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Flag sabrinaswinter April 28, 2009 7:42 PM EDT

I am inviting all ladies to participate in a Spiritual Awakening and Weight Loss Support Group.  All are welcome to share in the inner journey.  As women, I feel we are all Goddesses and all beautiful.  Our bodies are our temples.  I want to see us soar to the stars of good health, happiness, inner acceptance and power.

I started a Goddess Power Weight Loss Support group and we are going to just move it here.  All are welcome and all are cherished.  May the feminine face of God forever be blessed.  All traditions are welcomed!  The universe is about love and love first starts from within.  As we become more empowered, the world becomes more blessed.  Love is truly divine.

Flag MelissaHlovesGod April 28, 2009 9:25 PM EDT

It took me a little while to get here but I found you. So how are you going to run this support group? Is it going to be anything like women power? I think the last support group had some good points in it, it just fizzled out at the end. When it fizzled out, I lost my motivation and a lot of my support, and gained a lot of my weight back. So now I have to lose it again. I am, however, going to a bariatric support group the third Tuesday of every month and to water aerobics starting next Wednesday three days a week. Even though I will be "attending" college. I'm going to have a lot on my plate, but I sort of like having a lot on my plate. And I am learning that I can take out time for me and not feel guilty for it.

I hope this support group is a huge success. I will pray for it to become so and I will come back if I can find my way. I think I will need the support. I still need to lose a hundred pounds before the doctor will allow a surgeon to take a look at me for bariatric surgery.

May God Bless You. Have a blessed night and an even more blessed tomorrow.


Flag iczbez April 29, 2009 2:12 AM EDT

Hi Wendy , Melissa and girlfriends,

 Good to see you gals on board again. Our old thread had a long run. Things change and here we are now.  Check back with you soon. Wendy, did you send all of the gals a note; Susie, Lily Diana, Cathy and Alice.


Flag iczbez April 29, 2009 2:26 PM EDT

Spirtual awakening; I think that is something that I need at this time to get me back into sinc. For sometime, it is one crisis after another. Since I don't smoke anymore, the food thing is centre stage.

Next week, I will start into my 6th month of stopping smoking. I gained 37lbs. I could cry!!

Flag westlilies April 30, 2009 10:07 PM EDT

Hello Wendy and friends...thanks for the invite to join your new discussion.  What a wonderful approach to this subject!  Norris has had great success at weight loss through faith and prayer. So...we begin. It occurs to me that the "real me" is not always in charge of my choices. In the past I have merely gone along with the crowd, followed my emotions, or...I'd make good food choices but didn't exercise.  And if I success was short lived!  God is my strength in so many other areas of life...but I must admit that I haven't turned to Him concerning my lifestyle. It always seemed my responsibility not His.  Some people 'fast' and pray.  Others follow diets based on old testament dietary laws.  As for me, I'm going to simply pray for guidance and self control. When I mentioned the 'real me' earlier I have to say that when I think about my inner person and then look in the mirror at my body they don't match!  Irene, you said you could cry.
It might make you feel better to let go of some of those emotions you have held back for so long. Cry out to God...I believe He hears us especially when we cry.  Check out Psalm 34:17.  Melissa,
you are so ambitious! Now that you have connected with Wendy's forum you'll get back on track.
Talk to you all soon,  Lily

Flag sabrinaswinter May 4, 2009 1:12 PM EDT

Dear Irene, Melissa and Lily:

I am so happy you found our new thread.  I feel we can add to girl power by adding God power.  God made us and adores us, so it is time to adore who we are.

Lily, you touch on so many issues.  I also feel like crying when I look into a mirror.  The inner person does not match my outer person and food choices are an issue.  I feel in my heart that I can't do this in my own strength.  I am open to all faiths, but feel in my heart that for us to be a true success, we have to have two things helping us--Spirituality and Girl Power.  Self-esteem is key to weight loss.  Today I ask that you and all the other girls join me and loving who we are in the right now and acting as if our prayer was already answered by God himself.

Melissa:  I also have a 100 pounds to lose.  You are not alone.  I'm so proud that you are going back to school.  I will include you in my prayers.  Thank you for joining us.

Irene, we can beat this weight thing, girl.  Give it up to God.  Smoking is so hard. I truly understand.

Okay.  What is our plan?  How can we make this better?  The reason I chose the woman only format is the following:  Women have more pressure in our society to look a certain way than men.  I want us to focus on our heart and our heart health.  Also I felt our girlpower group lasted so long because it was geared to women and women's special needs.  We are like a sisterhood and we can do it.

