Genocon wrote:

But in many places, there is only one group to go to, or the area is rife with bigotry. What else is there to do but fight or hide? Moving isn't always a viable option.



You are very lucky, then.

You are absolutely right! but if the shoe don't fit why force yourself to wear it?
I have been in that situation before, but rather then risk getting beat up again,
humilated everywhere I go, and even the fear of being murdered in those
places where bigotry rules I chose to leave, not because cowardness, I
simply chose to live in a place where I could live at peace with myself, and
not worry about being hurt, humilated, or even murdered! furthermore I did
have the option of moving on to places where I could feel safe in a more
tolerant community, and believe me there are many communities around
this country that are either tolerant or accepting of gays, or even those who
don't give a hoot about your private life: like the town I live here in
New Jersey!! Are there options? absolutely!!! did I ran away from my basic
human rights? I don't think so, because right now I am living my homosexual
lifestyle to the fullest!! :D



Leandro

alezandar wrote:

urthermore I did
have the option of moving on to places where I could feel safe in a more
tolerant community, and believe me there are many communities around
this country that are either tolerant or accepting of gays, or even those who
don't give a hoot about your private life: like the town I live here in
New Jersey!! Are there options? absolutely!!!

Again, you were/are lucky. But if you go south and/or rural enough in this supposedly enlightened, liberated country, you're going to find plenty of places where being queer is a death sentence. New Jersey is a very different place from, say, rural Alabama.

Genocon wrote:

Again, you were/are lucky. But if you go south and/or rural enough in this supposedly enlightened, liberated country, you're going to find plenty of places where being queer is a death sentence. New Jersey is a very different place from, say, rural Alabama.

Hi Genocon!! I understand your point! but before moving to New Jersey I lived in
the South until my coming out became more like a nightmare, not only for me
but for the family members I lived with at the time, as they were very supportive
of me. Believe me living in those communities is not easy, and even if you dare to
challenge the bigots of the local community, that can make things worse for you.
Personally my only solution was getting out of that community and move up north
with my mother, who finally settled down in New Jersey after getting a job as a head
nurse in central New jersey. I know for some gays it may be very difficult to move
away to a different town, but at least for me it was the best and wisest decision I
ever made.


Leandro