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6 years ago  ::  Jul 27, 2008 - 12:42AM #1
buddhistgabby
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Hey everyone. I'm a buddhist, but i live in a VERY christian town, so i get a TON of discrimination at school. also, i'm the only buddhist in my family, and i have to hide it from them.(my mom, dad, brother, and sister know that i am a buddhist, and they are very accepting of that. [they are spiritualists] but i can't tell my aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc.) does anybody have any advice?
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6 years ago  ::  Aug 01, 2008 - 10:25PM #2
Fish117
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Well, I have a similar background. I live in a pretty big town, but very very very few Buddhists, and I have to hide it from my parents and siblings. This is something I've done for a few years now, and I used to get really hung up on what I should "do". Well, it dawned on me one day that I didn't really need to do anything. Buddhism was something I could practice without telling my family. I still go to church with them, I can see a lot of what Jesus was talking about as being Buddhist (which might be a good discussion for another time).

So here's my advice to you:
You shouldn't deceive people into believing you are something that you aren't. But that doesn't mean that you have to advertise it, either. Practicing Buddhism isn't something you should hide from your family, just don't bring it up. Odds are, they're not going to ask you if you're Buddhist.
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6 years ago  ::  Aug 01, 2008 - 10:25PM #3
Fish117
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Well, I have a similar background. I live in a pretty big town, but very very very few Buddhists, and I have to hide it from my parents and siblings. This is something I've done for a few years now, and I used to get really hung up on what I should "do". Well, it dawned on me one day that I didn't really need to do anything. Buddhism was something I could practice without telling my family. I still go to church with them, I can see a lot of what Jesus was talking about as being Buddhist (which might be a good discussion for another time).

So here's my advice to you:
You shouldn't deceive people into believing you are something that you aren't. But that doesn't mean that you have to advertise it, either. Practicing Buddhism isn't something you should hide from your family, just don't bring it up. Odds are, they're not going to ask you if you're Buddhist.
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6 years ago  ::  Sep 05, 2008 - 3:51AM #4
sampuna
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[QUOTE=Fish117;663607]
You shouldn't deceive people into believing you are something that you aren't. But that doesn't mean that you have to advertise it, either. Practicing Buddhism isn't something you should hide from your family, just don't bring it up. Odds are, they're not going to ask you if you're Buddhist.[/QUOTE]


well said!

i live in a Muslim country and i get that often. They'll tell me that i'm an idolater, Buddhism is a false religion etc... In the Brahmajala Sutta, a similar incident was recorded and the Buddha told his disciples the way to face this situation:

""Venerable Sir! As the night ended and the day dawned, we congregated in this pavilion and the following conversation arose:

      'Friends! How wonderful! And, indeed, how marvellous, friends, that what has never happened before has now happened! The Exalted One, the All-knowing, the All-seeing, the Homage-Worthy, the Perfectly Self-Enlight ened, understands with clear penetration the varied dispositions of sentient beings. This wandering ascetic, Suppiya, maligned the Buddha, the Dhamma and the Samgha in many ways, whereas his pupil, the youth Brahmadat ta, praised the Buddha, the Dhamma and the Samgha in many ways. The teacher and the pupil, each say ing things directly contradictory to the other, followed behind the Bhagava and the company of bhikkhus."

      "This, Venerable Sir, was the unfinished conversation before the Bhagava came in.

      Bhikkhus! if others should malign the Buddha, the Dhamma and the Samgha, you must not feel resentment, nor displeasure, nor anger on that account.

      Bhikkhus! If you feel angry or displeased when others malign the Buddha, the Dhamma and the Samgha, it will only be harmful to you (because then you will not be able to practise the dhamma).

      Bhikkhus! If you feel angry or displeased when others malign the Buddha, the Dhamma and the Samgha, will you be able to discriminatc their good speech from bad?

      "No, indeed, Venerable Sir!" said the bhikkhus.

      If others malign me or the Dhamma, or the Samgha, you should explain (to them what is false as false, saying 'It is not so. It is not true. It is, indeed, not thus with us. Such fault is not to be found among us.'

     Bhikkhus! If others should praise the Buddha, the Dhamma and the Samgha, you should not, feel pleased, or delighted, or elated on that account.

      Bhikkhus! If you feel pleased, or delighted, or elated, when others praise me, or the Dhamma, or the Samgha, it will only be harmful to you.5

      Bhikkhus! If others praise me, or the Dhamma, or the Samgha, you should admit what is true as true, saying 'It is so. It is true. It is, indeed, thus with us. In fact, it is to be found among us.'


good luck!
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