I know this isn't a busy board, but I thought I'd throw this out there....

I think I've decided I'd like my husband to be the spiritual leader of our family.  (right now it's moot, since he's deployed, but when he comes back we can work on this)

BUT... he's baptist and I'm catholic, and I can't just leave the catholic church.

He's agreed to raise the kids catholic, and he even goes to mass with us when we go, but we aren't regulars.

So I was thinking about why I'm not a regular attendee... and I think I want my husband to be the leader.  He's more comfortable with (and better at) praying anyhow. 

BUT... if we start attending his baptist church, then our kids will get confused when they attended catholic CCD, and recieve first communion and reconsiliation, and then go to church at a baptist church. 

I really don't know how we'll do this.... any thoughts?

Personally I want my children to search out all the teachings of God and make their own choice about which version if any they wish to follow.
Being that there is only one God, it shouldn't matter which version and means of experiencing the Divine one chooses.

Smiles,
Donna

What do you mean by spiritual leader in your home?  Do you mean the boss?  :)

You are both equal partners in your family.   You are doing a fine job now even being concerned with this issue and it makes me feel proud!!  I am not Catholic, but my ex is and my children are.  I love to go to Mass with them!!!  I think they are beautiful and very moving. 

I am more spiritual, I guess, but I have never been in the House of God where I did not feel welcomed by the Spirit.   

It is like anything if you go looking for something, you will find it, good or bad. 

I hope your husband is home safe soon.

God bless,

Sharon

If you've both agreed the kids will be raised Catholic, why change?

I guess I'm not sure what "spiritual leader" in a family means anyway.  Seems in my experience, in most families, the woman does that--makes sure everyone goes to church, says their prayers, etc.  If this is what you want your husband to do, then I don't see anywhere that it involves having to go to his church.  The only reason I could see that happening is if "spiritual leader" means "telling everyone else exactly what to believe which is only what he believes."  And as he hasn't insisted on raising the kids Baptist before, it doesn't sound like he's interested in doing that anyway.