Hi. My husband is 39. He seems to have some issues that are hard for me to deal with.
He is going to therapy for his past childhood abuse yet I can't lie and say that some of his resulting patterns affect me negatively. For instance, we went over to a friends house and watched a movie that contained a lot of references to sex and drugs in a very raunchy way. He stepped out the living room and seemed very agitated and started to say that he thought people in the world were better than this and that it makes him feel gross being a human-why is he the only one who has a problem to this type of behavioral to this degree and whats wrong with him, etc? Obviously, its related to his abuse but he judges everything very quickly. If someone is wearing a short skirt; she is a slut. If someone works on a farm; they are illiterate in some way.
This frustrates me, scares me and makes me feel distant from him. I want to enjoy life and hold my values at the same time but with him, it's all walking on eggshells to make sure he doesn't get offended or somehow cause some further injury to his self esteem or cause an angry outburst due to his insecurity.  I am trying to be a caring partner but it is affecting my life. His answer to that is: Then maybe you should find someone else. (SIGH.)

Please offer some sound advice?
 
(I personally did not like the content of the movie myself but it didn't cause me to react in such a way. It didn't affect me so badly as it did him.)