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2 years ago  ::  Oct 16, 2012 - 1:01AM #1
Cocobebe
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I just turned 40 this year.  Divorced on once.  Broke up with my boyfriend in April due to domestic violence.  I have a 3 year old baby with him.  Just started dating last month.  Been on one date with this guy once and he didn't value my daugther or my time so I rejected his date 3 times.  So finally I met this guy online.  He's 11 years to my junior.  Very charming and cute but I suspect that he's a player.  I'm an insecure person.  I try not to be but I am one.  I've however become a happier person and more self confident after I broke up with my ex.  I dated this guy for two weeks after exchanging emails and phone calls for a month.  He even bought me back to meet his family last weekend bc it was his Mom's birthday.  He always ask about my daugth her everyday and says he cares a great deal about her.  What's bothering me is he's constantly talking about women he has dated in the past (well so did I) but I'm a jealous person and he's not.  Hei said that my jealousy is driving him crazy.  I told him if he doesn't make me feel insecure I won't feel that way.  I think he bought me to see his family bc I was going to go on a date with someone else that night and also to make me feel secure.  He never stops talking about other woman.  Tonight we kind of have an disagreement and he basically told me that my jealou\yis driving him crazy.  He told me he's not a jealous person and its just his way of talking about other women as a joke (that's just him) but the problem is its really bothering me and I was borned as a jealous person.  I also wanted to date this other guy.  Should I just move on bc this is not the right match.  We have so much fun and passion but I guess this is just temporary.

I'm a beautiful and deserible women and my Dad told me that people like me should just date and have fun and not have a serious relationship but I just can't do that.  When I am with someone I just can't help myself to be emotional involved.  Should I just not date and focus on myself and my daugther and my career?
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2 years ago  ::  Oct 16, 2012 - 9:08PM #2
REteach
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Your dad is right. How will you find the right guy, or even know who the right guy is, if you want to cling to/suffocate every guy you date.  


You are apparently confident enough to make it on your own.  Keep it that way.  When Mr Right comes along, you won't be jealous and you won't be insecure.  Those are both signs that you are not ready and he is not right.  

I know you believe you understand what you think I said, but I am not sure you realize what you heard was not what I meant...
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2 years ago  ::  Oct 16, 2012 - 10:15PM #3
Hatman
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With emphasis on the "he is not right" part.
Any man who can't stop talking about his previous relationships---or thinks that discussion of them will help grow a relationship with a new woman---is pretty-much an idiot you need to cut ties with like yesterday, no matter how much he asks after your daughter's well-being or shows his care for her.

i've never understood anyone who (at least seems to) repeatedly do things they KNOW are hurtful to another, then when confronted, come up with "i was only joking" as an half-a**ed answer.'

i don't think it's really necessary to cut ties with all men and concentrate exclusively on your career and your daughter, either, but be very prudent and selective.

Warmest regards-

Hatman
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1 year ago  ::  Nov 01, 2012 - 4:48AM #4
Ksushil970
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Oct 16, 2012 -- 1:01AM, Cocobebe wrote:

I just turned 40 this year.  Divorced on once.  Broke up with my boyfriend in April due to domestic violence.  I have a 3 year old baby with him.  Just started dating last month.  Been on one date with this guy once and he didn't value my daugther or my time so I rejected his date 3 times.  So finally I met this guy online.  He's 11 years to my junior.  Very charming and cute but I suspect that he's a player.  I'm an insecure person.  I try not to be but I am one.  I've however become a happier person and more self confident after I broke up with my ex.  I dated this guy for two weeks after exchanging emails and phone calls for a month.  He even bought me back to meet his family last weekend bc it was his Mom's birthday.  He always ask about my daugth her everyday and says he cares a great deal about her.  What's bothering me is he's constantly talking about women he has dated in the past (well so did I) but I'm a jealous person and he's not.  Hei said that my jealousy is driving him crazy.  I told him if he doesn't make me feel insecure I won't feel that way.  I think he bought me to see his family bc I was going to go on a date with someone else that night and also to make me feel secure.  He never stops talking about other woman.  Tonight we kind of have an disagreement and he basically told me that my jealou\yis driving him crazy.  He told me he's not a jealous person and its just his way of talking about other women as a joke (that's just him) but the problem is its really bothering me and I was borned as a jealous person.  I also wanted to date this other guy.  Should I just move on bc this is not the right match.  We have so much fun and passion but I guess this is just temporary.

I'm a beautiful and deserible women and my Dad told me that people like me should just date and have fun and not have a serious relationship but I just can't do that.  When I am with someone I just can't help myself to be emotional involved.  Should I just not date and focus on myself and my daugther and my career?


Try being yourself and leave the rest to your fate. It is something that when you feel like going into a serious relationship, let all the questions arise, find answers to it and then go on with the relation.




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