What is the game plan?  Please share yours as well.

!.  Love God or Any Spiritual Tradition which empowers you be it Buddhist, Hindu, Jewish or any other religion.  All faiths are welcome.  Carl Jung spoke of archetypes for empowerment.  Whomever inspires you, go for it.  Let your heart decide!

2. Choose a diet plan that agrees with you.  I'm aiming toward semi-vegetarian for personal reasons and will focus on that.  Also I'm counting calories.  But if Atkins works for you, go for it.  If it is Weight Watcher's, go for it.  Weight Watchers is expensive, but you can Check Dottie's Weight Loss Zone for some Weight Watcher tips. Also one's public library may have Weight Watcher Magazines.  If one has a medical condition, check with a doctor.  For example, if one is on Coumadin,

3.  Dr. Oz is wonderful.  He recommends more fruits and vegetables along with eight glasses of water a day.

4.  Ladies, garlic salt or garlic pepper tastes good on things.  Try it.

5.  A food journal is a must.

6.  Dr. Phil's paradigm or keys:  Right Thinking (Encourage yourself), Healing Feelings (don't label yourself because of something negative.), No Fail Environment (no goodies in the house), high nutrition (an orange is better than orange juice.  Food you have to work on to eat.), Intenional Exercise (Do something once a day), and Circle of Support (Friends on a Mission).  I suggest Dr. Phil's son's book, Jay McGraw, and Weight Loss for Teen.  Even though we are beautiful ladies and not teenagers, Jay's book is more fun, simple, easy listening and he gives fun journal exercises.  Such as how to deal with people who ridicule a person who is heavy,  he suggests coming up with a response.  Let's work on this.  As a woman, I have dealt with garbage and a sassy and fun comeback lessens things and yet, enables one to stand up for oneself.  We do not tolerate prejudice against others because of race or creed.  Fat prejudice is very real.  One come back I like is when someone calls me fat and ugly, I tell them the following:  "Botticelli, the famous Renaissance painter didn't think so.  He pained Aphrodite and she is zofting.  I don't see any twigs in the Met!  Besides why should I argue with Rubins?"  Memorize a resonspe. This prevents one from internalizing negativity and taking it to heart. 

7.  Even if you fall off the wagon, stay.  I notice (myself included) that I get down if I'm not compliant

8.  If one is stressed, talk here rather than eat when you are not hungry.  Let us be your sounding board.  Get the feelings out so that they don't become toxic.

9.  Start with baby steps or mini goals.  I have not had beef in three weeks.  Even though I'm Christian, I do love Hinduism.  My first guru was Gurudeva and I feel a need to honor the sacred cow concept.  This is what my spirit is calling forth.  Start with a small step that makes your heart happy.  Let's say walking 10 minutes a day.  The following week make it 12.  Start with one step.

10.  There is no judgement here.  If you are struggling with weight and slip up, let's find out why.  It could be a death in the family or depression.  Talk!  Even if you can't stick to a diet, give yourself down time and then go back to it the following week.  I call it the grace period with a deadline.

11.  Substitution is a fun concept.  Jay McGraw covers this.  If one is full and one goes to eat more due to stress, just do something else like needle point or coloring.  Keep those hands busy.

12.  Oh, the hate exercising issue.  Do something fun.  Walk for half hour in a mall or a petting zoo or museum or play with a granchild.  Yes, pushing a child on a swing gounds or have little games with grandchildren.  Try to make exercise fun.  Dr. Deepak Chopra claiims that moderate exercise which is peaceful and pleasurable will be repeated.

13.  Creative Visualization.  (I learned this from my Weight Watcher coach).  Choose a picture of when your were thinner or use a realistic picture of a woman who resembles a dream for you and stick to it.  I have Goddess statue of Aphrodite in my room.  She is a size 16-18.  My goal is to be 160 lbs.  Being a size two is not realistic.  Also I'm going to check out Dove's Beauty Campaign.

14.  Okay, positive affirmations, such as "I'm pretty.  I'm a great woman and I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."

15.  Limit negativity. 

Now ladies, you freeback.


Wendy (Sabrinaswinter)

Flag sabrinaswinter May 4, 2009 1:39 PM EDT

Dear Irene and Ladies:

I tried invitations.  I hope all went through.  God bless.




PS:  I am using the concept of spiritual awakenings.  I want this thread to be dual one.  Sometimes some ladies (myself included) drop off because we give up.  I feel inspiration will help on its own.

