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As a stay-at-home mom, I use that phrase all too often.  In fact, when your child is a super-genius, he/she may often be bored to tears because there is nothing to stimulate their ability to absorb information.  It can be equally frustrating for a child when a parent has limited mobility.  

As I write this story, I am struggling to see through the medically induced drowsiness that is my current state of mind.  

In fact, as a result of my injury, when I tell my kids they are "getting on my nerves", it's not just in the metaphorical sense.  I actually experience physical pain. 

Ever since the day of my injury I have known that there were things I would never be able to do again.  Simple tasks were challenging, although you wouldn't know it by looking at me.  

When my children got to a certain age, I could no longer pick them up for fear of exacerbating the nerves in my back.

At the time of my injury, I had gone back to school to finish my Bachelor's in Music. I was working as an independent contractor for the local newspaper and carrying a full load at school.

One day, while I was getting out of the shower, I felt an excruciating pain down my legs and had to be helped out of the shower onto the floor.  After calling my professors to tell them I would not be in class, my husband took me to his Chiropractor, to get a spinal adjustment.

The chiropractor hooked me up to a machine that sends electric shock waves through the affected area of the back that was causing the most trouble and went to work on my spinal alignment.  He explained how the nerves get inflamed in order to protect the spine from further damage.

According to the Mayo Clinic,

The condition, known as Sciatica, refers to pain that radiates throughout the path of the sciatic nerve and its branches — from the back down to the buttocks and legs. It is the longest nerve in the body and runs from the spinal cord to the buttocks and hips and down the back of each leg.

Sciatica is a symptom, not a disorder. The pain of sciatica indicates another problem involving the nerve, such as a herniated disk.  The pain of acute sciatica — which may be quite uncomfortable — usually goes away on its own within a couple of months.

"A couple of months?, I thought.  Well, there goes my 3.6 GPA"

From that moment on, my life was never the same.  There have been few days since then, that I can recall having no pain.  At first it was clear, I needed pain management.  The chiropractor gave me tips on how to numb the pain using ice packs and taking hot showers to calm the nerves.

I have tried to avoid pain medications, and at times I was tempted to give in.  The pain was so intense, I couldn't get up from the floor.  I spent a lot of time on my back, just trying to get comfortable.  I was unable to sleep and eventually went to see my nurse practitioner for a prescription.

Take one every four to six hours as needed for pain.

The instructions on the bottle were clear, but I found myself taking another after only three hours, especially that first day.  Eventually the pain began to recede but it has never completely subsided.

I have only recently come to accept that unless I elect to have surgery to correct the problem, there are just some things I am no longer capable of doing and eventually the pain does all but subside.  It takes time and patience and a little Faith.  In fact, prayer has been a huge help in accepting my situation.

I still have days where I can't function without the pain medication, but those are few and far between, so long as I don't do anything too physically demanding, like building a patio cover, which has precipitated my latest setback.

I am also happy to advocate for chiropractic care in place of pain medication if at all possible, since the chiropractor my husband referred me to is very good at getting me back to my normal, if somewhat altered, routine.

My thanks to Dr. Thomas Soapes

More information on Sciatica*

The pain can vary widely, from a mild ache to a sharp, burning sensation or excruciating discomfort. Sometimes it may feel like a jolt or electric shock. It may be worse when you cough or sneeze, and prolonged sitting can aggravate symptoms. Usually only one lower extremity is affected.

Sciatica symptoms include:

  • Pain. It's especially likely to occur along a path from your low back to your buttock and the back of your thigh and calf.
  • Numbness or muscle weakness along the nerve pathway in your leg or foot. In some cases, you may have pain in one part of your leg and numbness in another.
  • Tingling or a pins-and-needles feeling, often in your toes or part of your foot.
  • A loss of bladder or bowel control. This is a sign of cauda equina syndrome, a rare but serious condition that requires emergency care. If you experience either of these symptoms, seek medical help immediately.

