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6 years ago  ::  Mar 15, 2009 - 7:41PM #1
Wmdkitty
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In meetings you hear slogans like, "It's the AA way or the highway" or, "One drink will kill you," even "if you leave (AA), you will die." They will convince you that you are a "hopeless, helpless addict" and tear you down until they can "rebuild" you to fit their little 12-step cult. (And never mind that most people who quit their "addiction" quit ON THEIR OWN, just ignore the man behind the curtain...)




There IS another way. Rather, there are other WAYS, and they WORK. Please, if you struggle with any kind of addiction, look into these proven programs, and don't let the police, prosecutor, or judge force the 12-Step Cult on you or your loved ones.




www.smartrecovery.org




www.rational.org


"The real reason that we can't have the Ten Commandments in a courthouse: You cannot post "Thou shalt not steal", Thou shalt not commit adultery" and "Thou shalt not lie" in a building full of lawyers, judges and politicians. It creates a hostile work environment." -- George Carlin
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6 years ago  ::  Mar 15, 2009 - 7:51PM #2
sixth step phobia
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Well, monday morning welcome, what kind of weekend did you have stuck in your own mind??


Agnostic Spirit this abuse of AA must stop it goes against everything this internet site is supposed to stand for (love, support, comfort, empathy humility, there is nothing but snidiness, cruelty, malice and disdain in kitties posts about AA)


Sure talk about smart recovery, or rational, secular, emotive techniques all you want but stop trashing AA because you have a greivance


Heres a novel idea use REBT to get over the "greivance" or isnt it working for you

Spiritual awakening is awakening from the dream of thought
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6 years ago  ::  Mar 15, 2009 - 8:38PM #3
Kapha44
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Mar 15, 2009 -- 7:51PM, sixth step phobia wrote:


Well, monday morning welcome, what kind of weekend did you have stuck in your own mind??


Agnostic Spirit this abuse of AA must stop it goes against everything this internet site is supposed to stand for (love, support, comfort, empathy humility, there is nothing but snidiness, cruelty, malice and disdain in kitties posts about AA)


Sure talk about smart recovery, or rational, secular, emotive techniques all you want but stop trashing AA because you have a greivance


Heres a novel idea use REBT to get over the "greivance" or isnt it working for you




SSP,


What works for me is actually reading some of the criticisms. Orange papers is one of them. He makes some valid points but for the most part is over the top.


Here is a quote from a guy named Burney that makes sense.


"Unfortunately there is still wide misunderstanding about the 12 step programs - including people who claim it is a cult.  I received a hate e-mail last week (October 2008) from someone who said I should be taken out and shot for misleading people - and included a link to a site that claims Alcoholics Anonymous is cult.  It is sad that someone has been so wounded in their experience of AA that they would send this kind of profanity laced threat.  Unfortunately the way the 12 steps are practiced in AA - and sometimes in other 12 step programs - can manifest in ways that are not aligned with the Spiritual Principles that are the True foundation the 12 step process."


What that statement tells me is that there is some kind of a severe dislike on the part of some people with the notion of a higher power. Personally I refuse to get into any ego battles or pissing contests as to how to deal with addiction.

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6 years ago  ::  Mar 15, 2009 - 9:33PM #4
sixth step phobia
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Kapha, point taken


I never was much good at writing my name in the sand


There ain't no snow down here


LOL


Monday mornings find me grumpy at times


Thanks for the reality check

Spiritual awakening is awakening from the dream of thought
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6 years ago  ::  Mar 15, 2009 - 11:39PM #5
Agnosticspirit
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Mar 15, 2009 -- 7:51PM, sixth step phobia wrote:


Well, monday morning welcome, what kind of weekend did you have stuck in your own mind??


Agnostic Spirit this abuse of AA must stop it goes against everything this internet site is supposed to stand for (love, support, comfort, empathy humility, there is nothing but snidiness, cruelty, malice and disdain in kitties posts about AA)


Sure talk about smart recovery, or rational, secular, emotive techniques all you want but stop trashing AA because you have a greivance


Heres a novel idea use REBT to get over the "greivance" or isnt it working for you



Hey ssp --- wow, Monday morning already? Still Sunday night here....


I'm curious... How does one go about "abusing" AA? :) How does one go about abusing the Catholic church or any other organization? Organizations can't be abused... members WITHIN the organizations can be abused. I don't see how an organization can be "hurt" by critique, and I certainly see the potential for REAL abuse when any institution is ABOVE critique. Nothing and no one should be above question, comment, disagreement, debate, or second guessing.


This forum isn't and shouldn't be limited to platitudes. Comfort isn't always "nice" --- we try to be kind, however. And kindness isn't always telling another what they want to hear, but what they NEED to hear.


Some who critique AA may very well have a grievance and they may have good reasons for those. No need to attribute anyone who doesn't agree with the AA approach with intentional malice.... dissent and disagreement, but malice seems an exaggeration in this case. As Kappha's post points out, however, some people have a severe dislike of AA, just as some who really like AA appear to have a severe distaste for those who DON'T like AA... :)


We human beings..... always gonna find something to argue about....


Regardless, this thread is now locked. We already have the "AA cult?"  thread  for critics to poke holes into AA, NA ---  no reason for another.


With the new forum tools, I can't move posts at this time....grrr..... if anyone who's participated in this thread would like to copy their post from this one and paste it into the Cult thread, you're more than welcome to do so.


Kind regards and hugs for all,


--- AS

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6 years ago  ::  Mar 17, 2009 - 5:48PM #6
Agnosticspirit
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OK, good news all around! I asked staff to take a look at this thread. It was suggested that rather than keep this locked, we move it to another forum. This will give the OP an opportunity to fully develop her idea, and those who would prefer to opt out of this conversation won't need to see if on A&R. We have the cult thread for that one... :)


 


For those of you that would like to continue this conversation, you are now free to move about the country.... er.... forums.... :)


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