Flag westlilies May 4, 2009 1:52 PM EDT

WOW...Wendy, you certainly inspired me!  You are right about "the plan."   Finding one that fits is real important.  I'm willing to give up bread and pasta for the most part...but forever...never...just isn't realistic for me.  But, as I search for "my plan" I will do what I already know to do.  I took a 45 min. walk already today and have made good choices for breakfast & lunch.  All I have to do now is make sure I have a (little smaller that usual) well balanced meal for dinner.  Maybe this would be a good time to make a commitment not to have any food after 7 PM.  And I had a thought...Instead of looking at what must be eliminated, our new format encourages us to add something.  Prayer...Having an attitude of gratitude...Imagination...Feeling good about ourselves.
Those things should be checked on regularly.  It could make all the difference in the world!      Have a great day!  Drink your water...Talk to you soon.   Lily

Flag sabrinaswinter May 4, 2009 3:56 PM EDT

Dear Lily:

I love the concept of adding something to one's life.  Your ideas are wonderful.  I like the concept of adding prayer and something joyous.

Like you, I went for a 45 minute walk on my lunch break.  I asked myself this question:  What in my lifestyle is making me heavy?

I came to the conclusion:  Too much work!  I often skip lunch hour and work at my desk.  Today I spent a few minutes on this message board and then a 45 minute walk.  We have a wellness walk.  It is so fun to be on the same proud.  I'm so proud of you for walking--work it girl and remember God loves you always.

I did creative visualization during my walk.  I imagined myself thinner (160 lbs is fine for me) and just envisioned love, happiness and a fun future.  I envisioned my favorite wrestler, Matt Hardy, walking with me and yes, I'm blushing.

Imagination is fun.  I see myself walking in a garden with a handsome man.  I added some years to the wrestler and custom made him to fit my imagination.  I read his autobiography and I liked that he loves his brother with all of his heart.

It is fun.  Yes, tell me what you added to spice your life up.  As for pasta, you can always mix it with vegetables and I heard there is spinach pasta.  But if you need to cut out a food because your spirit is guiding you, listen to her above all.

Our souls know what we need.



Flag sabrinaswinter May 5, 2009 11:04 AM EDT

Dear Diana:

Taelyn is adorable!  She is so cute.  Happy Birthday and many, many more.



Flag westlilies May 5, 2009 11:14 AM EDT

Hello Wendy (and readers)...isn't this a great idea?
Yesterday is gone...(a good day)...and I'm believing for the strength and wisdom to follow my plan and not my feelings.  Wendy, being visual is not one of my gifts but building and expanding a thought either for good or bad seems to come naturally.  You could call it worry...I just know that it's very important to stay on the positive side. Someone told me that actions follow thoughts and that makes perfect sense to me.  So today I'll be "thinking" about my August vacation.  Six girls rent a place near the beach for a week.  We've been doing this for 5 years and it gets better each year.  We are all about the same age and each of us would love to wear a size 10 but don't.  I'm going to "think thin" today and see if that doesn't help me have another successful day. 
Wendy, you said you often stay at your desk during lunch break and put off eating...but we usually overeat at the next meal when we skip and our bodies can't burn off those excess calories.  It gets stored as FAT!  Please love yourself...You are made in the image of God and I'm pretty sure He's perfectly balanced.  Too much work causes STRESS.  You will have more than enough time and energy to do all of your work if you take advantage of that wellness walk every day. 

Think of each week representing one pound lost...4 sticks of butter melting away slowly.  Lily

Flag spudette May 5, 2009 5:18 PM EDT

Hi, everyone. I found this thread easily. It sounds like a lot of fun, thanks for inviting me.



Flag sabrinaswinter May 6, 2009 11:26 AM EDT

Dear Lily:

I love your post!  I like the idea of an all girl's vacation by the water.  Use whatever thoughts work for you.  Keep a positive thought journal in your heart.  Act as if you are a size 10, be joyful and happy.  I think women need a time out to be with fellow sisters and just be free.  Now that is a girl power theme!  I love when you say that it gets better and better with your lady friendships.

As a little girl I never went to a pajama party. (Your happy memories do remind me of my sister's fun).   But I participated in my sister's because I had to babysit the girls.  That was so much fun.  Games of Clue, make up, and just happy chatter.

Thank you for your wise advice.  You are right about work.  I have to have more play time.  I do like the wellness walk because I use my imagery of my favorite wrestler walking by my side.  It keeps me going.  I joke with my friend, Darlene, that the last time I saw a good looking man was in 1979.  Humor helps in diffusing stress.

