MY HEART GOES OUT TO WOMEN WHO HAVE 4 KIDS!!! AND I JUST KNOW THAT NO-ONE WILL HELP YOU IN YOUR LIFE LIKE JESUS WOULD!!! NO-ONE!!! I'M WILLING TO TALK ABOUT GOD WITH YOU, IF YOU WANT TOO!!
BECAUSE(THERE ARE FALSE SHEPARDS OUT HERE), I THAT ALL GOD WANTS FROM YOU IS TO GIVE HIM WHATS HIS: HIS KIDS!! YOU ARE JUST THE MOTHER, AND TO RAISE THEM, BUT GOD WILL GIVE YOU'ALL THE INCREASE!!!! THE WORLD WON'T GIVE YOU NOTHING BUT MORE PROBLEMS!!!
GOD/JESUS IS TRYING TO TAKE CARE OF US, THATS WHY HE TOLD US TO DENY OUR OWN SELVES!!! BUT YOU STAY STRONG, AND CONTINUE TO STRIVE FOR JESUS!!!! IT WILL GET HARDER!, BUT THE LATTER END WILL BE WORTH IT, AND A MORE GREATER BLESSING!!!! (REMEMBER THE STORY OF JOB? THAT IS REAL IN OUR LIVES AS WELL!!!!!!!!!! THE DEVIL WILL COME THROUGH WHOEVER IS CLOSE TO YOU, SO ITS BETTER TO STAY CLOSE TO JESUS, THAN TO DO THINGS ON OUR OWN!! JESUS IS YOUR HUSBAND!, ARE YOU CHEATING, SISTA? GIVE GOD ALL THE GLORY AND ALL THE PRAISE, AND WATCH WITH YOUR YES THE SALVATION OF GOD!!!!!!!!!