When to see a doctor
Mild sciatica usually goes away given time and patience. Call your doctor if self-care measures fail to ease your symptoms or if your pain lasts longer than a week, is severe or becomes progressively worse. Get immediate medical care if:

  • You experience sudden, severe pain in your low back or leg and numbness or muscle weakness in your leg
  • The pain follows a violent injury, such as a traffic accident
  • You have trouble controlling your bowels or bladder

*Courtesy of the Mayo Clinic

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Thu, 11 Aug 2011 02:13:07 -0500 http://community.beliefnet.com/jolubarsky/blog/2011/08/11/why_the_phrase_gettin_on_my_nerves_has_new_meaning http://community.beliefnet.com/jolubarsky/blog/2011/08/11/why_the_phrase_gettin_on_my_nerves_has_new_meaning How to overcome physical pain without really trying.

As a stay-at-home mom, I use that phrase all too often.  In fact, when your child is a super-genius, he/she may often be bored to tears because there is nothing to stimulate their ability to absorb information.  It can be equally frustrating for a child when a parent has limited mobility.  

As I write this story, I am struggling to see through the medically induced drowsiness that is my current state of mind.  

In fact, as a result of my injury, when I tell my kids they are "getting on my nerves", it's not just in the metaphorical sense.  I actually experience physical pain. 

Ever since the day of my injury I have known that there were things I would never be able to do again.  Simple tasks were challenging, although you wouldn't know it by looking at me.  

When my children got to a certain age, I could no longer pick them up for fear of exacerbating the nerves in my back.

At the time of my injury, I had gone back to school to finish my Bachelor's in Music. I was working as an independent contractor for the local newspaper and carrying a full load at school.

One day, while I was getting out of the shower, I felt an excruciating pain down my legs and had to be helped out of the shower onto the floor.  After calling my professors to tell them I would not be in class, my husband took me to his Chiropractor, to get a spinal adjustment.

The chiropractor hooked me up to a machine that sends electric shock waves through the affected area of the back that was causing the most trouble and went to work on my spinal alignment.  He explained how the nerves get inflamed in order to protect the spine from further damage.

According to the Mayo Clinic,

The condition, known as Sciatica, refers to pain that radiates throughout the path of the sciatic nerve and its branches — from the back down to the buttocks and legs. It is the longest nerve in the body and runs from the spinal cord to the buttocks and hips and down the back of each leg.

Sciatica is a symptom, not a disorder. The pain of sciatica indicates another problem involving the nerve, such as a herniated disk.  The pain of acute sciatica — which may be quite uncomfortable — usually goes away on its own within a couple of months.

"A couple of months?, I thought.  Well, there goes my 3.6 GPA"

From that moment on, my life was never the same.  There have been few days since then, that I can recall having no pain.  At first it was clear, I needed pain management.  The chiropractor gave me tips on how to numb the pain using ice packs and taking hot showers to calm the nerves.

I have tried to avoid pain medications, and at times I was tempted to give in.  The pain was so intense, I couldn't get up from the floor.  I spent a lot of time on my back, just trying to get comfortable.  I was unable to sleep and eventually went to see my nurse practitioner for a prescription.

Take one every four to six hours as needed for pain.

The instructions on the bottle were clear, but I found myself taking another after only three hours, especially that first day.  Eventually the pain began to recede but it has never completely subsided.

I have only recently come to accept that unless I elect to have surgery to correct the problem, there are just some things I am no longer capable of doing and eventually the pain does all but subside.  It takes time and patience and a little Faith.  In fact, prayer has been a huge help in accepting my situation.

I still have days where I can't function without the pain medication, but those are few and far between, so long as I don't do anything too physically demanding, like building a patio cover, which has precipitated my latest setback.

I am also happy to advocate for chiropractic care in place of pain medication if at all possible, since the chiropractor my husband referred me to is very good at getting me back to my normal, if somewhat altered, routine.

My thanks to Dr. Thomas Soapes

More information on Sciatica*

The pain can vary widely, from a mild ache to a sharp, burning sensation or excruciating discomfort. Sometimes it may feel like a jolt or electric shock. It may be worse when you cough or sneeze, and prolonged sitting can aggravate symptoms. Usually only one lower extremity is affected.

Sciatica symptoms include:

  • Pain. It's especially likely to occur along a path from your low back to your buttock and the back of your thigh and calf.
  • Numbness or muscle weakness along the nerve pathway in your leg or foot. In some cases, you may have pain in one part of your leg and numbness in another.
  • Tingling or a pins-and-needles feeling, often in your toes or part of your foot.
  • A loss of bladder or bowel control. This is a sign of cauda equina syndrome, a rare but serious condition that requires emergency care. If you experience either of these symptoms, seek medical help immediately.