I am reading a wonderful book by Ms. Patti Spanger, the famous matchmaker.  She speaks about happy thoughts during dating detox, which I'm doing now. (I want to get physically better and she speaks about detoxing from negative dating experiences by focusing on inner love and empowerment.  I will stay away from dating for one month and I'm happy.  No stress.).   I feel to cut down on my emotional eating I need to focus on the positive.  I did have one slip up with M&M's.  My little Munchie has to go in for bladder surgery this Friday.  I love that little cat.  I found out last Saturday and only had a slip up with sweets yesterday.

 Back on track.  Thank you for the spiritual reminder.  God wants me healthy.  I need to be healthy so I can take care of my life in a positive way.

The matchmaker had a fun exercise of writing down the simple pleasures, which enhances the relationship with one's inner self.  It is fun.

Well, Lily, thank you so much.  Your post was truly awesome.


Wendy (Sabrina)

PS:  I made this post pink to honor girl power!  Way to go.  When we acknowledge our own sacredness with God, we value ourselves more.  Lily, your post was wonderful.

Flag sabrinaswinter May 6, 2009 11:32 AM EDT


The Sacred Garden of God


Wendy Jennifer Gabriella Schuljan



There is a sacred garden within our heart.

God has planted many seeds of love there.

It is up to us to cultivate this garden with tenderness and care.

We were created to spread seeds of Christian hope and dignity.

The secret to a meaningful life is quite easy...

To make a difference in a world hungry for food, shelter and love,

To reach out to a child needing hope from above,

God's love is abundant and so should we be.

Nothing beautiful grows in a garden of greed!


The garden has many flowers...

We have a choice in what ones to grow.

Stinkweeds and hemlock have no place there.

But roses give off the sweet scent of love everywhere.

There are daffodils and lilacs, too.

But the greatest plants are vegetables and fruits.

The peach tree is sweet like a happy face.

The lemon tree is bitter but with a positive attitude can be quite good.

God has given us free will.

We should plant His love in solid ground.

Behold the splendor!

The harvests of pumpkins and spice permeate the air.

The garden has many flowers...

We should never plant despair.


The greatest garden is the one Christ planted in us.

Faith the size of a mustard seed can grow and grow and grow.

His tears of compassion keep us watered with security.

He is always with us...

The Master Gardener and the Vine!

Sweet Love Divine!


There is much wisdom in a secret garden!


Flag westlilies May 6, 2009 2:20 PM EDT

It's easy to see you are doing well today...your poetry is full of whimsy and love.
I did another 45 minute walk this morning.  And I stocked up on fresh veggies too.
So nice to see Alice on board.  Come pray with us Alice, and see what we can do with God's help.
I found a little card in my drawer today that had this bible verse on it:
"The Lord your God is with you; His power gives you victory. The Lord will delight in you and in His love He will give you new life."  Zephaniah 3:17 
Don't you just love the part that says He will delight in you?  Have you ever delighted in someone?  It's pure pleasure!  And notice it says HIS power gives you victory! 
I am truly anticipating great success for all of us.

Flag sabrinaswinter May 8, 2009 2:25 PM EDT

Dear Lily:

Wow!  I am happy God delights in us.  What a beautiful thought.  My question is how does God delight in us?

Now that is a most interesting idea....

Lily, I'm so proud of your walking effort.  You go, Girl.



PS:Munchkin pulled through the sugery.  God is, indeed, so good.

Flag sabrinaswinter May 8, 2009 2:39 PM EDT

Dear Everyone:


Happy Mother's Day

By Wendy Schuljan

Having a mother is a gift from God.

As she is the jewel of our lives.

Praying for her always to be happy and strong.

Praising God in total gratitude.

Yes, Mothers are very special! 


Mother Mary is the example of blessed motherhood.

Oneness with God!  Oneness of heart.

Treasures beyond our dreams...The Mother of the Christ Child!

Heavenly serenity in knowing God is always with us.

Everlasting love that never fades.

Realizing we are more than gold in her eyes.


Spiritual beauty captured forever in our Mother's heart.


Delighting in God


Yes, mothers are the gentle handprints of God on our planet.

On Mother's Day give your Mom the greatest gift of all...

Your time and sincere gratitude.

Such jewels never tarnish and keep the soul alive!

Yes, mothers are the gentle handprints of God on our planet.

The sweet hugs of security.


Delighting in God's unselfish gift to us all...

Blessed Motherhood.




