Salaam and thank you.

I think I already found that person but you seem to have worked out the outcome :-(

Best wishes

DT

Salaam

I wish we were still in touch, he was my best friend. I also hear he is in touch with two others, one is a mutual friend of him and his wife! I don't think he is happy, but then I don't think ever will be. Begining to wonder what was true and what wasn't but best not to think about it, I don't want to get depressed again.

Peace and love

DT

May 25, 2009 -- 5:52PM, Deep Thought wrote:

Why are they so cruel? Why do they lie and cheat and why do I believe it? What exactly did he get out of it? Apart from totally ruining my life, is it a sick game????

Peace

DT

I would like to think that most men don't do it out of cruelty. I think in those cultures, a paradigm shift is beginning, so it's painful and confusing.

I think that in the past, people grew up "back home" didn't really talk to much to the opposite sex, knew they were gonna marry their families choice... and just grew up like that. Marriage was based on love, but many times a different kind of love. A love that usually developed after marriage, etc, etc.

Now the new generation comes to other places and sees that there's a different paradigm, they start talking to women and... feelings develop! And I guess people just don't know how to deal with those 2 opposing forces... the feelings for one woman, and the family's choice. So I think because of this difficult situation they're put in, they do all kinds of wrong things, things get messed up, people get hurt, etc, etc.  In the end, they go with the family's choice.

I am hoping that this generation is learning from these things and that, when they become parents, they will do things differently.

All the best,

Ceren