When we experience misfortune, when we encounter
              adversity, we should not be embittered, we should not try to affix
              the responsibility on others, but inquire into the nature of the
              condition of the cause, which may have brought about the misfortune.
             

Analyze the effects intelligently for the determination of the cause.
              At least with an open mind, accept the effects as a lesson, as one
              possibly teaching tolerance or humility.

Favorable and unfavorable
              events principally lie in our own acts as causes, which we alone
              can institute.

Each of our acts is a moving positive cause, and
              acts upon the passive and be negative factors of our environment,
              as objects, events, and conditions.

In contrast to ourselves, all
              else is a negative cause.

WE are the prime mover, the active cause,
              and the two - ourselves and our environment - produce the effects,
              and the effects partake always of the nature of their causes.

If
              we are conscious of this, we will be cautious in acting upon things
              and conditions which surround us."

From a recent experience I learned so much about negativity and why I do not want to live there in my life.  One of the things that came to mind was this quote (paraphrased) from Shakespeare:  All the world is a stage and we each have a part to play.

When disruption happens in our lives, examine what is my part to play and make any changes necessary to fix your own part.  After all, you can only change self.  It is necessary for all parties to do the same.  And then again...how many do? 

Playing a blame game stymies the life of the individual.  To remain 'stuck' in all was someone else's fault is not moving forward in your own right.   I choose progress onto the next experiences of life.

God bless, J 

Yes, I agree with you,  how a person handles a situations shows the character of that person. I think a person with a straight backbone can find gentle non threatening words for many to get them perhaps or perhaps not to think a little unless the other person is totally stupid and stupid to me equates to living in the unconsicous.

Yesterday, I felt angry for the first time in a while, at work
against a fellow employee.  I have read that anger and fear are mutually exclusive so when we are angry it is hard to feel love in our hearts.And yet you still accepted the challenge of stickingup up for yourself.  Yea!

Later I confronted her and told her why I
was angry at her so she could better understand the situation. Want to share how she responded, if she responded, what result you think might be possible on her  end?

Then I
learned that she also caused several other employees the same angst by
her deeds yet those individuals did not let her know what she had done
to them.WhenWhen are people going to wake up?  

volved in her decision making.   What if she had gotten defensive (I'm conjecturizing she didn't)  and tried to make you responsibler for the way she actded?
 

I can only control my acts or
emotions in a conjecturinghopefully successfully convey them tresponsibleparty.  The otheracted is then responsible for their part.  I am
the only one who can make mySelf happy.  Today is another day!!!!  Marcia, this is so true,   it's truly wonderful to hear this from anyone.  So  many unconscious acting people, which still does include myself more than I care to say,live within their defense systems and real communication of any kind is just unavialable, and it is a lonely place to be.

Blessings and gentle hugs to all,

Angell.  

  

I wish I could say she responded to me Angell but unfortunately she did not - she just walked on!  Is she one of your 'unconscious acting persons' - good coin there! I too am appalled at the people around me who don't stand up for themselves, who act on impulse.  Have you ever looked in their eyes, sometimes I wonder who is there?  She had asked me for a ride home before this happened, later I noticed she had gotten a ride from someone else!  Have a great day everyone I've got to get ready for work, new dramas.  I have just formed a Group on Gather called A Day in MY Life....which invites everyone to tell about your day, your career, what you would like people to know about your job!  I welcome anyone.  This Group is a result of that aforementioned day,  everyone has a tale to tell.  Be Blessed in all you Do Today - Marcia

That's the name of my Life - Comedy Central.   I come in contact with so many intersting people!   Thanks for the laugh. Spirittalk, Dovemom where are you? I find it a release to tell about my day at work, on the phone or in a line at Wal-Mart. Angellface keep in touch!  Smiles to all.