[QUOTE=marleighF91;352662]Ok. I've done some studying on the temple and I've come to the conclusion that I still want to get married in the temple and I would still really like for the man standing next to me to be Alex, but he said a comment last weekend that really makes me think otherwise. I'm still going to be his girlfriend, I just want to know everytihng I can possibly do to get back to being able to go to the temple.[/QUOTE]

What'd he say?

[QUOTE=Ironhold;352756]What'd he say?[/QUOTE]

He said that he really loved me, but he couldn't see himself becoming Mormon and having to follow all those rules. Then he told me all these things that he heard Mormons can't do in bed. He just shook his head and said, "damn Mormons."

[QUOTE=marleighF91;360482]He said that he really loved me, but he couldn't see himself becoming Mormon and having to follow all those rules.

Has he actually even tried to live like a member of the church?

Critics like to rag on how they think that membership in the church is restrictive without ever actually having lived it.

Then he told me all these things that he heard Mormons can't do in bed. He just shook his head and said, "damn Mormons."[/QUOTE]

To my knowledge, that area is between a husband and a wife.

It sounds like you have a decision to make.  I really think you deserve better of a man, than someone who cannot respect your wishes.   Let's talk practicalities.   If this is the man who you are going to spend your life with, don't you want him to share your dreams, your hopes?  The church is only one point, but what about raising children, where you want to live  what about what you want to teach your own daughters?

The good news is, you are young.  way too young to be even thinking about these things   You have gotten way too serious with this guy, and in the next few years, you and he are going to change a lot.  already you are changing and he is not moving with you.  This is what happens when you have sex so young.  you end up deciding things you aren't ready for.  Take a break.  Stop having sex with him.  Stop dating him altogether in fact.  Step back and decide on your own, what you want in life.  Then make yourself that person, and whoever sees what you have become and loves it.  That is the man who should be father to your children.  I don't think it's this guy though.

[QUOTE=moksha8088;361059]Not true.  What happens between husband and wife is their business.[/QUOTE]

The only time the church would get involved is if we were looking at actual spousal abuse or if the children were negatively impacted.