I didn't wait. I feel like sex is part of falling in love, and it was part of my relationship. I don't have strong feelings about losing my virginity at all- it happened when it was supposed to happen.

[QUOTE=Sailorlal79;648013]I didn't wait. I feel like sex is part of falling in love, and it was part of my relationship. I don't have strong feelings about losing my virginity at all- it happened when it was supposed to happen.[/QUOTE]
Sailorlal79:
I agree with you~when it is suppposed to happen it will happen~ it's all up to the girl/boy and if they can cope with
the changes that are happening to them as they are "growing up"
I could handle what was happening to me~ Three of my cousins who were "sheilded by their parents" ~went
to their marriage beds virgins~no way not me! I wanted to know what sex was "about"
I didn't go to my marriage bed asking loads of questions~infact, my husband and I lived together for six months
before we got married just to "get the kinks out first,so that we'd be able to begin our married life" free of the
stress that "first time sex with a couple wouldn't be there"~ it made things easier for us!!!
If I'd had a daughter or son when they would have turned 14 I would have given each a supply of condoms~and
told them that if they were going to have sex that they had to use these to "stay healthy,and to prevent disease"
I would rather me a parent who was informed about my child's sexlife~than to have my child having sex
with out pretection or my knowledge~ Parents can't stop their children from having sex before marriage~ if they
do they run the risk of "giving their children a complex about sex" and being uptight adults later in life!

When I was a teen I told one of my cousin's who "had been sheilded" ~Big mistake on my part.
I thought that my cousin "would keep her mouth shut~wrong, she ran to her mom and her mom told my mother!
This became a "bone of contention between us for many years"~now we joke about it!

Thank you all for your answers, for myself both my husband and I were virgins on our wedding night, we had moved in together 6 months before we got married also to "work the kinks out". However, sex was not a part of that, we also did as much question answering before hand as possible. As for growing up, my mother told me early on, "If you do have sex just let me know so that we can get contraceptives, as much as I want grandkids I prefer to know when they are coming first." It was my choice to wait until I was married for just the reason BethK mentioned. Only I know my husband and only he knows me, there are no  comparisons he alone has the gift of my virginity and I alone have the gift of his. Now he did not have to be a virgin for me to marry him, that was a happy bonus. :D

[QUOTE=KatherineOrthodixie;652822]Certain religious traditions and faith communities believe in chastity, so your beliefs and values should decide your conduct, not your hormones.

(And FWIW, statistically, people who "live together" before marriage, have a higher rate of divorce.)[/QUOTE]

But have you ever wondered why?
If someone is so religious that they won't live with someone before they married, they usually too religious to have a divorce. I'm NOT saying that they don't, however they are less likely to. Even if the marriage turns out not to be a happy one.
Now for people who aren't religious they will live together and if things don't work out many choose to divorce. But I believe its more of a mind set than the living together.

[QUOTE=Evillynnstar;652844]I believe its more of a mind set than the living together.[/QUOTE]

I would agree with you. The mind set about living together would be the contributing factor.