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6 years ago  ::  Sep 25, 2008 - 12:04AM #1
lover454
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Can I ask you something is Darla reading into this and can she accept Phyllis’s answer when Phyllis said that Darla is thin and thin everywhere?

Phyllis and Darla went to see a movie When they were on the bus going home Phyllis saw a girl on flag outside a Karate school in a bikini.
Phyllis said "If you take Karate you can look like her too".
Darla: “Who are you talking about”
Phyllis: “YOU as meaning people in general“ (She said this when she pointed to the woman in the bikini
(Darla thought Phyllis meant that Phyllis did not think Darla was thin)
Darla: “Do you think I am thin”
Phyllis: “You are on the thin side”
They spoke about something else for about five minutes and then:
Darla: “Do you think I am thin?”
Phyllis: “You have a thin face”
Darla: “But I am thin every where”
Phyllis: “Yes you are. You know I have a friend who is thinner than us”
Darla: “But am I thin”
Phyllis: “No one would ever call you fat”
Darla: “What happened if I said if you do Karate you can look like her as well”
Phyllis: “I would have laughed”
Darla: “Do you think I am thin”
Phyllis: “Yes you can accept the fact you are thin”
Then they arrived at their destination and got off the bus. As they were walking the following conversation took place
Darla: “People are always telling me I don’t look like I eat”
Phyllis: “I would not go that far”
Darla: “You mean I don’t look anorexic”
Phyllis: “Yes you look healthy”
Darla: “Do you think you look healthy”
Phyllis: “Yes”
Darla: Everyone always tells me I look skinny”
Phyllis: “Well it is better than every one telling you that you are fat"
Darla is over the part about the Karate. But Darla keeps saying to herself if Phyllis just said "yes you are thin" then Darla would not have pursued it. But when they were sitting on the bus and Phyllis said "you have a thin face" which made Darla feel as if Phyllis did not think Darla was thin all over, HOWEVER, when Darla said “I am thin all over” PHYLLIS AGREED. Also Darla’s cousin Beth told Darla when Darla told Beth the story: NO ONE WOULD EVER MISTAKE YOU FOR BEING ANYTHING OTHER THAN THIN

THEN TWO DAYS LATER ON THE PHONE PHYLLIS CONFIRMED THAT SHE THINKS DARLA IS THIN. ALSO WHEN DARLA WAS SHOPPING FOR A BLOUSE SHE HELD UP A BLOUSE THAT WAS A SMALL AND A THIN WOMAN SAID "THAT IS GOING TO BE TOO BIG FOR YOU" AND THEN THE A FEW DAYS LATER DARLA  WAS LOOKING AT SOME OTHER CLOTHING ITEM AND ANOTHER WOMAN WAS THERE AND SAID "THESE CLOTHES RUN SMALL SO THAT IS OK FOR YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE SKINNY"

ALSO AN EMAIL THAT DARLA SENT TO PHYLLIS WAS “DO YOU THINK I AM THIN” AND DARLA SAID “I AM NOT GOING TO ANSWER THAT I ALREADY DID” AND DARLA EMAILED BACK “SO WHAT YOU ARE SAYING IS THAT I SHOULD JUST ACCEPT THE FACT YOU THINK I AM THIN” AND PHYLLIS EMAILED BACK” YES, EXACTLY”
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6 years ago  ::  Sep 25, 2008 - 12:04AM #2
lover454
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Can I ask you something is Darla reading into this and can she accept Phyllis’s answer when Phyllis said that Darla is thin and thin everywhere?

