I choose not to wait. I was 17 when I first had sex and I dumped the guy a month later. I understood the differences between sex and love, even back then. Some people would say "how terrible!" but with their being a rape every 2 seconds in the USA, I figured I could have lost it against my will, (like several girls I knew) which I figured would be far worst than dumping or being dumped by this boy I was seeing. So I had my share of partners until I found my husband. Virginity wasn't pushed on me. Neither of my parents were virgins when they married. Mind you they are now divorced. Still even my grandfather said "you gotta have a test drive before you buy the car." He and my grandmother were married from the mid 40s, until my grandmothers death in 2000. I never planned on getting married. I wanted to be a career woman and maybe adopt an older child as a single mom. I considered maybe seeing someone long term, but I didn't want to marry. My personal beliefs don't have any moral issues with sex before marriage. So I really had nothing to hold me back. I used protection and stayed clean. However at 22 I met my husband, we married four yrs later after we met. He wasn't a virgin, nor would date one. He and I feel that sexual connection was very important and neither of us wanted to deflower virgins. I don't regret my sexual past. I'm grateful for it. I learned a lot both sexually and about different people. Everyone who choose this, often have their ups and downs, but the experiences is worth it in my opinion.
I didn't wait. I feel like sex is part of falling in love, and it was part of my relationship. I don't have strong feelings about losing my virginity at all- it happened when it was supposed to happen.
I must admit this is more for pure curiosity. Personally I waited until my wedding night before I made love the first time. My reason was because I felt like it was the greatest gift I could give to my husband. Now it was not pleasant and most would say we were "incompatible" however I have found with time and work things are going great. My reasoning had nothing to do with religion although I know plenty do wait for just that reason, which to me is great. It just wasn't my reason. So, what are everyone else's feeling on the matter and why do you feel the way you do?
