Feb 7, 2011 -- 3:33AM, Shamanmystic wrote:

Those who cannot forgive and move on are missing more than the one who invoked the response.

Those who hold resentments towards another find that it is themselves they truly undo and not the other which they cannot forgive.

"When a man sets out to murder another he should dig 2 graves. One for his victim and one for himself." - old chinese proverb

Hi Shamanmystic

I agree that we are all flawed and that's how we learn.  However, I'm not sure who is holding resentments or being unforgiving?  Did you feel that I was demonstrating this?

This is about a painful situation and how to find a respectful way to confront a person who holds a place of honour in one's life.  Whatever healing may be required I may not even be a part of but this uncomfortable and difficult situation needs to be addressed so I asked here to gauge how others would approach it.

Feb 7, 2011 -- 3:33AM, Shamanmystic wrote:

Hope your "elder" finds their way back. Personally I would approach the person in private. Is it not enough that all the worlds a stage. Must one open wounds up for the evil gossips of others.

So do I, and it was the same advice given by my spirits too.  I've walked away from too many situations in the past because there was corruption or something which piqued my integrity but this time I need to perhaps be there to help rather than walking away.

Feb 7, 2011 -- 2:50PM, writingal1 wrote:

The incident is described in detail by Forest Child in Post #9 above.


(This is to save them from having to re-type the whole painful and harrowing incident.)

thanks... That cleared a few things up real fast.  Wow.

I think the elder might be upset that she never had children.

Being a parent myself, (my son is like 25 now), I dont know how many nonparents I've had try to tell me the "best " way to raise my child. My motto is: "Get one yourself then we'll compare notes..  Until then mind your own business as your operating from theory and not reality".  lol

Really is kinda strange why your elder went ballistic.. Maybe u should ask a few more questions.. People have bad days.. Who doesn't? Denial is a vicious opponent.

Of course could be old timers kicking in (mood / personality change) and decreased poor judgement see 10 signs of Alzheimers. Alzheimers is tough. I had a friend who's dad was the nicest fella.. By the time he was 55 he was a mess. He'd go ballistic at the drop of a dime. Then minutes later forget all about it. We'd find him doing stupid stuff like standing outside watering the lawn and it was snowing..  Man I felt for my friend.. We grew up together. His dad use to take us fishing, etc.. He was a really nice fella and within a three yr period wham.

I 'm actually curious if u can remeber exactly what she was ranting about ie do u remember what she was talking about? If u could just imagine yourself there again though standing outside the situation as an objective observer. Could u focus on the dialogue uttered from her mouth? That alone might give u some insight.