, meeting and feasting with the humble and poor. Jesus beckons us to a way of risk, letting go of our security.

  • Jesus challenges us to listen to the voices of those who have nothing to lose.

  • Jesus points us to a way of self-giving, where power and status are overturned.

  • Jesus calls us to follow the way of the cross, where despair is transformed by the promise of new life.

Has one of these calls felt significant to you as you take this year’s Lenten journey?  How has the call affected you?

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Sun, 08 Mar 2015 17:26:14 -0500 http://community.beliefnet.com/pastorbob/blog/2015/03/08/spiritual_practice:_mid-course_check_on_the_lenten_journey http://community.beliefnet.com/pastorbob/blog/2015/03/08/spiritual_practice:_mid-course_check_on_the_lenten_journey At the beginning of Lent, we considered the call of Jesus.

  • Jesus invites us to a way of celebration, meeting and feasting with the humble and poor. Jesus beckons us to a way of risk, letting go of our security.

  • Jesus challenges us to listen to the voices of those who have nothing to lose.

  • Jesus points us to a way of self-giving, where power and status are overturned.

  • Jesus calls us to follow the way of the cross, where despair is transformed by the promise of new life.

Has one of these calls felt significant to you as you take this year’s Lenten journey?  How has the call affected you?

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Spiritual Practice: Follow the Way of the Cross Jesus had a vision of a different world order. His central message was that he was bringing the new order into being. “The reign of God is at hand,” is Mark’s way of summarizing Jesus’ message.  The way of the cross is a symbol of Jesus’ commitment to his vision.


Jesus invited his first followers-and by extension us-to share his vision and to bring about this new world order. He also invited individuals to transformation,

to leave behind the security of this world, to place their trust for security and well being in the realm of God.  


During this week spend some time each day with your journal and reflect on these questions:

  • How does Jesus’ alternate world view compare to your view of the world today?

  • In what ways has Jesus brought transformation in your life?  Has the transformation included putting your trust for security in the realm of God?

  • In what ways do you sense Jesus calling you to more fully embrace God’s realm?

  • How do your answers reflect “the way of the cross?”

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Sun, 01 Mar 2015 16:22:57 -0600 http://community.beliefnet.com/pastorbob/blog/2015/03/01/spiritual_practice:_follow_the_way_of_the_cross http://community.beliefnet.com/pastorbob/blog/2015/03/01/spiritual_practice:_follow_the_way_of_the_cross Jesus had a vision of a different world order. His central message was that he was bringing the new order into being. “The reign of God is at hand,” is Mark’s way of summarizing Jesus’ message.  The way of the cross is a symbol of Jesus’ commitment to his vision.


Jesus invited his first followers-and by extension us-to share his vision and to bring about this new world order. He also invited individuals to transformation,

to leave behind the security of this world, to place their trust for security and well being in the realm of God.  


During this week spend some time each day with your journal and reflect on these questions:

  • How does Jesus’ alternate world view compare to your view of the world today?

  • In what ways has Jesus brought transformation in your life?  Has the transformation included putting your trust for security in the realm of God?

  • In what ways do you sense Jesus calling you to more fully embrace God’s realm?

  • How do your answers reflect “the way of the cross?”

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