When to see a doctor
Mild sciatica usually goes away given time and patience. Call your doctor if self-care measures fail to ease your symptoms or if your pain lasts longer than a week, is severe or becomes progressively worse. Get immediate medical care if:

  • You experience sudden, severe pain in your low back or leg and numbness or muscle weakness in your leg
  • The pain follows a violent injury, such as a traffic accident
  • You have trouble controlling your bowels or bladder

*Courtesy of the Mayo Clinic

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Health Matters in Marriage part 2 After attending several training sessions together for Pre-cana instruction, my husband seems to be losing perspective.  Every time he shows a little aprehension, I ask him if he's ready to give up.  What he doesn't realize is that if it weren't for the Healthy Marriages program, I would have already done that.  But men and women are different. 

We learned that at a recent seminar given by Bill and Pam Farrell, through the Better Marriages initiative. It was titled, appropriately: Men are Like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti

Although getting us there was a huge task, especially on date night, we laughed and enjoyed ourselves for probably the first time in a month.  I think we realized we weren't the only ones, and that there's a reason we have been mis-communicating.  We also realized how differently men and women think.  Since attending this seminar, we have a better appreciation for each other, and I think we're able to laugh at our differences rather than argue about them as a result. While I realize that knowing that will hardly solve all the problems in our marriage, it does help us to put things in perspective.

Below is a preview of the book and what it's all about:

How did you come up with the title "Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti"? from Bill & Pam Farrel on Vimeo.

 

click here to order "Men are Like Waffles, Women are Like Spaghetti"

 

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Thu, 28 Jul 2011 16:17:38 -0500 http://community.beliefnet.com/jolubarsky/blog/2011/07/28/health_matters_in_marriage_part_2 http://community.beliefnet.com/jolubarsky/blog/2011/07/28/health_matters_in_marriage_part_2 After attending several training sessions together for Pre-cana instruction, my husband seems to be losing perspective.  Every time he shows a little aprehension, I ask him if he's ready to give up.  What he doesn't realize is that if it weren't for the Healthy Marriages program, I would have already done that.  But men and women are different. 

We learned that at a recent seminar given by Bill and Pam Farrell, through the Better Marriages initiative. It was titled, appropriately: Men are Like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti

Although getting us there was a huge task, especially on date night, we laughed and enjoyed ourselves for probably the first time in a month.  I think we realized we weren't the only ones, and that there's a reason we have been mis-communicating.  We also realized how differently men and women think.  Since attending this seminar, we have a better appreciation for each other, and I think we're able to laugh at our differences rather than argue about them as a result. While I realize that knowing that will hardly solve all the problems in our marriage, it does help us to put things in perspective.

Below is a preview of the book and what it's all about:

How did you come up with the title "Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti"? from Bill & Pam Farrel on Vimeo.

 

click here to order "Men are Like Waffles, Women are Like Spaghetti"

 

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Divine Providence    When our second child was just a few months old, we went out for ice cream after having a yard sale on a hot summer day. 

In Las Vegas, you have to be especially careful when going out on a Saturday night.  We were living in Henderson and the ice cream shop was just a few blocks away.  Since we were a long way from the Las Vegas Strip, however, I didn't give it a second thought.  In fact, I was relieved to be getting out of the house for a while.

We enjoyed our ice cream and watched our oldest son play while the baby had a much needed nap.  

On our way home, we were stopped at a red light and when the light changed, I noticed a black SUV speeding in the other direction.  I watched as the driver hit the brakes and put his vehicle in reverse.  We were about 1/4 mile away from our house.  He then proceeded to turn around and head in our direction.  I was frightened by this so I told my husband to pull over and let the man pass.  By this time, the man driving the SUV had caught the attention of several other vehicles that were going in the same direction as we were.  Not knowing what he was about to do, they all stopped, allowing him the freedom to head directly toward us.  At this point I put my hand on my husband's shoulder and said: "babe, pull over, please, just let him pass..."

