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3 years ago ::
Nov 17, 2009 - 12:13PM
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One important thing to note is that there are many different forms of meditation/mindfulness or energy work that can be used so it may be appropriate to try different methods and see which works best for him. i.e. Moving meditation - Tai Chi is the usual form, however a class like wing chung may be more appropriate. Other types of moving mediation involve mindfully walking/ passing through nature or possibly using iron balls. Singing/ Music - Someone mentioned drums, I play the guitar and have found that to be very useful/ spiritual and a way of expressing myself as well Sitting meditation. this is usually done seated and can be concentrating on the breathing however there are a vast number of techniques depending on what you prefer. I suggest that you again try some of the different techniques to see what works best with your child Best of luck
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3 years ago ::
Jun 16, 2009 - 3:17PM
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Hi Beerlover
Just a thought inspired by a recent show on tourette's syndrome. Playing the drums seemed to have a really calming effect on the young men on the show. It channelled a lot of the nervous energy, also it is an incredibly cool thing to be able to do. As your son likes music, maybe it would appeal? Possibly you could look out for a drumming workshop?
Not quite sure what you mean by a 'wet blanket'? Not from the US of A!
Keep positive and focus on his good points, I appreciate that at times this is easier said than done!
kind regards
Hokeycokey
Hi Hokey,
I sort of forgot about this thread. As it turns out, mosts others did as well. The phrase "wet wool blanket" isn't uniquely American. Just take a thick wool blanket, get it soaking wet, put it over your shoulders, and try to go about your day. Get the picture? Unfortunately, I had to drop the big one on my son. He is in a long-term residential treatment facility, cooling his heels, and hopefully learning how to be part of a family. He got the the point where he had no regard for parents or teachers, and the death threats were becoming more frequent. He needed an intervention. I'll look into the drumming thing- I would enjoy that as well. Breathing exercises are also in my future at least- blood pressure is creeping up into the danger zone. I have some good meditation CD's at home. It's time to re-prioritize some meditation time into my weekends. Hope to see you around, BeerLover
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3 years ago ::
May 28, 2009 - 5:37PM
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Hi Beerlover Just a thought inspired by a recent show on tourette's syndrome. Playing the drums seemed to have a really calming effect on the young men on the show. It channelled a lot of the nervous energy, also it is an incredibly cool thing to be able to do. As your son likes music, maybe it would appeal? Possibly you could look out for a drumming workshop? Not quite sure what you mean by a 'wet blanket'? Not from the US of A! Keep positive and focus on his good points, I appreciate that at times this is easier said than done! kind regards Hokeycokey
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4 years ago ::
Jul 22, 2008 - 9:46PM
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I think you're very smart to think of meditation as a way to help your child. It doesn't have to be 'formal' - just sitting with your child for a minute, closing the eyes and concentrating on the breath will bring a sense of calm. Start with just a short time and as you continue to practice, the time can lengthen. This is a very good way to teach how the breath can be a source of calm in any situation. Focusing on the breath throughout the day can become a positive habit!
Nancy
http://www.mindfulworkshops.com
coaching in mindfulness
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4 years ago ::
Jun 29, 2008 - 12:40AM
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Thank you for letting me introduce you to Massage therapy and all that it can do to calm the mind and body. There are so many aspects that can, and absolutely do, provide workable solutions. It's even good for stressed out Fathers/Mothers, who have children that cling like "wet wool blankets"...
First, every state is different. Some require that a therapist has a license to practice- Florida requires therapists have a valid license. That is where I live. Quite a few states require National certification. Florida also requires this. So, you would know your getting a good therapist here.
Second, consider making it a Father- Son day out, activity.
Here are some great links that can help you find a good practitioner and some modalities to consider.
I really hope that something clicks and the settling begins.
http://www.amtamassage.org/
http://www.massagetherapyfoundation.org/
http://www.ncbtmb.org/about_required_states.php
http://www.iahe.com/html/therapies/cst.jsp
http://www.swedishmassage.us/modalitiesdefined.htm
http://www.totallybowen.co.uk/human/hum … tments.htm
All the best,
Divalicious
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4 years ago ::
Jun 28, 2008 - 6:41PM
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[FONT="Comic Sans MS"][COLOR="DarkSlateGray"]Thanks to all who responded to this thread {even those going "esoteric" on me}. This is an area where conventional medicine and even counseling falls way short. He needs some tools. Surrounding him with white light would be great if I was able to do that sort of thing, Spiritalk. Unfortunately, I am unable at this time. My interactions with that realm are more abstract than colors or forms. I believe there are some out there who can project such a field, and bring calm to another, but I am not one of them.
