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6 years ago  ::  Mar 23, 2009 - 2:10PM #1
appy20
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your freaking heads off.  I have, ahem, an admirer.   Heaven help me.


It is hilairous.  This falls into the "be careful what you pray for" categoy although, I haven't prayed this particular kind of prayer in years. 


This guy in one of the computer classes I teach who is 60+ is rather smitten with me.  Now, get this.  He is terrified of porn.  In fact, he dropped my computer class because he is afraid that he might get on a "bad site."  He is especially afraid of Craig's List due to some porn or pedophilia scandal on said site.  I explained to him that Craig's List wasn't going to jump out and grab him that he would actively have to go to the site.  The site wasn't going to him.  I couldn't convince him. Nonetheless, he is terrified.  Seriously, he is afraid of porn.  If he saw a naked woman pop up on his computer screen, this guy would have a stroke from the horror of it.


Now, the good news is this is a moral man.  The bad news, this is a stupid man.  He is so stupid he gives me the heebie jeebies.  LOL 


And of course, he visits me every day.  Walks in my office and spends lots of quality time with me.  Being that he is a patron, I have to put up with it.  He drives by my house. 


He was horrified when I told him I had tried online dating and had met non romantic online friends.  He was horrified.  He asked me why I would do the online dating thing and I told him that it is hard to meet guys that I have something in commong with in this area. 


Now, you guys can really laugh. He suggested I join the VFW.  He said they have great dances.  I tried not let the horror resonate in my voice or expression. I explained that I hated dancing.  Not to mention, that  yes, I am boring but geesh, even I am not that boring. I do like to travel.  I do have hobbies. 


It was a definite low point.  Although, funny one.


You guys can laugh now.


 

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6 years ago  ::  Mar 23, 2009 - 8:53PM #2
parkin
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It sounds nice, appy.  I'm not sure why you think everyone would laugh.  I say enjoy it...  I would hold off on all your judgements if you're able.  You may discover that there are different ways of being smart and while he may not be smart in the same way you see yourself as being, he may be smart in a way that compliments what you have. 


Try to keep an open mind about the different kinds of intelligences and that all people possess good qualities that can be admired and appreciated.  It might help you in your acceptance of others - even those who don't meet your impossible qualifications. 


 


And who knows? He may turn out to be a nice guy.  The afraid of porn thing seems a little strange, but you seem to like it and you're the one who has to approve.  Good luck! 

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6 years ago  ::  Mar 24, 2009 - 1:58AM #3
lil_lamb
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oh parkin, i'm sure you are right... but as an online friend of appy's (yes appy! no escape!)... LMAO!!!

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6 years ago  ::  Mar 24, 2009 - 8:42AM #4
appy20
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I like how he thinks porn is wrong and thinks it is horrible.  I do think his fear is a bit strange.  That doesn't come from strength.  I prefer guys who are disgusted by it but aren't afraid of it.  I prefer guys that think it is wrong and can restrain themselves without neuroticism. I would never date a guy who reads porn.


No, he is not my type.  I could never date a guy that I could not have a conversation with.  Listening to him is pure agony. 


I really do not want a man in my life.  I don't dislike being alone and to be with someone that does nothing for me is a waste of time.


 

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6 years ago  ::  Mar 24, 2009 - 8:46AM #5
appy20
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Lamb,


You are definitely a friend because you get the joke.  LMAO

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6 years ago  ::  Mar 24, 2009 - 9:32AM #6
Hipi75
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Being as paranoid as I am, the thing of driving past your house would scare the crap out of me.  I understand that if you're old school, it's ok, but it's too "stalkish" for my paranoid taste. But maybe I'm a bit too neurotic myself.


Besides that, if his conversation is not on your level to the point where it is annoying you, then he's not good company for you.  Just your luck, huh?

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6 years ago  ::  Mar 24, 2009 - 9:49AM #7
appy20
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He just drove once and I don't think he will be doing it again.  I think he was just nosy.  The thing about small towns is we know who the dangerous folks are.   He is vouched for on the safety issue.  I think that I just gave him the wrong signal and that is easy to do with customer service.  Some people mistake professionalism for friendship. 


He is definitely not my  type.  He may have many fine qualities but I really cannot imagine dating a guy who does not read or use computers.  Every time he opens his mouth, factual errors come pouring out.

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6 years ago  ::  Mar 24, 2009 - 10:10AM #8
appy20
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Parkin,


There are at least a dozen men in my family that meet my standards so they are not quite that impossible.  I can meet my standards and am far from perfect.  The guys I have dated met my standards.

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6 years ago  ::  Mar 24, 2009 - 2:13PM #9
frankieestep
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Oh Appy, I truly feel you on this one!!!!  Although computer literacy isn't a prerequisite for dating, intelligence is a must!!!  The poor old guy sounds like he's just lonely, and he sees your friendly nature as attractive.  I think he's just afraid of cyberspace, not the porn.  Of course, I do like the attitude toward the porn, but the fear is from the unknown, ie, cyberspace.  Just continue to be your sweet self, and let the old man have his illusion.  You don't have to actually go out with him or anything.  Just be nice and let this run it's course.

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6 years ago  ::  Mar 24, 2009 - 2:17PM #10
appy20
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I am very nice to him.  He means well.  I think he would make a fine boyfriend for someone else who is less nerdy and happy about being nerdy.  LOL


Thanks Earthfreak!  You haven't been on the Pets Board in a while.  We miss you there. You need to check out my new babies.

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