Flag westlilies May 11, 2009 9:22 AM EDT

Good Monday wasn't possible to stick to my plan this week-end.  Between my birthday and mother's day...I had no control.  My kids, my friends...restaurants, cakes, candy, BBQ...all wonderful but an impossible situation as far as food went.  So it's Monday morning and I am determined to do it right now that I'm back in charge.
Wendy, you asked about how God delights in us...I believe He displays it with favor (His favor and the favor of man) and feels it with joy.  So happy to hear that your little miracle kitty came through the surgery so well. 
Now...It's time to get serious and ask God to help us stir up the gift of self control that is within us and treat our bodies with care and respect.  We all know  what to do for it's time to do it!  My day will include a walk and I will eat as though I were a size 10 (those who are eat less) and I will say grace before each meal.  Looking at my plate and saying grace will help me size up my portions and selections.  And I think I'm going to drink a tall glass of water a few minutes BEFORE I eat.   Lily

Flag sabrinaswinter May 11, 2009 3:27 PM EDT

Dear Lily:

Happy Birthday to you!  You are an angel to our group.  Lily, do not feel bad about your birthday and Mother's Day.  I have also indulged on Mother's Day.  I love my Mom and I feel in my heart that it is okay to celebrate.  It sounds like you had a wonderful time.  Moms have a special place in my heart.  I feel they are the closest thing to God's unconditonal love on our planet.  God bless you for being a Mom and rejoicing with other Moms on that special day.

I am being good on Monday.  I have been counting calories.  I allow myself 1200.  I like your grace idea before each meal.  When I have hunger urgers which are caused due to emotional strain, I write a poem instead or listen to music.

I am keeping a close journal, so I shall share my entry so far.


Total:  1200



8 oz of water                   0

Tea                                  0

Fish                              152

Yogurt                            90

Mixed Fruits               278

Total for Breakfast     520




1 apple                         80

1 Yogurt                       90

8 oz of water                  0

Pretzels                         60

 _____________          Total 230

I find writing it down helps me focus with a sense of mindfulness.  I want a better life for myself.  So here is my prayer prior to eating:  Beautiful God, thank you for your goodness and abundance.  May I be healthier and thankful in your name.  Amen.

Lily, I'm so proud of you.  You are wonderful.

Yours truly,


Flag Luzee98 May 15, 2009 10:37 AM EDT

I finally got here! I had a gastric bypass few years ago and I lost over 150 lbs. I have gained 50, in the last year, after the death of my mother. I want to get back on track and I read your post. Somehow, it made sense to my inner self. So here I am!

Flag candybarger May 16, 2009 1:37 AM EDT

Hello Everyone,


I am so glad I found this site.  I too feel the need for a spiritual awakening.  I too would like some support and encouragement along this path.  I have recently tried two different programs.  One was too strict or so I thought and the other one doesn't agree with my heart (physically).  I have been experiencing feeling lost and empty and I don't know what to do about it.  I do believe there is a Goddess within each of us and I would like to let my Goddess shine.  I just don't know how.  I am so glad u are all here and I am looking forward to getting to know u all.



Flag sabrinaswinter May 17, 2009 1:27 PM EDT

Dear Luzee:

Welcome aboard.  I'm so sorry about your Mom's death.  I extend my prayers to you and my deepest of sympathy.  You are amongst friends.  When my Mom was first diagnosed with breast cancer, I gained 60 lbs in one year.  (She has since beaten breast cancer twice.)

You are not alone.  I wish to extend a hug to you.  I noticed in life that often weight symbolizes something so much more than our physical bodies.  Sometimes there is something that is weighing us down.

Do something in loving memory of your Mom.  I know in my heart she loves you so very much and wants you to be healthy and well. 

We're here for you.  God bless.


Wendy (Sabrinaswinter)

Flag sabrinaswinter May 17, 2009 1:32 PM EDT

Dear Cheryl:

I know how dieting feels like and I know in my heart to achieve health, I have to embrace the Goddess from within.  I feel there is great power in every woman.  Some may call it soul or spirit.  I call it the  Goddess.

Regina Thomashauer has written wonderful books about feminine or goddess empowerment.  My favorite is writing a love letter to my inner self.

Try it.  It is fun.  Select a card or make one which makes your spirit smile and feel happy.  Write a letter of appreciation to your higher self.  What is it that you love about being Cheryl?  What gifts do you possess which light up the world with hope?  What are your talents? 

Please share.  I suspect your inner Goddess is glorious.  Please share and if feeling empty, do things which make your heart smile?  Make a list of your favoirte things or simple pleasures and indulge them.