GOD BLESS YOU, SISTA!!! MY NAME IS DAVID. I SAW YOUR PROFILE, AFTER YOU SAID, YOUR QUICK HELLO TO ME.
IT SAID THAT YOU ARE A CHRISTIAN! THAT YOU ARE DATING SOMEONE YOU LOVE DEARLY AND PRAY TO MARRY IN FUTURE!! OFTEN TIMES I(MYSELF) THINK PEOPLE DON'T KNOW WHAT A CHRISTIAN IS ALL ABOUT!!!
BUT NOT TO PUT YOU DOWN IN ANYWAY! I AM A CHRISTIAN MYSELF(OR A CHILD OF THE MOST HIGH, TRUE & LIVING GOD! THE CREATOR OF HEAVEN & EARTH! THE SAVIOR OF THE WORLD!!!
PEOPLE SAY THAT THEY ARE SAVED ALL THE TIME I ASK THEM; THEN I SAY: WHAT ARE YOU SAVED FROM? NO ANSWER. BUT FROM EXPERIENCE, I KNOW THAT WE OFTEN LOOK FOR OR GET INTO RELATIONSHIPS, AND END UP IN BONDAGE!!!
BECAUSE WE DON'T FOLLOW GODS/JESUS WAYS!, WE LEAVE THE PRESENCE OF GOD AND DO OUR OWN WILL!!! GOD TOLD US: FIRST SEEK THE KINGDOM OF GOD & IT'S RIGHTEOUSNESS, THEN!!, WILL ALL THIS OTHER STUFF BE GIVEN YOU!!!
JESUS TOOK ME TO MY LOWEST POINT IN MY LIFE SO THAT I CAN SEE GOD! THAT WAS NOT LONG AGO; MYBE 2-3 YRS. I'M ONLY 30; STILL YOUNG, BUT THAT IS NOT THE POINT; THE POINT IS THAT, GOD TOOK ME TO MY LOWEST POINT WHEN I WAS IN THE PROJECTS, THEN BROUGHT ME OUT(BUT I WAS STILL DOING BAD!, BUT GODS PROCESS HAD THEN BEGUN!!)
I HAD TO GO TO A HOMELESS SHELTER 1 YR. 1/2, BECAUSE I COULDN'T GET ALONG WITH MY FAMILY(EVIL SPIRITS WAS PRESENT ALL IN ME!), SO I STAY IN THERE FOR AWHILE, AND NEVER COULD FIND A JOB, AND STILL DON'T HAVE ONE!
BUT LET ME EXPLAIN HOW GOOD GOD IS: GOD SAID: FIRST SEEK ME, AND ALL THINGS WILL BE GIVEN YOU(MATTHEW 6:33); EVEN THOUGH I DON'T HAVE A JOB, I HAVE A APARTMENT WITH EVERYTHING! PEOPLE SAY THE BIBLE SAY: IF A MAN DON'T WORK HE DON'T EAT, BUT THEY MUST DON'T UNDERSTAND GOD, BECAUSE I EAT GOOD EVERYDAY OR WHENEVER I EAT, GOD PROVIDES!!!, AND I HAVE NO JOB!
I CHOOSE NOT TO EAT EVERYDAY, BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO ABUSE FOOD, BECAUSE THE CONSEQUENCE COULD BE TO GAIN WEIGHT, OR EATING TO DEATH, OR IT CAN BECOME ADDICTIVE, OR WE CAN LOOK TO FOOD AND NOT GOD/JESUS!!!
YOU SEE WHERE I'M COMING FROM? GOD/JESUS WILL HELP US IN OUR LIFE, AS TRUE BELIEVERS IN HIM!, AND NOT MAN; MAN JUST WANT TO USE YOU, AND TAKE YOU AWAY FROM WHAT YOU SUPPOES TO BE DOING AS A CHILD OF GOD OR A CHRISTIAN!!!
WHEN I SAY MAN, MEANING HUMANKIND OR HUMANBEINGS. GOD GAVE YOU KIDS TO TAKE CARE OF, SO YOU HAVE TO OFFER YOUR KIDS UP TO GOD(AS ABRAHAM DID?), AND GOD WILL HELP YOU TO TAKE CARE OF THEM!! THIS WORLD IS EVIL! THE DEVIL IS IN THIS WORLD, CONTROLING THIS WORLD!
I SEE YOU HAVE TATTOO'S, THEM ARE SCARE'S FROM THE DEVIL! THE DEVIL IS TRYINY TO MARK US UP AND MAKE US; WE REALLY NEED TO LIVE THE BIBLE, AND STOP ACTING AND TALKING; DECEIVING OURSELVES
GOD SAID: IF ANY DESIRE OR WANT TO BE CHRIST-LIKE, LET HIM DENY THEMSELVES(LUKE 9:23,MATTHEW 16:24) SIGNIFIING, THAT ALL THINGS IN THIS LIFE OR WORLD ARE OF THE ENEMY(THE DEVIL!)
PASTORS DON'T TELL US ALL THAT GOD SAY!!! WE NEED TO STAY IN THE BIBLE FOR OURSELVES! GOD WILL GIVE YOU GREAT & WONDERFUL BLESSINGS, IF YOU SACRIFICE TO HIM WHAT HE GAVE YOU!!! LIKE ABRAHAM SACRIFICED HIS CHILD. BUT YOU ALSO HAVE TO KEEP YOUR CHILDREN IN GODS HANDS!, AND GOD WILL DO THE REST FOR YOU!!!
WE SERVE A SERIOUS GOD!! FULL OF PROMISES THAT ARE REAL!!!! BUT WE DON'T DENY OURSELVES, SO WE ARE BEAT UP BY THE DEVIL & HIS ANGELS!!!! GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR FAMILY!!!!

You wondered about pre-marital resources. Check out www.lifeinnovations.com. They are the publishers of Prepare/Enrich materials that many pastors use for pre-marital counseling. Going through their process with a pastor using their computer scored pre-marital inventory-questionaire is very helpful for many couples. One of their books is titled "Empowering Couples" which summarizes much of what is discussed in the process, but does not subsitiute for going through the process with a pastor. Check out their website and you can locate a pastor in your area who has been trained to using the Prepare/Enrich materials.

Blessings to you in your new relationship.