Realizing that we had two small children in the vehicle, my husband complied, and I thought the man would simply speed right by us and we'd be on our way.  That's when he pulled along side us and pulled out a gun and pointed it in our direction.

 I don't remember much of what happened after that, but I know that we ended up driving up the Boulder HWY,speeding through traffic lights and heading toward the nearest police station as the 911 operator had instructed me to do.

The man was never charged with anything since aiming and pointing is a misdemeanor in Nevada.

I was traumatized by the whole event and became somewhat of a recluse for a while after that, but I will never forget how thankful I was that we were all unharmed.  My life could have been destroyed that day if not for the Grace of God.  

Jesus has carried me through so many things and I am so humbled by his Love and Grace.  

     Every day, I thank Him for giving us the Blessing of another child not long after that incident and praise His name for all the wonderful things in life that so many of us take for granted.

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Wed, 27 Jul 2011 23:00:37 -0500 http://community.beliefnet.com/jolubarsky/blog/2011/07/27/divine_providence http://community.beliefnet.com/jolubarsky/blog/2011/07/27/divine_providence    When our second child was just a few months old, we went out for ice cream after having a yard sale on a hot summer day. 

In Las Vegas, you have to be especially careful when going out on a Saturday night.  We were living in Henderson and the ice cream shop was just a few blocks away.  Since we were a long way from the Las Vegas Strip, however, I didn't give it a second thought.  In fact, I was relieved to be getting out of the house for a while.

We enjoyed our ice cream and watched our oldest son play while the baby had a much needed nap.  

On our way home, we were stopped at a red light and when the light changed, I noticed a black SUV speeding in the other direction.  I watched as the driver hit the brakes and put his vehicle in reverse.  We were about 1/4 mile away from our house.  He then proceeded to turn around and head in our direction.  I was frightened by this so I told my husband to pull over and let the man pass.  By this time, the man driving the SUV had caught the attention of several other vehicles that were going in the same direction as we were.  Not knowing what he was about to do, they all stopped, allowing him the freedom to head directly toward us.  At this point I put my hand on my husband's shoulder and said: "babe, pull over, please, just let him pass..."

Realizing that we had two small children in the vehicle, my husband complied, and I thought the man would simply speed right by us and we'd be on our way.  That's when he pulled along side us and pulled out a gun and pointed it in our direction.

 I don't remember much of what happened after that, but I know that we ended up driving up the Boulder HWY,speeding through traffic lights and heading toward the nearest police station as the 911 operator had instructed me to do.

The man was never charged with anything since aiming and pointing is a misdemeanor in Nevada.

I was traumatized by the whole event and became somewhat of a recluse for a while after that, but I will never forget how thankful I was that we were all unharmed.  My life could have been destroyed that day if not for the Grace of God.  

Jesus has carried me through so many things and I am so humbled by his Love and Grace.  

     Every day, I thank Him for giving us the Blessing of another child not long after that incident and praise His name for all the wonderful things in life that so many of us take for granted.

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Words for My Circle of Friends I'm happy to announce I will begin a new chapter in my life very soon as the new music director of the choir for the saturday evening mass at my church.  At the same time, I am humbled by the fact that I have found a way to use my gifts as I have never done before.  I am also humbled to have so much support from those around me in my new endeavor.  So, at this moment, I would simply like to thank those people who have encouraged me to pursue my dreams. However little it may seem, it was during those times when I was lowest that my friends gave me encouraging words and lifted me up in prayer.  I am so blessed to have a circle of friends who, by their faith, have brought me to this moment in my life.

For the longest time, I have felt like something was missing from my life.  I had taken time away from my career to be a wife and mother.  Unfortunately, I had very little time for my church community  While I feel that my focus is still on my huband and children, I now have more freedom to give my time and talents to my parish as the children grow.  

I haven't been able to participate in ministry since my first child was born.  He is seven now and is becoming more independent.  My four year old and three year old are now comfortable enough with their grandma that I am able to commit more time to my music.  

That being said, I am so thankful to those of you who have supported me through the difficult times in my life.  I feel more confident than ever in my faith and am so thankful to those of you that have helped me to arrive at this moment in time.  I praise God for you and the kind words you have all given me. Thanks to you all, I will continue in faith as I begin this new chapter.

