Jun 11, 2009 -- 2:06AM, Run2jss wrote:

Hi...I am a divorced single parent and have lived in our current area for about nine months now.  My 14 year old daughter had a friend ask her over for the night. I said it was okay at first, until I found out that this girl has a foster brother living with her who is also 14. Now...this has always been something that has just giving me RED flags. So I asked my daughter if he was going to be there or if he was going to a friends house himself for the night? ...of course she didn't know but she asked the girl and she said she didn't think he would be, but to call her foster Mom...so I did and I explained my apprehensions as polite as I possibly could even told her that I have known of instances where things went very wrong and that I didn't think the same held true in this case I was just being overly cautious especially since I am a single parent. I even offeered and invited her daughter to come over here instead. Well she totally took offense and hung up on me.  Teenage boys and strange girls they hardly know in my opinion are not a good match. My daughter completely understands where I am coming from and is not mad or upset, But do ya'll think I am being too cautious or was I doing the right thing. Maybe if we knew each other better...but I dont know I still think I would have the same decisions....

Welcome Run! I'm not sure why I'm getting involved with this seeming non-spiritual topic, but something in this fuddy-duddy old Great-grand-father says to say you did the right thing.

It is when one throws caution to the wind and does as the crowd/"peers" that Satan has the best advantage.  You know what you have taught your child and the values you possess, but you do not know "others". It is even difficult to know ourselves especially when "Lusts" of any description enter the mind.(James1:13-15)

Is one being to cautious by wanting to shield and protect their loved ones from any preceived or real danger? I'm thankful and praise GOD that you child understands your position.----and really she is the only one's opinion that should concern you. It shows that she respects your maternal advice and care for her.

In this day of promiscuous sexual activity and the glorification of it, one doesn't pay much attention to the disastrous side effects from the so-called "fun". The "Unplanned and unwanted pregnancies aren't the only thing which effect the person for a life-time, but so does the effects of the sexually transmitted diseases, and the stigma of one's actions.

I congratulate you for wanting to Train up your child "in the admonition of the Lord".(Eph.6:4)

Thanks Sincerely-

Your right her opinion IS the only one that does matter to me...I guess it just really frustrates me when others do try to understand my positions and where I stand.

...but thank you I feeld MUCH better!!!