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Switch to Forum Live View How do you release anger?
10 years ago  ::  Dec 26, 2007 - 10:55PM #1
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Hi Everyone!  I have reccently started therapy and my psychologist asked me how I release all my anger.  I have the anger that stems from ordinary life but I also has anger from abuse, past relationships and my family.  The answer is I turn it inward into self loathing which is I recognise is very ugly indeed. 

So I'm looking for positive ways to release anger.  Any suggestions or things that work for you?
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10 years ago  ::  Dec 26, 2007 - 11:10PM #2
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Hey Skylark this is Rachel and this question to Me can be considerd the million dollar one! I have long wondered how do I let out My anger in such a way that it does not damage Me or anyone else? And I would have 2 say one way is confiding in a good friend that is non judgemental and will sympathize with what I am going through. I know another that works 4 Me is confronting face on what upset Me be it a situation or the person. It can be hard because emotions are involved but its so much better than allowing the anger to eat You up. Because I too start to persecute Myself but lately I confront the person as best as I can and even if they respond sour I did what I had to do and I stood up for how I was feeling! Well I hope I helped a little and You take care.               Love Rachel.
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10 years ago  ::  Dec 27, 2007 - 11:28AM #3
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First I realize that anger is an emotion, caused by my not being in control of a situation, that I want to have control.  Next, do a quick check to see if I'm responding with anger, due to my uni-polar (ask someone else, whose judgment I respect, if my anger is reasonable or not).  If not, go down my checklist of health steps to make sure I'm keeping to the program.  If all else fails, schedule an appointment with the therapist.

However, if the anger is reasonable, I try and figure out a way to change the situation so it doesn't invoke the anger response. If it is a personal relationship, I negotiate a truce, distance myself from the relationship, or end it all together.

In the end though, it boils down to simply realizing that once the situation that sparked the anger is in the past, I truly have to let it go.  That is where I rely on the training of my chosen spiritual path. 
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10 years ago  ::  Dec 27, 2007 - 1:57PM #4
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10 years ago  ::  Dec 29, 2007 - 4:52AM #5
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I have found in recent weeks that when I get angry about something I do one of two things: either I become introverted or I go to the gym.  More and more I find that working out is helping me alleviate my anger symptoms.  When I was younger I took Tae Kwon Do.  Practice was my outlet for my anger.  Now it's just being active physically.
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10 years ago  ::  Dec 30, 2007 - 3:49PM #6
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What I do when I am angry depends on why I am angry and how quickly I get angry. When it is something that has built up for a while I usually can talk it out. But if it is sprung upon me suddenly I will either get quiet and cry in private, or I am tearing through the house cleaning like a madwoman and barking orders at my family to help me. Usually a lot of sarcastic remarks are made. If I am mad at my husband or if it is because he is being very demanding I will give in and do whatever he is demanding of me but I do it with so much ill will and aggression that he ends up wishing he hadn't pushed me. Which is of course why I get like that. I am not advocating it or saying I am right. Just answering the question at hand. Oh... and I gripe... a lot... to anyone who will listen.
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10 years ago  ::  Jan 03, 2008 - 10:13AM #7
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For me, anger and past pain go hand in hand.  Holding on to anger is self-imprisonment.  The key is forgiveness...not easy, but within it is freedom.  Eckhart Tolle teaches:  If their pain was your pain, their past your past, you would think and act exactly as they do.  Realizing this brings forgiveness and freedom.  Understanding this has helped me to control my reactions in situations that trigger past pain. 

Also, exercise, healthy eating habits, and meditation have also contributed to keeping a balance in my life.

Take care and be good to yourself!
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10 years ago  ::  Jan 03, 2008 - 1:57PM #8
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10 years ago  ::  Jan 03, 2008 - 5:13PM #9
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Try following Freedom in CHRIST, this is a video by Neil T Anderson, It is hosted by Steve  Goss and will give you a pure heart and get rid of all your ghosts , from conmemming thoughts , Patterns of wrong behavior, Spiritual struggles and hopelessness , if you are going roung in cirles get a copy and follow it after a few weeks you will have renounced all evil and be ful of the holy spirit
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10 years ago  ::  Jan 08, 2008 - 12:44PM #10
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I experience different types of anger. I have an ongoing anger towards my parents for how my life was during my childhood years.
I have past anger towards my first husband for choosing drugs over our lives with our children.
I have past anger towards my second husband for taking my life away. And towards our one son for not wanting to see what damages that his father has caused my daughter Angel and myself.
I have ongoing anger for how my life is worse in many ways than a few years ago. Self anger for not being able to fix how my life is at this time of my life.

I keep myself bizzy most of the time by doing other things that may be little steps toward fixing how things are. I talk to my second husband without addressing the anger instead of avoiding him.

I speak with my daughters alot about anything and everything as friends and women instead of my daughter. Chocolate helps alot and helping others.
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