I am not so new here.  I was here like 7-8yrs ago and this is the only place i could find real help.   to make along story a bit short.  My husband left me for another woman (his friends wife) and him and i finally divorced after many years of hurt and then while we were away from eachother he was in lots of trouble and i found another man, he was in many relations and we became to fall on eachother when things weren't going so well with our other relations.  thru the years my gram and father passed and we found ourselves talking again.  then his brother passed and in finding his brother dead i told his brother and myself i'd take care of my xhusband..... soooooooooo in the end him and i decided to try again.  well things weren't in the best situation cuz we were still living our lives around the friends that were there thru our divorce.... lets put it this way toooo many memories of the hurt were on me, so i was going to move out of state, when one day we (my x and i) got a call to move out of town.... it pondered and pondered and said if i don't give him and i a real chance ill regret it...... so i decided to take the move with him. Oh ya i forgot in 2009 i got laid off from my job that is where is decided i wanted to move out of state, till the offer to move out of town was there..... anyways we moved in 2009 on a note that i had not really been all into our relationship.... i still needed to heal and he knew that......... ok so now we are here in our new town, but i was unemployed for 2yrs just got a job.....in that 2yrs i was depressed things werent healing and i just didn't know where to turn, (shuld of turned here) and things got bad again, we drifted i think.  I wasn't able to bring myself to have sex with him or get too close most of that was because i felt like a loser.. a nobody worht nothing... NOW IT HAS GOT SO BAD FROM HIM THAT ON MY BDAY LAST WEEK HE TOLD ME HE DON'T LOVE ME ANYMORE AND IT IS OVER........ now i said??? now that i feel like a person, can contribute to this relationship, love him more than anything and love our new life where we live??? today i cant even go to work cuz im a mess.... how do i make this better how can i get him to understand, he said we have been unhappy for years and he can't do it anymore.  HE SAYS HTERE IS NO ONE ELSE??? I AM DIEING AGAIN AND LOSING CONTROL OF MY EMOTIONS... I NEED SOME ADVICE.  how can i try to help him see that i was depressed and wasn't into myself let alone us???  i don't want to end this and i just started my job and i am already home a day cuz all iam doing it crying...???  please anyone got advice words or ideas?? thanks again i hope we can be saved???

Hi arnie you were always there for me to talk to b4 and i thank you for that.  I am scared and today was an awful day.  i tried being quiet and just letting it go, but no matter what i say or how i say it he don't care.  so i asked today waht are we doing and bam........its over.  he dont' love me, he don't want to hurt me and i don't have to leave but it is over.  there are things we purchased together as if we were married and things we have together and thigns that have to be taken care of.  i just don't have it in me to do all of that and i know for sure he won't do it.  he thinks we should just live here and it will all take care of itself like it always did. 

b4 i did all the work and when we moved here i did all the work to get us here. now it is time again that he isn't happy and he just is going to make me miserable and take from me all he can til i snap.  I want to do what i can to try and make it work for us but am not sure he will do that too?   i feel so lost alone and don't know how i can make things right? 

i stillbelieve and that is sad isn't it?  i still pray for God to heal our hurts and bring our love back together i just don't know waht to ask for anymore? has God just given up on me and us?  i am soooo lost and hurt at a point he loved me so much when we first moved and i just was still in a shell and so unhappy with me that i was closed up. not that i didn't lov ehim but the sex thing i just didn't bring myself around cuz of all the pain.  but now im here and was since may and he just gaveup??  oh my im babbling on here both sites sorry. thanks and i look forward to hear from you....