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Flag jasper353 June 12, 2012 10:57 PM EDT
I seem to be ignored by the opposite sex no matter what I do. It's been going on my whole life with a few rare exceptions. Any input will be welcomed.
Flag REteach June 13, 2012 8:55 PM EDT

What are you doing? The best way to meet people who might like is to do things you like. Join a hiking club, serve dinners at a soup kitchen, join a chess club.  Just start out being friendly.  Perhaps it would be worth your while to talk some to a counselor. Maybe you are projecting an image you don't want to project, and nobody feels brave enough to tell you how you make them feel.  



Good luck!

Flag jasper353 June 13, 2012 9:03 PM EDT

Thanks for the advice. I'll keep workin' on it. :)

Flag freeindeed789 June 15, 2012 6:22 PM EDT

The first thing that I did was take a look at you profile. This, was after I read your response to the last person to reach out to you, prior to my input. If you take a look at your profile, and that reponse, you will see that there is a dark cloud over them. I believe, that if you are trully  inviting, and have a good aura eminating from your spirit, things will change.


Be Blessed!

Flag Hatman June 15, 2012 6:35 PM EDT
Jasper-
If you do what you love, and love what you do, you will radiate your love around you, and many will be attracted.

i think that it's possible that instead of being ignored by women, you may have pursued them and been unable to read the "not interested" signs that were being shown you.

IME, (and generally speaking), women are a lot like cats.  Chase them, and they will flee; corner them until they're trapped, and they'll fight or take the first chance to run; speak kindly to them and leave them alone, and soon they'll come sit next to you and purr---especially after you've fed 'em a few times...or let them feed YOU with no other expectations.

Although this method doesn't work with all women(especially the immature ones who seek the "bad boys"), one or more who IS worthy of your company will come along, if you're patient.  Also IME, women appreciate someone who is discriminating, who will NOT accept(or pursue) every female that wiggles'n'giggles by.

There are also things you can do with your style and appearance(possibly cleanliness, too)---and if you'd like to try an experiment, ask various women how they'd "improve you," just to listen to the answers, for few men are that secure in themselves that they WILL ask such a question.

Warmest regards-

Hatman
Flag jasper353 June 15, 2012 7:25 PM EDT

Jun 15, 2012 -- 6:22PM, freeindeed789 wrote:

The first thing that I did was take a look at you profile. This, was after I read your response to the last person to reach out to you, prior to my input. If you take a look at your profile, and that reponse, you will see that there is a dark cloud over them. I believe, that if you are trully  inviting, and have a good aura eminating from your spirit, things will change.


Be Blessed!


How do I change a dark aura? Is it not merely a reflection of the dark times we're living in?

Flag freeindeed789 June 15, 2012 7:35 PM EDT

It is a reflection of the mirror that one chooses to look at. After all you are what you choose. If you choose to sit in a dark room, don't expect to see light. You must do something------------turn on the light, or accept the lot you choose. You must do, and when you ask, you must listen.

Flag jasper353 June 16, 2012 10:18 PM EDT

My best response is the question:


Can there be any real "positive" freedom in this day and age?

Flag REteach June 20, 2012 6:40 PM EDT

Hmmm. You may have just explained why women don't like spending time with you.  It sounds like it could be a real downer.  There are still blue skies.  There are awesome streams for walking along.  There are fresh strawberries and children laughing.  Maybe you need to focus more on the part of the glass that has water in it. 

Flag Hatman June 21, 2012 12:06 AM EDT
i was thinking along similar lines, myself, REteach.

But perhaps a read of "How to live free in an unfree world"(or a similar title; it's late, and i'm tired, or i'd look around for my copy) may give him a few clues-by-four, too.

Then there's the Desiderata...

Warmest regards-

Hatman
Flag Estacia July 6, 2012 9:04 PM EDT

Jasper,


I feel you!


I have gone through this situaion my whole life.


It's like I have a sign on my head that says " please victimize me".


I'm 32, I look young so that may be why I am not taken seriously?


You are in my thoughts and prayers.


Stacey


Flag freeindeed789 July 7, 2012 3:38 PM EDT

I like what you say is your favorite motto,"If you see crazy coming towards you, cross the street". Great advice.Smile

Flag Mindful1 August 1, 2012 11:07 AM EDT

When I was dating, I was not interested in needy women. Needy people are not fun to be around. There seems to be no end to their neediness. They are insecure and they seldom have any independent interests that would make them more appealing. All they know how to do is long for someone to fill their void; to meet their needs. 


I am sure you have heard adages such as "It's not the destination, but the journey..." etc.? My advice to you would be to work on yourself. Begin to examine who you are, what your interests are, what skills you have. Do those things you enjoy. Be a regular member of a club or a community (real-world, not cyber) and be consistent in your participation. Forget about taking a cooking class that you don't enjoy because you have heard that there are lots of women taking cooking classes. Forget about being lonely and start enjoying being with yourself. Learn to appreciate solitude. There are so many women out there who are looking for a real man...one who is strong, independent, sure of himself and self-aware. I know few women who are looking for someone who is lonely. Work on yourself and you will become more attractive. 

Flag freeindeed789 August 1, 2012 2:53 PM EDT

Excellent recommendation. I hope it is received as wisdom.

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