I thought I'd just let y'all know how this past weekend went,,,

My friend had her brother in town, so of course, we had to go out to breakfast with him Saturday AND Sunday, but I expected this,,,And I accomodated by splitting my extra 35 pts over two days,,,smaller meals, of course,,,,but I did manage to eat out twice without going off the diet.

yes, she tried to push a bit, but I just reminded her gently that I was STILL trying to lose weight, and needed to watch more closely than someone who was maintaining.  She pushed ice cream at me Sunday,,,,and I countered with low fat frozen yogurt (no sugar added) and had a very small amount,,,

I find she backs off alot sooner, if I counter with something else,,,If she wants a candy bar, I suggest fruit,,

If she wants McDonalds french fries, I counter with a baked potato (5 min in the micro) with fat free sour cream.

If I just say no, she pushes harder,,,If I find a healthier alternitive to what she wants, she stops.

Not sure what's up with that, but it works,,,,


Holly

[QUOTE=ItsAllALie;642661]I thought I'd just let y'all know how this past weekend went,,,

My friend had her brother in town, so of course, we had to go out to breakfast with him Saturday AND Sunday, but I expected this,,,And I accomodated by splitting my extra 35 pts over two days,,,smaller meals, of course,,,,but I did manage to eat out twice without going off the diet.

yes, she tried to push a bit, but I just reminded her gently that I was STILL trying to lose weight, and needed to watch more closely than someone who was maintaining.  She pushed ice cream at me Sunday,,,,and I countered with low fat frozen yogurt (no sugar added) and had a very small amount,,,

I find she backs off alot sooner, if I counter with something else,,,If she wants a candy bar, I suggest fruit,,

If she wants McDonalds french fries, I counter with a baked potato (5 min in the micro) with fat free sour cream.

If I just say no, she pushes harder,,,If I find a healthier alternitive to what she wants, she stops.

Not sure what's up with that, but it works,,,,


Holly[/QUOTE]

Very glad that you are standing your ground and staying to your eating plan.  That's hard to do when someone keeps at you, pushing unwise food choices.  You've got your eye on your goal and that's good!  Hope you don't run out of healthy food choices with which to counter her suggestions.

And good for you for keeping portions under control too. 

I really have to wonder why she persists, knowing that each food choice (french fries, ice cream) she suggests is not on the eating plan.  This starts to look less like her turning to food for emotional salve and more like out right sabotage.  But I'm not there, so really I can't be a good judge of this.   Don't let my words put ugly ideas into your head.

For me, I'd have some anger towards this; and that would drive me to distance myself from her.  But then, I might miss the friendship.  What a tangle!

I feel for you- Don't like seeing someone make such a mine field out of your eating plan.  Losing weight is frought with temptations as it is; why repeatedly add more to this?


Irene.