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6 years ago  ::  Aug 05, 2008 - 12:26PM #1
myth0s
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I wanted to start a thread that addresses the topic of resources for men. 

Comments on or links to resources are welcome here.  So are questions regarding how to find or access men's resources.

Please contribute information regarding any resources you may know of or wish to know of.
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6 years ago  ::  Aug 05, 2008 - 12:32PM #2
myth0s
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Here is a link I found recently:

http://menstuff.org/resources/resourcef … lence.html

The introduction to this website reads as follows:

[QUOTE]Menstuff® has gathered alternatives to violence programs for men perpetrators and victims and for women perpetrators - believed to be the largest listing in the U.S. Use caution in visiting many of the Domestic Violence resources. Some national, regional and local resources that use names like Family Violence Services, or Coalition Against Domestic Violence or Coalition to End Domestic Violence or Commission on Family Violence are misleading titles since some don't provide services for male victims and their children and women perpetrators. Whether politically motivated or behind in understanding domestic violence or desiring to keep the statistics [skewed] to falsely show that women are the only victims of domestic violence, these often publicly funded organizations do not serve the broader community by their politically motivated view of domestic violence.[/QUOTE]

I think this is an important point.  Men are sometimes the perpetrators and sometimes the victims of domestic violence.  In either case, it may be difficult to find help if you are a man.  So this website might be of some help.
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6 years ago  ::  Aug 05, 2008 - 12:36PM #3
myth0s
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Regarding the topic of mythopoetic men's groups, here are a couple of websites that offer some interesting reading:

http://www.achillesheel.freeuk.com/article19_7.html
(a "pro" account)

http://www.xyonline.net/Wildmen.shtml
(a different take)
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6 years ago  ::  Aug 05, 2008 - 12:50PM #4
myth0s
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For Canadians, there is this general resource directory to services and support organizations:

http://www.fact.on.ca/director/director.htm

I'm fairly certain other nations must have similar directories.  Maybe other posters can help out by providing these.
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6 years ago  ::  Aug 05, 2008 - 5:23PM #5
myth0s
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Here is some interesting information about domestic violence taken from a website called
http://www.batteredmen.com/

[QUOTE]Below are facts, charts and graphs from the Family Violence in Canada: A Statistical Profile series (produced annually by Statistics Canada).

Family violence in Canada: a statistical profile - 2000
Intimate partner violence


Current partners: More men DV (Domestic Violence) victims
303,000 men (54%), 259,000 women (last 5 years). 190,000 men, 121,000 women kicked, hit, bitten, hit with an object, beaten or choked. 51,000 men, 30,000 women slapped.
All partners: 44% men
690,000 women (56%), 259,000 men (last 5 years)
Overall rates similar
Prevalence—DV in last 5 years: 8% for women, 5% for men.
In the last year: Overall rates similar
Prevalence—DV in last year: 3% for women, 2% for men.
Men: 38-50% in Canada, U.S., Great Britain
Canada: Women 3%, men 2%; U.S. 1.3% to 0.9%' Britain both 4.2%
Men more likely to sustain major injury or death in reported DV
Of incidents reported to police, 3% of men and only 2% of women sustained major physical injury or death.
Women report more often, men report more serious offenses
Similar proportions of men and women reported stalking. Men are victims in 30% of more serious crimes like murder in the second degree, aggravated assault and extortion. 82% of DV against men not reported to police Of those reported to police, 50% were reported, not by the man but by someone else. 78% of reported DV against women was reported by the victim [/QUOTE]

It is interesting to note that men do not report domestic violence unless it is very serious.  Yet in terms of prevalence, men are the victims of domestic assault more often than women.

The following website also gives similar information:

http://www.canlaw.com/rights/whokills.htm

Maybe there is something to this.  That men do not report being the victim of a domestic assault (unless it is very serious) I find quite credible.
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6 years ago  ::  Aug 06, 2008 - 3:50PM #6
myth0s
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Some links related to the subject of divorce, child custody, and related issues:

http://www.fathers4equality-australia.org/
(support for men with children going through divorce)

http://www.ottawamenscentre.com/
(support for divorced men)

http://www.readersdigest.ca/mag/2001/04/deadbeat.html
(a commentary on the truth about so-called "deadbeat dads")

http://www.fact.on.ca/fin_supp/ts950906.htm
(another commentary on the same subject)

http://www.fathermag.com/news/3786-DDads.shtml
(an article on the "throwaway dad")
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6 years ago  ::  Aug 06, 2008 - 4:03PM #7
myth0s
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An article worth reading:

http://www.debunker.com/patriarchy.html
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6 years ago  ::  Aug 08, 2008 - 2:27PM #8
myth0s
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The topic of absent fathers came up in one of the other threads.  I believe that demonizing absent fathers or making negative remarks about men in general does very little to change the problems certain men have coping with fatherhood.

A recent article in the National Post echoed my concerns that absent fathers need resources, not blame or name-calling, for them to become present again in the lives of their children.  Here is the link:

http://www.nationalpost.com/arts/story.html?id=594698

A short quote from that article:

[QUOTE]Social policies and focused community initiatives are required in order to strengthen the bond between fathers and their families. These must provide fathers with the tools needed to succeed and be directed toward helping them so they can develop skills that allow them to be effective members of the workforce and their community. In this way, they will feel good about themselves as they provide for their children.

Children's success in life is dependent upon a sense of security and well-being. This is rooted in and influenced by the love and support of both parents.[/QUOTE]
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6 years ago  ::  Oct 02, 2008 - 3:13PM #9
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