Phyllis and Darla went to see a movie When they were on the bus going home Phyllis saw a girl on flag outside a Karate school in a bikini.
Phyllis said "If you take Karate you can look like her too".
Darla: “Who are you talking about”
Phyllis: “YOU as meaning people in general“ (She said this when she pointed to the woman in the bikini
(Darla thought Phyllis meant that Phyllis did not think Darla was thin)
Darla: “Do you think I am thin”
Phyllis: “You are on the thin side”
They spoke about something else for about five minutes and then:
Darla: “Do you think I am thin?”
Phyllis: “You have a thin face”
Darla: “But I am thin every where”
Phyllis: “Yes you are. You know I have a friend who is thinner than us”
Darla: “But am I thin”
Phyllis: “No one would ever call you fat”
Darla: “What happened if I said if you do Karate you can look like her as well”
Phyllis: “I would have laughed”
Darla: “Do you think I am thin”
Phyllis: “Yes you can accept the fact you are thin”
Then they arrived at their destination and got off the bus. As they were walking the following conversation took place
Darla: “People are always telling me I don’t look like I eat”
Phyllis: “I would not go that far”
Darla: “You mean I don’t look anorexic”
Phyllis: “Yes you look healthy”
Darla: “Do you think you look healthy”
Phyllis: “Yes”
Darla: Everyone always tells me I look skinny”
Phyllis: “Well it is better than every one telling you that you are fat"
Darla is over the part about the Karate. But Darla keeps saying to herself if Phyllis just said "yes you are thin" then Darla would not have pursued it. But when they were sitting on the bus and Phyllis said "you have a thin face" which made Darla feel as if Phyllis did not think Darla was thin all over, HOWEVER, when Darla said “I am thin all over” PHYLLIS AGREED. Also Darla’s cousin Beth told Darla when Darla told Beth the story: NO ONE WOULD EVER MISTAKE YOU FOR BEING ANYTHING OTHER THAN THIN

THEN TWO DAYS LATER ON THE PHONE PHYLLIS CONFIRMED THAT SHE THINKS DARLA IS THIN. ALSO WHEN DARLA WAS SHOPPING FOR A BLOUSE SHE HELD UP A BLOUSE THAT WAS A SMALL AND A THIN WOMAN SAID "THAT IS GOING TO BE TOO BIG FOR YOU" AND THEN THE A FEW DAYS LATER DARLA  WAS LOOKING AT SOME OTHER CLOTHING ITEM AND ANOTHER WOMAN WAS THERE AND SAID "THESE CLOTHES RUN SMALL SO THAT IS OK FOR YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE SKINNY"

ALSO AN EMAIL THAT DARLA SENT TO PHYLLIS WAS “DO YOU THINK I AM THIN” AND DARLA SAID “I AM NOT GOING TO ANSWER THAT I ALREADY DID” AND DARLA EMAILED BACK “SO WHAT YOU ARE SAYING IS THAT I SHOULD JUST ACCEPT THE FACT YOU THINK I AM THIN” AND PHYLLIS EMAILED BACK” YES, EXACTLY”
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6 years ago  ::  Sep 25, 2008 - 10:38AM #3
DotNotInOz
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You have posted this sort of thing multiple times before.

GET SOME THERAPY. Any other advice from anyone here is pointless.
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6 years ago  ::  Jan 18, 2009 - 6:23AM #4
Karma_yeshe_dorje
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G'day lover454:

[QUOTE]Can I ask you something[/QUOTE]Repeatedly requesting reassurance, is an anxiety symptom predominant in [COLOR="Red"]Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder[/COLOR].

[QUOTE]Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a mental disorder most commonly characterized by intrusive, repetitive thoughts resulting in compulsive behaviors and mental acts that the person feels driven to perform[/QUOTE]~Wikipedia~

[QUOTE]NO ONE WOULD EVER MISTAKE YOU FOR BEING ANYTHING OTHER THAN THIN[/QUOTE]Please stop shouting! :eek:

G'day DotNotInOz:

[QUOTE]posted this sort of thing multiple times[/QUOTE]This [COLOR="Red"]repetition[/COLOR] is a classic obsessive-compulsive symptom.

[QUOTE]GET SOME THERAPY.[/QUOTE]A person whose mind is so mangled by [COLOR="red"]worry[/COLOR], is annoying for others to deal with.
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6 years ago  ::  Jan 19, 2009 - 8:02AM #5
IreneAdler
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Let’s try a different approach (although I think Karma has addressed this one perfectly!).

lover454- please indicate the height and weight of each individual in your narrative. Then we can calculate their BMI and tell you if they are obese, overweight or at their proper weight. OK?

Meanwhile, lover454, tell us about any new hobbies you have undertaken. Worrying constantly  about "thinness" must get exhausting after awhile.

Irene.
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