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Tue, 26 Jul 2011 22:00:09 -0500 http://community.beliefnet.com/jolubarsky/blog/2011/07/26/words_for_my_circle_of_friends http://community.beliefnet.com/jolubarsky/blog/2011/07/26/words_for_my_circle_of_friends I'm happy to announce I will begin a new chapter in my life very soon as the new music director of the choir for the saturday evening mass at my church.  At the same time, I am humbled by the fact that I have found a way to use my gifts as I have never done before.  I am also humbled to have so much support from those around me in my new endeavor.  So, at this moment, I would simply like to thank those people who have encouraged me to pursue my dreams. However little it may seem, it was during those times when I was lowest that my friends gave me encouraging words and lifted me up in prayer.  I am so blessed to have a circle of friends who, by their faith, have brought me to this moment in my life.

For the longest time, I have felt like something was missing from my life.  I had taken time away from my career to be a wife and mother.  Unfortunately, I had very little time for my church community  While I feel that my focus is still on my huband and children, I now have more freedom to give my time and talents to my parish as the children grow.  

I haven't been able to participate in ministry since my first child was born.  He is seven now and is becoming more independent.  My four year old and three year old are now comfortable enough with their grandma that I am able to commit more time to my music.  

That being said, I am so thankful to those of you who have supported me through the difficult times in my life.  I feel more confident than ever in my faith and am so thankful to those of you that have helped me to arrive at this moment in time.  I praise God for you and the kind words you have all given me. Thanks to you all, I will continue in faith as I begin this new chapter.

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Discernment How do we know what God has planned for us if we don't answer the call to service?

                                

For weeks now, our parish has been having trouble finding a new music minister for the saturday evening mass.  So the choir I sing in has been doing double duty until someone comes forward to take the reigns.  I remember a time when the priest and deacon had asked if I would fill in for that precise service several years ago.  At the time, I was unable to commit to the task because of my work situation, but I have always wondered if it was truly where I was supposed to be.  

So, what is discernment? How do we know where God can use our talents best. When do we know we've become so wrapped up in our own lives, that God's will no longer applies?  The fact is that we allow life to get in the way of God's will for us more often than not.  For whatever reason, be it financial, professional or personal, when we are called to serve God's people, we either answer the call or we don't.  I know it was not an opportune time several years ago because I lacked the confidence and free time to fully commit my time and talents to my parish.  And while I still lack the amount of free time I would need to commit to the endeavor, I feel God calling me to be the one since no-one else has volunteered.  I know, it sounds as if I am unhappy about my decision.  I am still filled with fear of the unknown, but I am confident in God.  After all, He most certainly knows what He is doing.  Furthermore, I have been trying to convince my fellow choir members that I most certainly know what I am doing, so how can I possibly deny the call to serve Him a second time.

 

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Mon, 25 Jul 2011 19:16:32 -0500 http://community.beliefnet.com/jolubarsky/blog/2011/07/25/discernment http://community.beliefnet.com/jolubarsky/blog/2011/07/25/discernment How do we know what God has planned for us if we don't answer the call to service?

                                

For weeks now, our parish has been having trouble finding a new music minister for the saturday evening mass.  So the choir I sing in has been doing double duty until someone comes forward to take the reigns.  I remember a time when the priest and deacon had asked if I would fill in for that precise service several years ago.  At the time, I was unable to commit to the task because of my work situation, but I have always wondered if it was truly where I was supposed to be.  

So, what is discernment? How do we know where God can use our talents best. When do we know we've become so wrapped up in our own lives, that God's will no longer applies?  The fact is that we allow life to get in the way of God's will for us more often than not.  For whatever reason, be it financial, professional or personal, when we are called to serve God's people, we either answer the call or we don't.  I know it was not an opportune time several years ago because I lacked the confidence and free time to fully commit my time and talents to my parish.  And while I still lack the amount of free time I would need to commit to the endeavor, I feel God calling me to be the one since no-one else has volunteered.  I know, it sounds as if I am unhappy about my decision.  I am still filled with fear of the unknown, but I am confident in God.  After all, He most certainly knows what He is doing.  Furthermore, I have been trying to convince my fellow choir members that I most certainly know what I am doing, so how can I possibly deny the call to serve Him a second time.

 

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