Have a beautiful day.   Welcome to our group.  We await your awakening!

Love and Friendship,

Wendy aka Sabrinaswinter

Flag candybarger May 20, 2009 8:52 AM EDT

Innocent  Thank you Wendy for your suggestions about writing a letter of love to my inner self.  That is a wonderful idea.  I am going to work on my food plan and how I would like it to be.  I want to go without sugar, flour, wheat.  I am not going to go to the extreme that I have to watch every single smidgon of food I put in my mouth but to not eat foods like candys, cakes, cookies pies etc.  I have found out that I am gluten intolerant and lactose intolerant so I want to work on not eating those.  I am also starting an exercise plan including walking and stretches and strengthening. 

 With all of that said I want to share an experience I had last night.  I was trying to take a nap before I went to work and I was feeling really sad and wanted to cry.  I had a hard time letting the tears out.  For some reason (God's plan) I remembered a visualization exercise of me sitting on Jesus' lap and resting on Him.  I found that nice but I wanted more so I pictured sitting on Jesus' lap with my head on His shoulder and He had one arm around me and the other stroking my face and He was telling me that He loved me and I was a good person/girl.  I went to sleep then.  Isn't that beautiful!!!  I am looking forward to being in this group.  Thank you for being here.


Flag westlilies May 20, 2009 9:34 AM EDT

Good morning everyone...always nice to meet new people.  Wendy, you are so gracious and kind.
Your suggestions come from such a tender heart.  Wanted to check in and say things are going well.  Prayer certainly has strengthened my ability to fight off those temptations to go off course. 
Cheryl, I too have problems with dairy and glutten.  When I eat properly I feel great!  My imigaging skills need work...but I do believe that's real important.  I also believe what we "say" about ourselves is a factor in determining our success.  It's good to feel good about ourselves isn't it!  Talk to you later...Lily

Flag sabrinaswinter May 20, 2009 11:33 AM EDT

Dear Cheryl, Westlilies, and All Ladies:

Westlilies, it is wonderful to hear from you.  Thank you for your sweet compliments.  I believe when we love ourselves the way God does, we come from a heart of peace.  You are always very special to me.

Cheryl, your creative visualization of Jesus embracing you is truly very beautiful.  Thank you so much for sharing.  God does adore you.  The comfort in your words were truly inspirational. 

Often I feel very sad about my weight issue.  I have been on a few dates and noticed how awful I was treated due to weight.  When I was younger and thinner, it was not an issue.  Cheryl, your imagery touched me very deeply.  In God's eyes we are always beautiful because He made us in His image.  Jesus sees our heart.  Our heart determines our life.

I feel that God's love is about acceptance.  My goal for all of us is to know the truth that we are divinely loved.  Cheryl, your visualization is a beautiful love letter and testimony to us all.

Cheryl, Thank you.  Lily, thank you, too.


Wendy (Sabrinaswinter)

PS:  Enjoy the enclosed poem.


A Love Letter From God

(A Poem Dedicated to Cheryl, Lily, Susie, Irene and All Ladies)


Wendy Schuljan


God's Words:  I Will Always Love You...


I created you in your Mother's Womb.

You are the tapestry of All of My Love.

When I gaze upon you, I smile with all of my heart.

You are a beautiful woman and I will always love you!

I created the trees to provide you shade.

I created the fruits for you to eat.

I created the sky for you to wish upon a star.

All your dreams will come true because I'm God!

When you are alone and naked, I will cover you.

When you are hungry, I will feed you.

When you are lonely, I will embrace you.

You are always precious before me.

I do not care about your weight, your social status or your possessions.

I will always love you.

You are My Child, My Beloved, My Everything!

When you are criticized or mocked, always remember...


I will never leave or forsake you.

I have sent my only son, Jesus, to walk with you.

I have sent the Holy Spirit to help you soar across the heavens.

I can do all things for you because...

I am God.

Life may be unreliable.  Lovers may come and go.

But I am God and I am always faithful.

Look into the sky...

My Son is holding the lamb.

It is your pure heart.

How I love you!  Let me breathe into your soul visions of hope!

I am your lantern, your light, your true love.

I am God!


Flag candybarger May 20, 2009 11:44 PM EDT


Thank you so much for sharing the poem.  It really touched my heart.  That is all of what God is and more.  You are truely an inspiration to me Wendy.  God Bless You for your service work.


