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    You've certainly raised a good point about laughter and its value. In general, (there are exceptions to this and I suppose every rule or belief), laughter can mean that you are enjoying life and since that is a positive statement, it helps your general attitude. I view the modern use of neuroleptics, (prozac etc.)as temporary help for those who cannot find a way to reduce their stress. A rather interesting phenomena before the discovery of these drugs was the fact that some people who were considered to be mentally ill, would laugh continuously with no apparent reason for their laughter. From the prospective of my understanding of fear, it follows that these people were actually trying to self-medicate themselves out of the stress that no one was able to help them with. Kind of like a baby crying for milk in a forest where no one can hear him or her.

    StephenK.Adams
    April 14, 2010
    6:54 PM
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    Stephen . . . I agree with you that fear is an important emotion and underlies all organized religion, politics and culture in general. With respect to laughter, it makes you wonder why our gods don't laugh. The only god that laughs is Buddha but the western deities, are stern, threatening and anal. Maybe they had a bad childhood

    Buggsy
    April 13, 2010
    9:20 AM
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    This Group setting is not unfolding as I envisioned that it would. I sent out numerous personal invitations to individuals asking them to join this Group. Thus far only Dutch777 has done so. I would like to take this opportunity to thank him for doing so. Firstly, because I respect his intellect and secondly, because he has fulfilled a specific psychological necessity for me. Namely, people in general are reluctant to be the first to do something. They feel more at ease if they know that others have led the way. I have spent most of my life in the above category, but I am changing rapidly in my senior years. I have also sent open invitations to the Discuss Catholicism and Discuss Atheism boards. Rather than come over here to join this Group, both of those boards have engaged in lively discussions about the subject of stress on their own specific boards. Should I then slink away in despair at the apparent failure of this Group setting? Absolutely not!! My motivation for starting this Group was to engage people in discussions about this most important topic (stress). In my opening statement, I said that all members of the Group, including myself, would offer advice to each other. Let the chips fall where they may. There are thousands of books on this subject written by authors with letters attached to their names. If I cannot prove that I have some ideas that are of deeper value in this field, that have not been explored sufficiently thus far, then, --- let this Group setting whither and die. Here are the two areas that will allow you to explore the ideas about stress that are being discussed on those sites rather than in this Group setting. Discuss Catholicism --- and then choose the new topic site called, --- Less Stress Discuss Atheism --- and then choose the new topic site called, --- Less Stress I say that the human race has a distorted fear of the truth that must be gradually reduced. I say that my fear of the truth is much less than it is for many people. Here is your chance to prove that I am wrong. Do yourself a favor, as well as myself, --- get involved. Choose where you want to start, on this site or elsewhere, but this topic is far too important to avoid. Let’s make it happen.

    StephenK.Adams
    March 26, 2010
    12:58 PM
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    Hello Dutch: I am all stressed out. Just to prove what I was saying about uncertainty is true, I don't know what the word "arhant" means. I'll find me a dictionary and overcome that uncertainty and viola, there goes the made up stress that I pretended that I have.

    StephenK.Adams
    March 24, 2010
    12:38 PM
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    Hi Dutch Hans Selye coined the term stress to define the feelings that one experiences when the achievements that one is involved in are not going as well as one would like them to be. The higher the level of failure that one is experiencing, the higher becomes the potential for the stress to become overwhelming. At the same time, stress is a highly personal thing; what seems to be unbearable to one person is relatively harmless to someone else. I propose that in most cases one can determine what level of fear one is experiencing in any achievement by the stress that one is feeling. What makes this topic so tantalizingly complicated is the fact that we are always multi-tasking whether we realize it or not. Presently, I am sitting at a large bank of computers at the York University here in Toronto. While I am cncentrating on the words that I am using to compose this message; I am also aware of numerous conversations going on around me in spite of the normal library expectation of quiet. These side effects can affect ones concentration so that what one writes isn't exactly as concise and coherant as one would otherwise like it to be. It can also cause one to make spelling misteakes {:-)}, when a particular word or action by some other person interupts the concentration that one needs to write intelligently. Of course the above scenario represents a relatively simple achievement, but I have included it as an example of how multi-tasking can lead to stress. One method that I use when I am feeling stress is to ask myself what am I uncertain about. In many cases, the simple fact is that stress and uncertainty go hand in hand. Therefore, if one concentrates on what is necessary to reduce the uncertainty in whatever achievement one is involved in, it almost always results in a reduction of stress for the individual in question. Then of course there is the physical stresses that react on the body also, and they must be considered when evaluating the reasons for the level of stress that one is experiencing at any one time. Geez, if I don't shut up real quick, the readers will become too stressed out to read any more of what I am trying to say. :-)

    StephenK.Adams
    March 23, 2010
    10:38 PM
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    Hi Steve: Here I am, a soujourner from the Anglican/Episcopal board who manages stress reasonably well. I'm somewhere between a "placid arhant" and a "nervous nelly"; the median point, I would imagine. It's always a good idea to define terms when discussing issues, otherwise we may all be using the same term but with different understandings of terms, thus making a meeting of the minds impossible. What definition of "stress" are we using? Dutch

    Dutch777
    March 23, 2010
    11:16 AM
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    I am 72 years old. I am 6 ft. 2 with eyes of blue but when I was in my teenage years I had buck teeth, big ears and I was as skinny as a rail. Consequently, I know all about being criticized and embarrassed. For the above reasons and a few others, I built up a massive inferiority complex about myself. My first marriage ended in failure and after a multitude of arguments with my first wife, who is now deceased, I went to the local library to find out how to control my nerves. That specific incident occurred approximately 40 years ago. During that time, I have read a number of brilliant books by authors who poured out their hearts and minds into those books. They are like long lost friends that are rare and dear to me to this day. While I appear to be in love with writing, in reality, it became a compensating factor because I was terrified of speaking in front of more than a few people at a time. Even on the phone, I used to be a nervous wreck. In English class, the teacher used to pick out a student to read to the class. I would be gently shaking my head for the "no" option, when, or if the teacher seemed to be focusing on me to be the next person to read aloud to the class. The compensating factor, which appears in generalized form throughout our personalities, is a prominent defense mechanism for fears that we are unable to overcome. Right now, my fear is that I will never stop writing. -------------------- There, see how easy it can be to overcome some fears. Stay tuned for more proof that when it comes to writing, I never know when enough is enough. :-)

    StephenK.Adams
    March 22, 2010
    4:16 PM
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