My husband and quite a number of the men I know prefer independance in a woman.  A woman that does not need a man to do everything with her and does not expect to conform her life completely to his. 

Sometimes I wonder if we may have become too independant.

Jan 28, 2010 -- 6:36PM, Sunshyne212 wrote:

lil_lamb posted his comment on women who are independant, and they should let the partner do for them.  I am an independant lady, who would love a partner to do for me, but these days they think we should do all for them and nothing in return. We as independant women, do for our partner's, when we do have one, and they take it for granted.  You ask for a Quarter and they give you a penny. We feel if we have to go down that road, then we might as well do it for and by ourselves. Not that we are trying to be more than you, belittling you, or wearing the pants in any way. It's just a nice feeling to know that we are capable if something would arise where you're not able to provide. I feel, if married or roommating, it should be 50/50.  If it's just the so called boyfriend, and he comes over every now and then, cook and eat your food up, watch his games, and lay back, then he should come to door sometimes with food, and a few dollars and "Say, here Baby, this isn't much, but it's a little something to help you.  Whether you need it or not..it's the thought. Nine times out of ten, we spend it right back on you anyway. So, if men want to be turned off by that, then so be it.

yes, i'm female.

got to tell you, the sort of man you're describing - that sounds like a ghetto rat. ghetto rats go so far as to expect bling, but that's a whole different can of worms.

btw, my mother always advised me to stay away from guys who call you "baby" - i don't know, i think she was right.

Jan 28, 2010 -- 6:36PM, Sunshyne212 wrote:

lil_lamb posted his comment on women who are independant, and they should let the partner do for them.  I am an independant lady, who would love a partner to do for me, but these days they think we should do all for them and nothing in return. We as independant women, do for our partner's, when we do have one, and they take it for granted.  You ask for a Quarter and they give you a penny. We feel if we have to go down that road, then we might as well do it for and by ourselves. Not that we are trying to be more than you, belittling you, or wearing the pants in any way. It's just a nice feeling to know that we are capable if something would arise where you're not able to provide. I feel, if married or roommating, it should be 50/50.  If it's just the so called boyfriend, and he comes over every now and then, cook and eat your food up, watch his games, and lay back, then he should come to door sometimes with food, and a few dollars and "Say, here Baby, this isn't much, but it's a little something to help you.  Whether you need it or not..it's the thought. Nine times out of ten, we spend it right back on you anyway. So, if men want to be turned off by that, then so be it.

AMEN!!! We are not trying to take a man's place. When you've lived by yourself for a longtime, you get accustomed to doing everything on your on. So sometimes its hard to let somebody help us out every now and again...well atleast for me. I like to feel safe and secure with a man especially if he really cares about me. I let him know, look I'm not going to be in your pocket all the time, but that doesn't mean I dont need help. Trust  I got plenty of things around my house that he can do. LOL!!!! Honestly, I love when men do things for me such as open/hold doors open, hold an elevator, kill bugs, oh and I looooooooove a handy man. I'll pass over a doctor and a lawyer to get to a handy man. LOL!!! I just love a hard working man. That's an epitome of sexiness to me!!!

Anyway, I think that we need to start being more honest with ourselves and others. Then, we wouldn't have all these issues.