Baby Mama Drama
Very simply, Abraham and Sarah his wife were passed child bearing age but God had promised them a son. Being impatient, as we humans are, and as was a custom then, Hagar tried to hurry things along. She told Abraham to take her handmaid, Hagar and have a son by her, which Abraham did. The son produced was named Ishmael but he was not the promised Son. In time, Sarah did conceive and bear a son, Issac, which was the promised son. Sarah became jealous of Hagar and asked Abraham to get rid of him and his mother Hagar, which Abraham did. Issac was to father Jacob and Jacob was to father twelve sons, some of these to were by handmaids. These twelve sons were the twelve patriarchs, having the twelve tribes of Israel or the nation of Israel. However, Ishmael also had twelve sons that became large tribes but these were always the enemy of Israel and gave Israel much trouble over time. Just goes to show that our plans always get us in trouble when they don’t line up to God’s original plans for our lives.
Hagar came from Egypt, and was never fully accepted into the tribal group.
Sarah may have been a shortened version of Ummu-sarra, which means ‘the great mother is queen’.
Abraham means ‘ancestor of many people’.
Ishmael means ‘God hears’. Twice when Ishmael’s mother Hagar is abandoned by others, God hears her and helps her.
At the beginning of the story of Hagar, Sarah and Abraham are called Sarai and Abraham; later in the story, God makes a promise to them, a covenant, and their names change to Sarah and Abraham. To minimize confusion, I have used 'Sarah' and 'Abraham' throughout
This story is specifically for those who say that the bible is no longer relevant today. And the bible doesn’t speak to today’s generation. It’s old school.
These verses in the bible would read like a tv soap opera or reality show.
Home girl decides she wants her girlfriend to be surrogate mother for her because she was just tired of waiting on God to give her a baby has he had promised. You know how we get!
Let me rephrase that you know how I get. I can’t wait. I want what I want and I want it now God! What’s up? You know I want a husband. What’s taking you so long?
She had the same problem “the I can’t waits.” Yes, God and his angels had showed up on the scene and promised Abram and Sarai a baby by the next year.
Sarai was probably like me “O.k, God it’s been 9 1/2 months I’m tired of waiting. Then you start thinking, maybe I heard God wrong.
Like Tyler Perry’s character Madea says “God, takes to long sometime.”
And because of Sarai impatience she told Abram that he could have her maid as a surrogate mother for her.
So, Abram being the typical man obliges her. He goes in to her (they have sex) and she becomes pregnant and has a baby boy named Ishmael.
After Hagar has Ishmael she starts mistreating Sarai. Hagar gets an attitude because now she has a baby by Sarai husband and she knows Sarai doesn’t believe that she can have a baby.
Yeah! Baby Momma Drama!
How many of us have had children and now have a baby daddy’s cause we couldn’t wait on God to send the right man into our lives.
When we take matters into our own hands we usually make a mess that we then need God to help us straighten out.
Like Sarai did with Hagar. Things got worse for Hagar because of the attitude and the way that she started treating Sarai after she had Ishmael. Sarai told Abraham to get rid of her.
Now, if you were ever in a relationship and have had a baby by a man and then he finds another woman and tells you to get lost you know how Hagar felt.
Yep! She was devastated. How could you do this to me?
But listen, even though all of this has happened to her and she felt devastated and wanted to die God still had a plan for her.
So listen sistas, if your going through the same situation and your feeling like you can’t make it “YOU CAN.’
Don’t give up! God has a plan! The word of God says “What was meant for bad for you God will work out for you good.”
He knew what was was going to happen to you before you were in your Mother’s womb. This is not knew information to God.
And if you will read the end of the story not only did God bless Hagar but he used her son Ishmael and made a great nation from him.
Your child is not a mistake. Your situation is not hopeless but your faith in God and let him work it out.
Isaiah 43:3 says “God will be your husband.” Let God be the husband for you. God is called the husbandman because he knows how to take care of you. Here’s some unique qualities that God has that you can’t get in most men.
He is interested in the intricate details of your life
He knows what you need before you ask
He there at your beckon call
He never gets tired of you
He never holds your past mistakes over your head
Your important to him at all times
And listen to what he says when you cry “Is that my baby cryin’ let me go see what she needs.”
Honey! I don’t know about you but that’s my kind of man! Now that's the line I'll be standing in! Sha ba!
Here’s a prayer that I used and that you may find helpful.
Please untie the nots that are in my mind, my heart and my life.
Remove the have nots, can nots and do nots that I have on my mind.
Erase the will knots, may nots, might nots that may find a home in my heart.
Release me from the could nots, should nots, would nots that obstruct my life.
And most of all Dear God,
I ask that you remove from mind, my head, my heart and my life all of the am nots that I have allowed to hold me back.
Especially the thought that I am not good enough.
I ask you to do a great work in me and remove all of the nots immediately so that I may do your will.
I seal this prayer in the precious blood of Jesus.
Below is the story in full detail if you would like to read it.
1 Now Sarai Abram's wife bare him no children: and she had an handmaid, an Egyptian, whose name was Hagar.
1 - [Polygamy] Sarai (later "Sarah") doubted and made the proposition to her husband who, like Adam, fell into sin. Then in verse 5, the parallel continues. Sarai blamed Abram.
5 And Sarai said unto Abram, My wrong be upon thee: I have given my maid into thy bosom; and when she saw that she had conceived, I was despised in her eyes: the LORD judge between me and thee.
6 - In thy hand The Mesopotamian code of Hammurabi allowed a concubine who claimed equality to be marked as a slave but not sold.
7 ¶ And the angel of the LORD found her by a fountain of water in the wilderness, by the fountain in the way to Shur.
7 - Angel of the Lord Was this the Messiah? I believe so considering v10 and v13.
10 And the angel of the LORD said unto her, I will multiply thy seed exceedingly, that it shall not be numbered for multitude.
To a great degree this prophecy continues to be fulfilled. A large part of the Christian church today mistakenly assumes that the Arabic people are to be dealt with harshly. I don't believe this is God's plan any more than it was for Sarai.
.13 And she called the name of the LORD that spake unto her, Thou God seest me: for she said, Have I also here looked after him that seeth me?
The Angel named the child and Hagar names the Angel. It was at least her name for Him.
15 And Hagar bare Abram a son: and Abram called his son's name, which Hagar bare, Ishmael.