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Switch to Forum Live View Aging and the capacity to forgive: Something to look forward to!
1 year ago  ::  Apr 18, 2012 - 7:18PM #1
Nino0814
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Here is an interesting article in Psychology Today about the increase in our capacity to forgive as we age: www.psychologytoday.com/blog/ulterior-mo...

Does your experience confirm this article's claim?

I hope its true! 

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1 year ago  ::  Apr 18, 2012 - 10:22PM #2
JimRigas
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Think about being 80 years old and looking back on your life right now. Ask yourself whether the bad thing that just happened will really matter after all of those years have gone by.


I can do that.  I am almost two years away from that age.  First of all when I look back at my life all I can see is a bunch of mistakes that are beyond repair.  So one more or less bad thing, what is the difference?  It certainly isn't worth being angry at somebody because of it.

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1 year ago  ::  Apr 18, 2012 - 10:34PM #3
journeying
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I'm not quite 72 but I learned something from my stepgrandmother years ago. She would always say, "Think about what that will mean ten years from now." I also learned on my own that carrying grudges doesn't hurt anybody but the carrier. I refuse to make myself that miserable. And I care enough about others that I don't want to make them any more miserable than they make themselves. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting however. I'll forgive but I will remain wary.

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1 year ago  ::  Apr 19, 2012 - 8:54AM #4
Dutch777
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The article's points seem reasonable.


Another factor: perhaps we forgive more easily as we age because we forget what the hell we're angry about in the first place.   Wink

Walk Your Own DharmaPath; be awake.

The Socratic Standard:  Follow the evidence;____ if it doesn't make sense, it's bull$#!+.

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