First off this wouldn't of been any of my business in normal circumstance but since Jon and Kate have taken their life to the public (beginning to remind me of Mory Pulvic ? kind of stuff) I will throw in my two cents.  If their marriage began with love, vows and God then it would be a good thing to work on it.  Chuck the show for now and get on with your marriage and children and life.  It does take two for a marriage and if one is unwilling to work on it then only divine intervention can help them.  I do hope they try but from what I heard on the radio this morning that isn't the case.  With that many kids having two parents at least would be helpful but what do I know, I only had three.  I do hope that all this is just publicity and they are working it out with their pastor or marriage counselor or both.   A shame to have a marriage destroyed because of fame.  One reason I really don't like fame.

Suezlu

Why is the world giving advise to the Gosselins when all that we see is through the lens of a camera and all that we know is through other forms of media?   Children DO suffer when parents divorce and it doesn't matter how old those "children" are.  Yet, parents who can't show love, real love, toward each other is damaging for children to witness.   The Gosselins can be sure IF they divorce these well-adjusted children they have will have all sorts of new behavior issues trying to deal with the changes that occur comes when two households-one for each parent- are the new norm. ...now these things are REALITY; and may not be fun or cute to watch on TV.....IF Jon and Kate can possibly rekindle trust and the bond of love they initially had together by all means DO.  If they cannot reconnect they can be sure they and their children are in for a new and most difficult new reality. 

My sympathies are with them both.  It is stressful to raise a traditional sized family (2-4 kids) and not many can fathom the physical and emotional divisions that occur between parents who have  the demands of all those children put upon them.  Jon and Kate are still a young couple who have physical and emotional needs of their own.  Placing all of their focus on the kids every moment of every day--until exhaustion--it was easy for their relationship with each other to fade...their minds weren't with each other they were always on the kids and at the end of the day Jon, being human, probably needed to be shown he was special and Kate probably needed to feel attractive but they had expended their energy both mental and physical on the kids---. It's not easy to just spend time alone because their minds are always on their kids lives...they can never really be one-on-one again.   Frankly, I think they will understand each others value later in life, after their physicality and youthful needs fade...It's all very sad, very sad....but understandable. 

 Of course, I truly hope they can rekindle and repair their marriage and DO it on TV to show others it can be done!  If they can do this they would be true role models for their children, their friends and families, and the viewers of their show.

My advice:

Stop talking to the media  Stop talking to the media  Stop talking to the media

Both need individual therapy (intense)

Go to couples therapy---in patient couples therapy (Check out THE MEADOWS)

Get the children into therapy 

Give the children some privacy.

Stop dressing the children in the same style clothes. They each have their own personalities. Respect that.  Kate, give the children a break.

Really,  whether they get a divorce or not--all of them will be needing psychological help dealing with the the issues.  You will always be connected even after a divorce because of the children. Are they going to have to suffer for the immaturity and ego driven behavior of the parents?

Both Jon and Kate need to step back and evaluate their own behavior and how they each contribute to the family problems.

I read your book Multiple Bles8ings. In it you talked about your faith and how you ALWAYS turned to GOD. Well I feel that you need to be doing that now and getting marital counseling. You have so much to be thankful for. Your health,your children are healthy, you have a beautiful new home,vehicles you are able to provide for your children. Eventually the children will realize something is amiss,especially Cara and Mady. You fell in love for certain reasons,think of those and each other. Give up the show for awhile and work on your marriage,it's more important than the show. Just do specials once in awhile. Think of your children!

I believe Kate and Jon need to reevaluate their marriage before and after this reality show.  What did they have before this reality show and what has caused problems since having the reality show?  Kate needs to understand that he is her husband.  They both need to talk openly and honestly and kate needs to stop being domineering and let Jon truly express his feelings. They need to accept their differences and work it out not try to remake each other.  I truly believe that they still love each other and at this point Kate would do anything to save this marriage.  Forgiveness and love needs to begin to work in this family with God's guidance at the top of the list which is prayer.  A family that prays together stays together.