I have a question for all the men out there.  I am involved in a relationship with this man whom I love very much.  I have been divorced for three years.  He and I have been dating for about two.  In November of last year, he asked me to marry him.  At the time he didn't have a steady job, but he did side jobs.  He lived with his mom and stepfather, and had no reliable transportation.  I have a career, home, and reliable car.  I pushed all those things about his stability to the side because I felt like love could conquer all.  Anyway, he got a great job at the beginning part of this year.  He traveled and did well.  He is now laid off and back at home.  He has some money saved up and has a home that his stepdad has offered him.  He just has to get furniture, utilities, etc. turned on.  I guess the part I don't understand about him is that he doesn't want to get married now, but he doesn't mind us living together.  I'm totally against that, yet he makes me feel guilty in a subtle way for not inviting him to stay with me.  Last night he stayed at his mom's again, and now he is out looking for a hotel to stay in.  I'm confused.  Men, does this man really love me or playing me?  

If you are saying that I need to be committed no matter, I do get that.  If not, I'm lost.

Maybe it's just one of those things I'll have to figure out before it's too late.