Hey,  Wow, you're a mess!  Just kidding.  My wife, Kathie says the same thing.  Every day, she has to start all over again.  But, she says that's not a bad thing.  Actually that's the way you've got to do it.  A well planned out day hardly ever goes just the way you want it to.  But you've got to try every day.  The only sure way to not succeed is to not try.   

  About five years ago she weighed about 200 pounds.  Struggled with it for years, until she found something that worked for her.  In less than a year she lost 60 pounds, and has kept it off.  She can tell you better than I can about how she did it, but I know a little. 

  For starters, don't let yourself get hungry.  When you get hungry, you will eat too much every time.  The trick is to eat the right stuff.  You know the routine, fruits, veggies, whole-wheat bread, etc.  But don't let yourself be hungry.  If you stay hungry all the time, your metabolism will slow down to starvation mode, and everything you eat will be stored in your fat cells.  Trying to stay hungry is the worst thing you can do for yourself.  It never works.  It's not how much you eat, it's what you eat that makes the difference.  You've got to get all the junk food out of the house.  Sure, you might slip up while you're out.  It happens.  But don't stockpile the stuff in your house!  Keep lots of healthy food around to snack on.  And eat.  Kathie can tell you lots more if your interested.  You can get in touch with her at www.firstfitness.com/2bethin

  We could compare notes on ADHD kids, also.  Ours is 24 years old now.  Whew,  What a ride that was!  He still suffers from it, but he does ok.  That's another story altogether.  Give me a shout.  A friend, Tim.       

Tim,

Thank you for your kind answer.  It sounds like Kathy knows indeed about the every-day struggle to losing weight.  I appreciate your giving me a way to get in touch with her.

Your advice on food is very valuable, but for some reason everything and everyone else becomes more important, I mean there's always something to take care of and I end up neglecting myself and doing the very thing you advice me not to:  get hungry and get stuffed.

My two kids suffer from ADHD, my son has more of the AttentionDefficit and my daughter more of the Hyperactivity.  They are great kids, but require lots of attention.  I would love to hear more about your son.

Blessings,

Ileana

Self sabotage is a biggie for most of us . I don't know why i do it half the time, but the other half of the time I do!  We have to arrive at a point where we love ourselves just the way we are today and visualize ourselves at our ideal weight daily. It makes the journey easier I have done it often.  Too often.  It just seems that I have to keep traveling on that road every 5 pounds!

Namaste,

Marion 

i feel just like this. i'll diet for weeks and then i'll binge eat for like three days straight and it's just a visicious cyle i know i'm doing it for a reason but, i haven't figured out that reason yet.

  I try to tell you what my wife, Kathie explained to me.  In our digestive system we all have what is called a candida bacteria.  You may all know this, but it was news to me.    Anyway, she said that it is essential for digestion, and without it you would die.  But what happens when we tend to over-eat like most people do for extended periods of time, like our whole lives, is that the candida bacteria in our digestive system grows to accomodate the over abundance of food.  So with time what we end up with is too much candida bacteria.  This bacteria lives on (drum roll) sugar.  So what happens when we do stop eating so much, or even just start eating healthier is the candidas in our digestive system starts sending signals to our brain that it needs sugar!  That exactly why when you eat a healthy meal, you know the routine, lots of healthy vegies, fruits, lean meat, a little whole-wheat bread, that sort of stuff, and your full but not satisfied... a big slice of pie and icecream would do the trick right?  That's the candidas talking.  I gotta go.  I want to get into this some more.  later.  Tim