Let's see, soft music (W-gal). That's a very good and obvious idea- thanks for pointing it out. He is drawn to contemporary teen music- not terribly calming. I'll work with him to find a CD or two from our collection he likes. Wearing him out is another good idea. Unfortunately, he has no friends to run around with. I'll do some things with him on the weekend, good for both of us.
Appy, please don't post and beg for forgiveness. Kids do need physical exercise, just like dogs. We will have to be really creative here since he has nobody to run around with. The worst I'll do is read your post and find it not useful. You don't need to have kids to give advice, just make your perspective clear. After all, priests engage in marriage counseling ;)
inthemidwest, I'm an old midwestern farm type myself. Hope the floods didn't affect you and yours. We have permenantly taken away video games, severly limited computer games, and TV. Our house is pretty quiet the way it is. He has four cats, two dogs, a rat and a rabbit to interact with now. Unfortunately, interaction often becomes torture or getting the dog to chase the cats (feeding the conflict centers). I would love to work towards day-long meditations in the woods. We are doing some of this already, time to push forward some more. Maybe horses would be a good choice (difficult to choke or trap under a box)..
Finally we have Divalicious:
"[FONT="Arial"][COLOR="Black"]Massage therapy has many modalities that can help ADD-ADHD chilldren. Specifically, CranioSacral Therapy and Polarity. They are both considered energy work. Please, consider them.
Also- Kinesiology, CranioSacral, and Bowen therapy are natural ways to improve health, behavior, and emotions.[/COLOR]"[/FONT]
Massage therapy, eh? If anybody is getting a massage, it's going to be ME! not the little monster. He's on me like a wet wool blanket every weekend. It's exhausting. The inner work needs to come first, then social skills, and self-esteem will grow naturally out of these successes. Or he will become another Columbine kid, it's a real possibility. I honestly hadn't considered massage therapy for the boy. I'll look into it. If you can point me in the right direction with a couple of links I would appreciate it.
Enough for one post. Thank you all again, and to all your lurkers, don't be shy. As I said before, the worst I'll do is find you post not useful. If you are on the fence about posting something, please do and let me decide if it is helpful. You never know, it might be just solution we have all been looking for.
BeerLover
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4 years ago ::
Jun 27, 2008 - 5:30PM
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Appy--your point is very good--I know that for myself too.
I am engaged in a very strenuous training/conditioning/weightlifting program and when I can't do all the work I usually do because of injuries or interruptions I too have problems settling down and relaxing and ultimately going to sleep.
I used to have "insomnia" until I started the rigorous physical training program.
I do not have it anymore.
There are tons of benefits from routine physical activity(in addition to weight control) and getting significantly stronger and healthier)--sleeping well and having a feeling of well-being are among them.
Sending good thoughts for you.
WGal
(every time I see your username I am reminded of a friend of mine who raised and trained Appies. Thanks for the good memories. ;)
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4 years ago ::
Jun 27, 2008 - 5:26PM
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"Lets stay concrete and see if we can give beerlover, and his child some
information that can be used."
Many people combine the spiritual and the physical very well--and with a lot of benefits.
The people posting here have a lot of experience in this kind of matter.
Their ideas and suggestions should be given the same weight as those that are focusssing on the purely physical.
No need to throw out the baby with the bathwater just because the baby has interestingly-colored hair.
;)
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4 years ago ::
Jun 27, 2008 - 3:11PM
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I see that some are going all esoteric again. I don't believe that was beerlovers question.
He asked about meditation helping his anxiety driven and ADHD child -headed toward puberty, to have concrete ways to get unstuck and settled. Meditation can and absolutely does work, but this child will need a guided meditation- for certain, and maybe some bodywork therapies in order get centered.
Just my thoughts.
Lets stay concrete and see if we can give beerlover, and his child some
information that can be used.
I also agree with inthemidswest, that changing tactics and removing stimuli, is a great idea, and interactions with animals has been proved with research, to be beneficial as well.
Respectfully, Divalicious
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4 years ago ::
Jun 27, 2008 - 10:20AM
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We do our white light protection around ourselves - we can also make it for our children. Keeping them encased in the bubble of protection often changes them over time. Please consider adding it to the other suggestions.
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