abc-anna wrote:

Thank you for your concern and help...

The friend did mean to insult me or reduce only try to help, he is not exactly the most educated person i know when it comes to Islam but never the less I had to be sure.

Alhamdulillah your words have helped me.
Do you know of any Hadith or verses from the Qu'ran that could confirm what you have told me.

Again Thank you, May Allah Be Pleased With You
Salam,
Anna

Assalamu `alaykum,

What your friend told you is not true.  You can get married even if you had sex outside of marriage.

Also remember that when we sincerely repent, and Allah swt accepts our repentance, then our sins are forgiven and "erased".

So Alhamdulillah, as sazaj said... God is the Most Merciful, The Loving, The forgiving.

Just one note of caution... many times when we're "in love", we forget to discuss things that are important. Have you discussed with him.. (these are just examples)...

a. Whether he would ever want to take a second, third wife? You should have a clause written in your marriage contract about this.
b. How does he feel about you working/studying (if you wish to do so)... before and after children?
c. How will the household chores be divided?
d. If he will delegate the right of divorce to you as well? (in Islam, the man has the default right to divorce unilaterally. If you want to have that right as well, he needs to write in in the contract)
e. How will decisions be decided in your household, who will have "the last word", what will be your "areas", and what will be "his areas", etc?

I will be posting something that my dear Sh. Faraz Rabbani forwarded once which is "100 Questions to ask before getting married". Insha'Allah it will be beneficial :)

All the best,
Ceren