Well I wish to thank you all for your advise. I know it must be difficult to advise someone who you may disagree with. So I totally respect and appreciate your responses.

Please know my husband stand by me 100%. I do the research and he does the  diplomacy when dealing with his family.

We have agreed to meet with a priest. My in-laws seem on only want my husband to attend but we agree that we should both go together. We aren't going to bring up what we know about Cannon law. Instead we are just going to explain our case to the priest and let him break the news to his parents.

We both understand that we are the black sheep of the family. My husband was already there before we met. Our wedding was very expressive to say the least and we choose not to pretend. We had our wedding done by someone our belief system and not the justices of the peace as they suggested. They didn't believe our religion was legal. Their dismissive of our views is what bothers me. Black sheep we can deal with.

Hi again,

Just want to know how everything is going.  Please keep us informed. I hope your in-laws come to realize this is not their decision.

Blessings on you and your family.

SuZ

The only Baby dedication Cerimonie is the Baptism.

Aug 25, 2011 -- 8:07AM, Mysty101 wrote:

Hi again,

Just want to know how everything is going.  Please keep us informed. I hope your in-laws come to realize this is not their decision.

Blessings on you and your family.

SuZ

Well I have my update.

We are meeting the minster of our Unitarian Universalist church tomorrow. She is coming over our house to discuss our daughters naming and deication ceremony. From what I've been told my in laws want no part in this. They do not wish to be invited, they don't approve. I also believe they won't be bothering with a priest either. My hope this remains a dead subject. 

We are however making plans towards our religious ceremonies. Nothing fancy but how we want it. I wanted to invite my husbands family memebers of his generation over 18 to come. To give them a choice if they want to come or not. But my husband felt that wasn't a good idea and only cause drama in the family. So we will simply do this without them. Which hurts I wanted them to be there. I really did. But I will respect their wishes. Thank you for all your help. I'm sorry this didn't work out. I was really fine with the blessing idea. But there is nothing I can do.  

Thank you all so much for your help. I"m sorry it didn't turn out better. I wanted very badly to tell you good news. Alsa it just wasn't meant to be. 

Oct 4, 2011 -- 6:37AM, Mysty101 wrote:

Thanks for the update.

It is sad that your in-laws reject your beliefs, but they seem to be accepting your decision.  This is certainly better than active opposition.  How is their response in other areas?  Differences in Religion can be overcome as long as there is mutual love & respect. 

I will join you in prayer for love & peace in your family.

Love & Prayers,

SuZ

thank you! There is some hope, my husband is trying to get his dad to soften his mother to come to the service. Right now I"m planning things as if they aren't coming. We've had a rocky relationship until my husband sister had some issues and we came to the rescue.  But the slightest thing can get them upset.