Flag westlilies May 21, 2009 8:42 AM EDT

Good morning girls!  Day by day God helps me to stay focused on right choices.  I am thankful for another successful day.  The bible says: "Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed."  Proverbs 16:3  I believe that is something that must be done daily and would explain (to me) the days I failed.  The bible also says: "Don't get tired of doing what is right, for after a while you will reap a harvest of blessings if you do not give up."  Galatians 6:9   Now those words may not have been meant to cover this subject but it helps me because the principal is the same...consistency pays off!  Have a blessed day everyone...Lily

Flag sabrinaswinter May 23, 2009 2:55 PM EDT

Dear Cheryl:

You are very welcome.  We are here to emotionally support each other.  I want to see us all do well.

God bless and I know you can do it!

Yours truly,


Flag sabrinaswinter May 23, 2009 3:00 PM EDT

May 21, 2009 -- 8:42AM, westlilies wrote:

Good morning girls!  Day by day God helps me to stay focused on right choices.  I am thankful for another successful day.  The bible says: "Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed."  Proverbs 16:3  I believe that is something that must be done daily and would explain (to me) the days I failed.  The bible also says: "Don't get tired of doing what is right, for after a while you will reap a harvest of blessings if you do not give up."  Galatians 6:9   Now those words may not have been meant to cover this subject but it helps me because the principal is the same...consistency pays off!  Have a blessed day everyone...Lily

Lily, I love the quotes you use from the Bible.  There are three princples here:

1.  Commit to the Lord for help.  Today I'm going to commit to God to help me.  I can't do this alone.  A spiritual focus is so important no matter what one's tradition is.  When we honor our physical temple, we are acknowledging God's love for us.  He wants what is best for us.  It is time for us to want the same.

2. Always do what is right and never tire of this.  Lily, I'm guilty of not doing this.  You discuss a very important point.  If one does the right thing, eventually it will become a habit.  Dr. Phil speaks of Self-Mastery in Weight Loss.  To do something positive instead of binge eating.

3.  Lily's Principle of Consistency.  Lily, this is the key.

Thank you for a wonderful post.  God bless.



Flag westlilies May 24, 2009 6:19 PM EDT

Hi Wendy,  It's a stormy Sunday afternoon...I'm bored (storm knocked TV out) and I'm just too lazy to do much of anything.  But, so far so good with my food choices.  That's because I've been careful not to bring junk into the house.  Tomorrow is a holiday and I'm planning a little hot dog roast.  Nothing much...burgers, dogs, a small bowl of potato salad, watermelon and iced tea.  It won't be a perfect "diet" day but I'm planning to keep busy and take small portions.  And of course all my "planning" needs God's help.  So I'll start my day with prayer.  Do you have a plan?

Flag MelissaHlovesGod May 27, 2009 2:50 AM EDT

Hi, Everyone!

I betcha all thought I gave up and crawled somewhere and died, huh? Nope, just been really really busy. What with school, the reunion, and all I haven't had time to rub two thoughts together. My best friend in the world came down from GA and stayed with me two days (I wish it could have been more) for the reunion (which was a bust) and then went on to see other family and friends in the area. Oh well, I guess I can't hog all her time.

The only really bad part of the reunion I didn't like was there was no organization. Think of a bunch a monkees running around and you'll get a good idea how it was. There was only four of our class there and two of them didn't mix with the two of us. I guess the class chaste system is still alive and well. The best part was the alumni football game. The "old" guys agains the "young" guys. Of course the young guys smeared the old guys, I think the score was 49 to zip but everyone had a whole lot of fun. Everytime there was a tackle, there was a helping hand to lift someone whether it be an old guy or young guy up off the grass. There was a lot of joking around and just a lot of fun to be had.

I went to my bariatrician's and he said I lost 5 more lbs! Which is good because I've been gaining weight. I made the mistake of eating at some fast food places for a couple of weeks and you know how much it tempts you to not eat healthy there! Anyway, I'm d oing a lot better now.

I am finding I like Theology better than Psychology in my studies and Psych is supposed to be my major! I still want to be a school/church counselor so I better stick with it.

Sorry to give you a book but I was just so excited to tell you all what has been happening with me. Take care. May God Bless You. Oh, yeah. There is one bit of bad news. The last time I saw my foot doctor, he said I did something to the ligaments in my heel and I wasn't allowed to go walking for a time, not even water aerobics! I was so mad! I love water aerobics, but I don;t want my heel to get worse so I've been minding the doctor as best as I can.

