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6 years ago  ::  Sep 09, 2008 - 1:08PM #1
ideamade
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Anyone have a experience in getting a Catholic Annulment?  Looking for support or advice from someone who has been through the process.
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6 years ago  ::  Sep 09, 2008 - 9:28PM #2
soblessed3
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[QUOTE=ideamade;752397]Anyone have a experience in getting a Catholic Annulment?  Looking for support or advice from someone who has been through the process.[/QUOTE]
I almost went that way because of domestic violence. I was so afraid of "going against the religion" and I sat down and talked to the priest and his words were "get the hell out of there". So I think when a priest is telling you it's toxic then you had better listen. I know if you do it early it can be done.
I wish I could be of more help. Divorce is just horrible
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6 years ago  ::  Oct 04, 2008 - 1:08PM #3
walkingeagles
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Find  out from your parish priest who is trained to handle annulments in the church and he will direct you to such a priest  in your diocese. I am also thinking abt going that route.
I understand it all hinges on your states of mind at the day of the wedding. In my case I tried to get out of it but social pressure kept me quiet. Don't quote me, but what happens after that day is not important except for say abuse and or a wife or husband saying to the partner they want to have children then they say they don't. But check it out with your pries, he will direct you.
My brother got an annulment many years after he married . It was determined he was too immature at the time of the wedding.
Good Luck
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6 years ago  ::  Oct 23, 2008 - 2:25PM #4
ckwalk
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I was born Catholic and married in the Church in l965.  I divorced in 1972, knowing full well that I had no grounds for an annulment in the eyes of the Church.  I remarried in a Protestant church later.  Both the first and second husbands are now deceased.  So, where does that leave me?  I quit the Church when I divorced.  Did the mortal sin of breaking the vows of matrimony disappear at the death of the first husband?  What about all the mortal sins I committed by living (happily) in sin for 28 years?  I cannot in good conscience confess that I am sorry for committing these sins.  Yet the idea of returning to the Church is calling me.  Does anyone have any guidance?
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5 years ago  ::  Nov 16, 2008 - 5:46PM #5
ozee
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I agreed to an annulment through the Catholic Church because my ex is Catholic and wanted to remarry in the church. I'm Protestant, so it made no difference to me, and I wanted him to have peace and be happy. I had the right to read the testimony given but chose not to do that. However, a few months later, I realized that some of the things my daughter was telling me didn't come from her mind, but a much older mind. So, I went the Diocesan Marriage Tribunal office and read the testimony. I was shocked to discover that my ex had lied to his church. He went way beyond the truth, and said that I was an alcoholic (my father was, so I must be one too), a drug abuser, and child abuser. He called me a liar. Because he was the Catholic, nothing was done. He really didn't need to do all that. When we got married, we were young by today's standards, and I was pregnant. That was all that was necessary for him to say. If I had it to do over again, I would not cooperate with him on that.

Now our son is getting a divorce because he has cheated on his wife. I wonder. I WONDER. Where did he pick up those values?

If someone asks you to take part in a Catholic annulment, and you have no need to do so, do not do it!
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5 years ago  ::  Nov 16, 2008 - 5:46PM #6
ozee
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I agreed to an annulment through the Catholic Church because my ex is Catholic and wanted to remarry in the church. I'm Protestant, so it made no difference to me, and I wanted him to have peace and be happy. I had the right to read the testimony given but chose not to do that. However, a few months later, I realized that some of the things my daughter was telling me didn't come from her mind, but a much older mind. So, I went the Diocesan Marriage Tribunal office and read the testimony. I was shocked to discover that my ex had lied to his church. He went way beyond the truth, and said that I was an alcoholic (my father was, so I must be one too), a drug abuser, and child abuser. He called me a liar. Because he was the Catholic, nothing was done. He really didn't need to do all that. When we got married, we were young by today's standards, and I was pregnant. That was all that was necessary for him to say. If I had it to do over again, I would not cooperate with him on that.

Now our son is getting a divorce because he has cheated on his wife. I wonder. I WONDER. Where did he pick up those values?

If someone asks you to take part in a Catholic annulment, and you have no need to do so, do not do it!
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5 years ago  ::  Nov 21, 2008 - 8:41AM #7
Ceren
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ckwalk wrote:

I was born Catholic and married in the Church in l965. I divorced in 1972, knowing full well that I had no grounds for an annulment in the eyes of the Church. I remarried in a Protestant church later. Both the first and second husbands are now deceased. So, where does that leave me? I quit the Church when I divorced. Did the mortal sin of breaking the vows of matrimony disappear at the death of the first husband? What about all the mortal sins I committed by living (happily) in sin for 28 years? I cannot in good conscience confess that I am sorry for committing these sins. Yet the idea of returning to the Church is calling me. Does anyone have any guidance?



Please forgive me in advance because I'm not catholic but I found your post moving and wanted to give you my unqualified thoughts.

Have you thought that maybe it's not "the church" calling you but really God telling you to come back to Him?  I think this is something precious, feeling the "need to connect" again, and sadly some people don't get it back, ever :(

What I would do, if I were in your shoes, is go back. Go back and pray, and take it slowly one day at a time. You might have all kinds of questions, doubts, etc,etc. Maybe that can wait for now. Maybe you can just take the leap and jump and let God embrace you and let Him help you solve things. You don't need to have everything figured out from day 1.  Try to find a nice priest who can maybe help you in the baby steps.

All the best,
Ceren

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5 years ago  ::  Nov 28, 2008 - 7:35PM #8
ozee
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[QUOTE]So, where does that leave me?  I quit the Church when I divorced.  Did the mortal sin of breaking the vows of matrimony disappear at the death of the first husband?  What about all the mortal sins I committed by living (happily) in sin for 28 years?  I cannot in good conscience confess that I am sorry for committing these sins.  Yet the idea of returning to the Church is calling me.  Does anyone have any guidance?[/QUOTE]


Even though I'm not a Catholic, I know that if you want to go back to your church, you can. I would schedule an appointment with the parish priest, and talk with him about it. If he's a good priest, he'll help you sort things out, and help you get where you're supposed to be. God is calling you. Whether or not you go back to the Catholic Church is up to you.
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