[QUOTE=shiloh43;166478]its a man thing. it really is.[/QUOTE]


Well you know that "man thing" really sucks!

[QUOTE=Spunkie_Spirit;166465]Good evening...The last time I spoke to my guy on Sunday he told me how oh, so tired he was and wanted to get to bed.  He never even said Merry Christmas and said he "promised" to call me as soon as he got to work Wednesday morning.  Well it's late in the evening on Wednesday and I have not gotten a call.  His place of work is closed so...  He's such a creep sometimes.  Now I'm mad.  So now we'll argue when he does finally call.  If he would have called this am, I would have still been hurt, but we would not have argued.  Why does he do this, especially when he knows I'll be mad?[/QUOTE]

Nonsense. It's not a "man thing." It's a "selfish person who knows they can get away with treating people like this" thing.

Why put up with this?

i'm sorry, but i've heard that "he just has never had a real relationship" bs excuse way too many times before. If he's that lame at being in a relationship, nothing you will do will "fix" that. Find someone who DOES know how to play well with others.

[QUOTE=shiloh43;168169]Thats why i said its  aman thing, they only think of them selves and thats it. I bet a dollar to a donut though if he was in a sexless marriage he would be breaking down the doors to get to her though, which once again is selfish cause he still wouldnt be taking her feelings into consideration at all. its all about him. I least my friend called me and talked to me. so itsmore than hers is doing. I wish she would give up on him, find someone nice.[/QUOTE]

Hi shiloh, I wish I had the strength to give up on him.  We spoke (I called) this am for 40 minutes and he claims he's wondering what's going on with me.  I had shared with him last week that I'm having a hard time with things and he actually thought I was sitting home alone for the holiday's.  Not that he thought enough of me to call to check in with me.  I told him that I did what I do every Christmas and was not sitting home in the least.  I had told him last week that I was so down that I had isolated myself from my good friends.  He wants me to work things out with my friends whom I have isolated myself from because of the way they had treated me.  He can't understand what could be so bad that I can't get around it.  I don't know, all I can do is pray for strength.  I have too many other life issues to deal with.  I need to distach from him and this one...

Thats why i said its  aman thing, they only think of them selves and thats it. I bet a dollar to a donut though if he was in a sexless marriage he would be breaking down the doors to get to her though, which once again is selfish cause he still wouldnt be taking her feelings into consideration at all. its all about him. I least my friend called me and talked to me. so itsmore than hers is doing. I wish she would give up on him, find someone nice.