|
3 weeks ago ::
May 07, 2012 - 4:13PM
#13
|
|
|
I was always taught that the Bible says "Fear not" 365 times - one for every day of the year. It has helped me through a lot, and I hope it helps you too.
|
|
|
|
2 months ago ::
Apr 04, 2012 - 10:13PM
#12
|
|
|
Some medications can cause prolactin secretion. He needs to talk to his doctor. However, there was a poster here once who was a Viet Nam vet, a combat grunt, who was a male to female transsexual. She went from combat boots to high heels. It could be that your friend is really trans and is trying to see who is trustworthy with that information. Maybe this is a test of your friendhood.
I know you believe you understand what you think I said, but I am not sure you realize what you heard was not what I meant...
|
|
|
|
2 months ago ::
Apr 04, 2012 - 11:46AM
#11
|
|
|
Look into cognitive behavioral therapy. It is a short term tool kit for dealing with things like anxiety and depression.
I have a friend that is as masculine as any man could desire to be. This man has served in some of the fiercest fighting that occured in Viet Nam. I never considered him being afraid or anxious about anything. He has started to experience some physical changes that are giving him anxieties. He is expierencing his breats enlarging, even seceting fluid. He is still attracted to females but he is having onsessions about dressing like a female and his voice is changing and he sounds like a female on the phone. He won't go to a Dr for fear the information may leak out. He has shared this information with me but I have no idea how to advise him.
|
|
|
|
9 months ago ::
Oct 01, 2011 - 11:35AM
#10
|
|
|
Thank you REteach!! When you say "something changed" you mean with the relationship or the trust being broken? My biggest FEAR is that the thing that I am FEARING will be right in the end...ya know? I just do not want to be "right" again! I am trying to decipher between INSTINCTS and FEAR based upon my past....
Either. Both. The problem is that your fear can drive your partner away. There can be self-fulfilling prophecies, you know.
Suspicion Minds lyrics: We're caught in a trap
I can't walk out
Because I love you too much baby
Why can't you see
What you're doing to me
When you don't believe a word I say?
We can't go on together
With suspicious minds
And we can't build our dreams
On suspicious minds
So, if an old friend I know
Drops by to say hello
Would I still see suspicion in your eyes?
Here we go again
Asking where I've been
You can't see these tears are real
I'm crying
We can't go on together
With suspicious minds
And we can't build our dreams
On suspicious minds
Oh let our love survive
Or dry the tears from your eyes
Let's don't let a good thing die
When honey, you know
I've never lied to you
Mmm yeah, yeah
I know you believe you understand what you think I said, but I am not sure you realize what you heard was not what I meant...
|
|
|
|
9 months ago ::
Sep 29, 2011 - 9:00PM
#9
|
|
|
I frankly don't think we can possibly identify all the things that have happened to us that make us what we are, what we fear, where we feel inadequate.
I guess my general thoughts would be: If you have been going along well with this person and then something changed, it might be more significant than if you have felt worried all along. However, it could be that you are more worried because you have started loving more and feel you have more to lose.
Some people are simply more anxious than others. Alas, I guess my best advice would be "know thyself." Which is generally much easier said than done.
Thank you REteach!! When you say "something changed" you mean with the relationship or the trust being broken? My biggest FEAR is that the thing that I am FEARING will be right in the end...ya know? I just do not want to be "right" again! I am trying to decipher between INSTINCTS and FEAR based upon my past....
|
|
|
|
9 months ago ::
Sep 29, 2011 - 8:57PM
#8
|
|
|
I understand this fear. I need to be very careful that such irrational fears do not actually cause the very thing I fear from happening: the break-up of my relationship. I know that my wife has been married before, that she has had sex with a few other men. But I also know that she and I are very much in love and that she chose to be with me, to spend time with me and to love me. I need to celebrate this love by honoring and respecting her as my wife. If I am consumed by the fear that she will somehow lose her feelings for me, or that she is secretly plotting to betray me, I will act according to this fear...I will start to show signs of distrust, which will cause her to respond defensively and question my love for her. I know that if I am fully present to my wife, love her with all my heart, treat her respectfully and nurture a consistent and intimate level of communication with her on a daily basis, that I really have nothing to fear. I am blessed to have my wife as my best friend. It is a relief to let go of the fear that constricted me for so long. Pray, yes. And trust!
Thank you astral_tourist - I actually am going to use what you stated as my mantra! It is hard when we have been hurt, betrayed and the trust has been broken many times. Especially when you have put your trust in someone close to you and it gotten taken away! I am fighting hard and pray - knowing that God is working on me & is there through it! God Bless & Thanks again =))
|
|
|
|
9 months ago ::
Sep 29, 2011 - 8:35PM
#7
|
|
|
I frankly don't think we can possibly identify all the things that have happened to us that make us what we are, what we fear, where we feel inadequate. I guess my general thoughts would be: If you have been going along well with this person and then something changed, it might be more significant than if you have felt worried all along. However, it could be that you are more worried because you have started loving more and feel you have more to lose. Some people are simply more anxious than others. Alas, I guess my best advice would be "know thyself." Which is generally much easier said than done.
I know you believe you understand what you think I said, but I am not sure you realize what you heard was not what I meant...
|
|
|
|
9 months ago ::
Sep 29, 2011 - 4:38PM
#6
|
|
|
I understand this fear. I need to be very careful that such irrational fears do not actually cause the very thing I fear from happening: the break-up of my relationship. I know that my wife has been married before, that she has had sex with a few other men. But I also know that she and I are very much in love and that she chose to be with me, to spend time with me and to love me. I need to celebrate this love by honoring and respecting her as my wife. If I am consumed by the fear that she will somehow lose her feelings for me, or that she is secretly plotting to betray me, I will act according to this fear...I will start to show signs of distrust, which will cause her to respond defensively and question my love for her. I know that if I am fully present to my wife, love her with all my heart, treat her respectfully and nurture a consistent and intimate level of communication with her on a daily basis, that I really have nothing to fear. I am blessed to have my wife as my best friend. It is a relief to let go of the fear that constricted me for so long. Pray, yes. And trust!
|
|
|
|
9 months ago ::
Sep 28, 2011 - 8:40PM
#5
|
|
|
Look into cognitive behavioral therapy. It is a short term tool kit for dealing with things like anxiety and depression.
Thank you so much! Another quick question:: I know, the newbie with ALL the questions - lol!!! How do you tell if your FEARS are YOUR fears that are associated with past betrayal, etc. or givin as an warning or to "be careful" with that person, etc.? I am still having a hard time deciphering between the two at times. Although, I know in my heart & gut that this is most likely my own FEAR or a stronghold built from Satan...ya know?
|
|
|
|
9 months ago ::
Sep 28, 2011 - 8:32PM
#4
|
|
|
Look into cognitive behavioral therapy. It is a short term tool kit for dealing with things like anxiety and depression.
I know you believe you understand what you think I said, but I am not sure you realize what you heard was not what I meant...
|
|
|
