I am alone and want to have someone to share my life with. Why is it so hard to find someone? Does anyone have any ideas on what to do next? I've tried dating sites and all that. I am unemployeed, so I can't meet anyone at work. I've tried church, too.

Just looking for new ideas...and prayers, as well. God's Child Sandra

Thank you very much...I will look for this blog and read it. Appreciate you taking the time <>

Stardove you are a sweetie. Thank you for your comment.

Several years agao I lost the love of my life to meth. (Ironically his name is Tom; like your friend's new love) My son and I went through a lot of abuse before his dad/my x took off permanently into that lifestyle. I'd love to find a nice man that is Christian and caring. Not only for myself, but maybe someone my son could look up to as well. It's been hard on my son. His heart is hardened. His father never even said good-bye to him and doesn't acknowledge him at all. They used to be close. Anyway, thanks for that uplifting comment Stardove! And please pray for my son Joshua if you have the time!! He's a picture of him with one of the best smiles I've seen on him in a few years. Thanks again, hun!!

I meet the most interesting people, women and men, when I am pursung my interests--the walking trail, the bookshop coffee shops. lectures and etc. 

Stardove,

Thank you again for the reminder about love and lovable. It does seem that Josh needs to hear this more. I will try to tell him so more than I have been. I will try to talk with him more about this. Josh has become very stubborn in the last few years and quite cold to me about things. He has to be nagged endlessly about everything that has to do with his responsibilities...except his job. He takes care of that.

It is hard for me not to take his attitude personally cuz the things he is stubborn about are family things and house things. If it's for his friends, he's right there for them. But with me and our home...nope! He says he will do something and then just doesn't do it...then says the reason he doesn't do the things I ask is "I don't know" (meaning he doesn't know) or his reason is because I AM RETARDED! Unfortunately these lame answers sound just like his father before his father left. (Although I don't tell Josh that) It's very painful. I have talked to Josh about the fact that his father CHOSE drugs...that we did not force him into it, nor were we bad people that CAUSED him to use drugs. I will try to be more loving to my son even tho he really doesn't give me 5 minutes a day. It's so hard to even praise him because even when he gets up in the morning he will just walk past me in the kitchen and say nothing to me as if I am not there! Even if I say Good Morning to him, he often does not respond. And then if I ask him if he heard me, he says "yes"...but nothing else; doesn't even look in my direction!

I hate what is happening between us! Please keep us in your prayers and I will pray for the strength to react the best way that the Lord wants me to. Thanks again, hun!

Sandra