A committed relationsip, whether it is an engagement, a common law marriage or a legal marriage, is a covenant between two people who trust one another. Snooping is a definite no-no! If trust is not the basis of your relationship, then you don't have a real relationship.

Any sex therapist who recommends snooping is 'way off base! Is it just me, or does the fact that sex therapists have a role to play in our society indicate that there's too much enphasis on sex? When I got married 49 years ago, my mother reminded me that sex is 10% of a good marriage and 90% of a bad one. Anyone who feels the need the need to snoop and invade a partner's privacy already has a relationship that is in trouble.