Feb 23, 2011 -- 5:45AM, Ethelq5 wrote:

I am separated...does this mean I can't date?

You're free to do whatever you like, but there are consequences.  You can rob a store, beat someone with a baseball bat, engage in fraud, anything you like---if you're ready to pay the price for your actions.

Adultery is very much akin to robbery, assault, or fraud.  Do it if you want, but be prepared for what naturally follows from it.

Is "dating" adultery?

You tell me.  If your husband dates, are you ok with it?  If your mother dates someone not her husband, are you ok with that?  What about if your dad goes and dates other women; think your mom would say, 'Yeah, sure, do whatever you like'?

Warmest regards-

Hatman

Here is my opinion and only my opinion...

Until you are done and healed from all of the hurt and disappointment from your failed marriage, I would not start dating. Meeting people is okay but in my case, I'm not going to date nor am I going to start seeing anyone until I've reconnected myself with my faith and straightened up my life...

Heather

I was separated for four years before my divorce became final. I dated during most of that time. For me, the separation was not to sort things out for myself and eventually reconcile with my wife. It was to try to get my things in order as I prepared for the divorce. I took too long mostly because I was busy dating and living my newly acquired single-life. The women whom I dated knew the status of my separation...I had my own house, furniture, etc. and I was not in communication with my estranged wife, except when necessary for child visitation. I never wanted to get back together. By the time I separated, I had enough of her. Your case is different. he is telling you he is still in love...it actually sounds like he and his wife are reconciling. You are very wise and mature for ending the relationship. There are scores of good people out there who are available now...Good luck to you!