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2 years ago  ::  Jun 15, 2012 - 9:05PM #1
Ironhold
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An education specialist in the UK feels that the nation needs to offer classes for high school girls in order to teach them how to find husbands.

*Her* logic (yes, this is a woman proposing this) is that instead of merely encouraging girls to "marry up", they need to find spouses who are willing to back them up with whatever they're looking to do.

Just how bad is society nowadays that "finding a husband" has to be an academic subject?
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2 years ago  ::  Jun 15, 2012 - 9:21PM #2
Erey
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I lost my post.  Basically it is an interesting subject.  Society has undergone tremendous change.  I do think whom you choose to have children with and hopefully marry is of tremendous importance.  It can bring you joy and strength or bitterness and cronic drama. 


alot of the women of my generation threw off the boundaries and the wisdom of their mother's generation and became vunerable and often emotionaly crushed.  I don't know if my peers are that up to the task of imparting wisdom for their daughters on how to make smart marriage choices. 


Maybe school is inappropriate for a venue but I do think it needs to be a converesation young women should be having. 

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2 years ago  ::  Jun 16, 2012 - 12:35AM #3
solfeggio
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If such classes ever do come to pass (which I doubt), maybe it would be called Husband Hunting 101 and maybe they would use this book:


www.amazon.co.uk/THE-HUSBAND-HUNTERS-ebo...


Will the women be given an MRS degree? 


And will the boys be given the option of taking a wife-hunting class?


 

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2 years ago  ::  Jun 16, 2012 - 3:42PM #4
IreneAdler
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From article: But Fraser argues that women can have it all as much as any man can. We just have to make sure the partners we choose are respectful and supportive of this:


"They should be cheerleaders and take pride in their wife's career as they do in their own," Fraser said.


 


I can’t help but view this as a knock against the gents.


It’s the husband’s fault should the wife not realize all her dreams of career, family, etc.?? This article suggests this is the case. Gents are somehow detrimental to a woman’s life plans – unless she selects the “right” gent. And, of course, this course will tell ya how. I think the men in the audience ought to be up in arms over the implication.


 


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2 years ago  ::  Jun 16, 2012 - 4:00PM #5
BDboy
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Jun 15, 2012 -- 9:05PM, Ironhold wrote:

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An education specialist in the UK feels that the nation needs to offer classes for high school girls in order to teach them how to find husbands.

*Her* logic (yes, this is a woman proposing this) is that instead of merely encouraging girls to "marry up", they need to find spouses who are willing to back them up with whatever they're looking to do.

Just how bad is society nowadays that "finding a husband" has to be an academic subject?





>>>>>>>> Maybe the UK "Specialist" said it loud. But ladies (And men) do hunt for their mates. That is a fact of life.


A lot of University going women (And some men) are looking for their "Perfect mate" beside getting a certificate. There is nothing new in it.


However should we just offer "Wisdom" to young onces or offer a formal course, I am not so sure about offering a course on it.

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2 years ago  ::  Jun 17, 2012 - 8:25PM #6
CharikIeia
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Jun 16, 2012 -- 4:00PM, BDboy wrote:


However should we just offer "Wisdom" to young onces or offer a formal course, I am not so sure about offering a course on it.



I don't think there is much wisdom in "offering wisdom".


A course seems like a very good idea to me. With loads of empirical data on marriage and partnership, determinants of partnership stability, everything science knows, from biology, psychology, sociology, demography, economics.


Why should we let one of the most important decisions in our lifetime be taken by random noise, grandma's stories, and primal instinct?

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2 years ago  ::  Jun 17, 2012 - 10:08PM #7
jane2
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Jun 17, 2012 -- 8:25PM, CharikIeia wrote:


Jun 16, 2012 -- 4:00PM, BDboy wrote:


However should we just offer "Wisdom" to young onces or offer a formal course, I am not so sure about offering a course on it.



I don't think there is much wisdom in "offering wisdom".


A course seems like a very good idea to me. With loads of empirical data on marriage and partnership, determinants of partnership stability, everything science knows, from biology, psychology, sociology, demography, economics.


Why should we let one of the most important decisions in our lifetime be taken by random noise, grandma's stories, and primal instinct?




Fifty years ago those who attended private school and private universities in the US were introduced only to those who attended similar schools in the northeastern USA. The elite met the elite..................


A fellow poster pointed this out to me sometime ago.




 

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2 years ago  ::  Jun 17, 2012 - 11:13PM #8
Roodog
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The general rule is that men marry up because they do not buckle down to really making a living until they have a damned good reason to do so.(like providing for a wife and family) If I had not married, I would still be living in a one bedroom apartment.


If Women are encouraged to marry up, then there will be greater numbers of  both men and women who never marry.


If you have your sights set on Mr. Perfect you will never meet Mr. Right.

For those who have faith, no explanation is neccessary.
For those who have no faith, no explanation is possible.

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If one turns his ear from hearing the Law, even his prayer is an abomination. Proverbs 28:9
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2 years ago  ::  Jun 18, 2012 - 11:16AM #9
BDboy
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Jun 17, 2012 -- 8:25PM, CharikIeia wrote:


Jun 16, 2012 -- 4:00PM, BDboy wrote:


However should we just offer "Wisdom" to young onces or offer a formal course, I am not so sure about offering a course on it.



I don't think there is much wisdom in "offering wisdom".


A course seems like a very good idea to me. With loads of empirical data on marriage and partnership, determinants of partnership stability, everything science knows, from biology, psychology, sociology, demography, economics.


Why should we let one of the most important decisions in our lifetime be taken by random noise, grandma's stories, and primal instinct?




 


>>>>>>>> Ok Chari. You changed my opinion on this one. :-)

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2 years ago  ::  Jun 18, 2012 - 1:10PM #10
LeahOne
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Don't ask me!!!!  I based my decision on who to marry on the fact that the guy got down on the floor at a party to play with the hosts' baby.  OK, I already thought the fellow was cute and nice - he was a friend of my boyfriend and one of my girlfriends had a crush on him! - but that bit with the baby just did it for me.....  I fell in love on the spot!


 

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