For me it isn't a boast.  It is a statement of fact. I am independent in that I don't need a man.  I have never received financial support from a man.  Ever.  Even as a child.  I also am not desperate.  I am happy single.  I don't know that men are turned off by independence.  I do think once they get an independent woman they try to make her dependent.  Some men are insecure and need female dependency. 

I do believe that if you are 100% independent, you don't need a man.  You may want one but your lack of neediness does enable one to have very high standards.  If the standards are never met, you can still live happily ever after.  If they are met, hey, you win the jackpot.

Depends on what is meant by "independence."  If by "independent woman," it is meant that she never needs anything from any man, ever, not companionship, not shared laughter, not intelligent conversation, not help of any kind(even to HELP move heavy furniture), then yep, i'd venture to say that most men would hate that kind of "independence." 

OTOH, if by "independent woman" is meant someone who prefers to carry her own weight, not be a financial burden or sucking leech, someone who takes responsibility for her own happiness and rarely-to-never tries to blame her circumstances or situation on someone else(usually the man in the relationship), then yep, THAT's the kind of independence MOST men would admire, respect, and greatly appreciate.

IMO.

Warmest regards-

Hatman

Jan 26, 2010 -- 9:02PM, Hatman wrote:

OTOH, if by "independent woman" is meant someone who prefers to carry her own weight, not be a financial burden or sucking leech, someone who takes responsibility for her own happiness and rarely-to-never tries to blame her circumstances or situation on someone else(usually the man in the relationship), then yep, THAT's the kind of independence MOST men would admire, respect, and greatly appreciate.  IMO.  Warmest regards-  Hatman

This is me, but the men I encounter thinks that I don't need them because I go my own. Just because I don't need you on a financial level doesn't men that you can help with other things. Such as emotional support, helping me with things around the house, etc. SOME men wants you to be Susy Homemaker and that's not me. I can't even start to fit into the mole. Not to say I want have my man's back or do things for him. BUT I have a problem with a man asking me when I'm going to cook for him when we haven't been on a first date yet.

2 men I have met seems to have an issue with this and my mouth. I'm very opiniated so...you know how that goes. I'm not try to dominate over a man. I looking for a partner and not someone trying to control and dominate over me.

Take a look at Elin, Tiger Woods wife..

She is gonna have enough "independent" self esteem to launch a couple of yachts after she is done with him.

I don't condone what Woods did here but she ain't no innocent in the field of selling your soul for financial "independence".

Has she forgiven him?? Whew my goodness. The man is shelling out millions to keep that gold digger on the line.

 

He should have cut her loose as well as his lawyers, and get on with his life.