Glad your daughter had a fun party, Steve. All in all, as a parent your most important responsibility is to her, and not to the kid who pulls her hair but might feel left out if (s)he's not invited.

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Funny but my girl says that no one even talked about it a school after it was over.
Seems it's the adults who are placing this notion of hurt feelings on kids who really couldnt care less...seems they are more resillient than their parents believe they are.[/QUOTE]

I agree completely. I think we as adults are putting a lot more emphasis on the ill effects of not being invited to a birthday party. And kids as young as six years old are very rarely as socially competitive as we remember from junior high, when the kinds of things Marie and others mentioned are more likely to take place.

And has anyone thought of this? Kids who really are desperate to socially belittle others are going to do it whether or not invitations are handed out in school. It's just as easy for them to come to school and talk about invitations they received by mail, e-mail, or phone. It isn't hard for them to find out (or guess) who was and was not invited. Or maybe they won't make fun of kids for not being invited to the party - it'll be about their clothes, or their grades, or their interests, something far more integral to their personalities. We'll never remove all the ways kids can make each other feel hurt or left out. Isn't it far better to teach them that it's wrong to put others down?