Flag westlilies May 31, 2009 8:02 AM EDT

Prayer:  This is the day the Lord has made, I will rejoice and be glad in it! 
Girls, it is so important (to me) to live out that statement.  I am totally convinced that loneliness and not being fulfilled is the root cause of my overeating.  Example: yesterday I had lunch at a friend's house.  She was most considerate and made a lovely healthy lunch.  Our relationship is pleasant enough but not balanced.  She on the one hand is trying to be my "best friend."  I on the other hand already have a "best friend" who is quite busy at this time and I miss her.  So I'm trying to stay social. But I must admit that I was glad when the event was over.  Nothing wrong on her was me. Anyway by evening I was off and running with food.  I couldn't fill that emptiness I so often feel.  I didn't pray, I made another sandwich!   I'm telling you this because I am determined to change my behavior and believe that God will help me if I get closer to Him.  Can anyone relate?   Lily

Flag westlilies June 6, 2009 9:53 AM EDT

Dear Ladies,  this has been a fair to the middle week for me.  I am still walking 45 minutes at a clip (rain or shine) 3 X's a week and my prayer remains the same.  I will rejoice and be glad...each day is a new opportunity to smile, to speak kindly to others, and to speak kindly to and about myself.  Some gals at my church have all decided to follow another diet book and  I've decided to join them. Their first meeting will be in two weeks, giving each of us the time to prepare for the commitment.  Right now there are 6 of us and each one has several food sensitivities...mine are dairy and certain grains.  We all agree that "fat free," and "sugar free," foods are to be avoided.  We also agree that we need to at least "walk" 20 minutes a day as a stress buster.  I have been at a stand still for a long time and I'm hoping that will change very soon.  One of the women says she wants to reclaim her self esteem.  Another one said she is tired of being tired all of the time. Health seems to be the most  important issue for all of us.  And we are all over us yet another common denominator.  And, like this group, prayer will be a vital part of our program.  I'll keep you posted if you'd like...let me know.  Lily

Flag spudette June 9, 2009 11:24 PM EDT

Hi, everyone. I know I promised to be more faithful about joining you ladies, but I've been kind of in hiding, i'm not even sure why. Mostly sad and depressed about a lot of different things, mainly. It's good to know that I always will find acceptance in this place. You're a pretty wonderful bunch, you know that?

Cathy spent almost three weeks with me last month. It was great to have her here. She tries to convince me that I need to keep a journal, but the idea doesn't do anything for m. In other words, I don't want to... just like I don't want to count calories. My idea of portion control is what Dr. Phil shows in his book: a cup of this, or half a cup of that, or the size of the palm of your hand for the meat. My personal plan involves not thinking in terms of dieting, because if I think in these terms, I keep thinking of the time when I will reach my goal and not have to diet anymore. I prefer to think in terms of changing my habits and my tastes. I agree that when you want to reach for food for the wrong reasons, it helps to keep yur hands busy doing something else, especially something that makes it physically impossible to eat at the same time, like taking a shower. I heard someone recommending this in connection with stopping smoking, and I thought it should work well with eating, too.Smile Just imagine what that cookie would look like under the shower !!! or that cigarette ...

Lily, I know about loneliness too. When you live alone and you can't find anyone at the other end of the phone line, there is always Someone right there with you wherever you are, and you can tell Him how you feel. He's always ready to put His arms around you.    

Wendy, I love your poems. Thank you for sharing them.

I love you all. Many blessings. Alice                                                           


Flag Soonb2mrsf June 15, 2009 6:03 PM EDT

Hi Im new to this group I love the topic.  I hope we can help each other. I have fibromyalgia and i am bipolar and have anxiety problems I take many pills for all of this and It makes me gain weight I am feelin very discouraged. Does anyone have any bible quotes that can help?

Flag westlilies June 20, 2009 12:08 PM EDT

Hello girls!
I see we have a new friend...welcome.
The changes we each desire will require long term commitment.
To me, going on a diet is temporary torture.  It feels so restrictive
and I find myself isolating myself just so I can stay on track.  That's
why I have failed so often.  I know what works...but my "want to"
is a little lame right now.  The church group that I mentioned on an
earlier post has not become established yet but I am hopeful that we
will launch our program this week.  I'm not looking for a miracle but
I do need strength beyond myself.  2 Cor. 6:17,18 seems to indicate
That God wants to be involved in our lives in a very close way.  But
we have to do our part first.  Talk to you soon,  Lily

FYI...adding extra fiber to one's daily intake is not only good for
health but also seems to help with weight loss.

Flag sabrinaswinter June 26, 2009 1:10 PM EDT

Dear Lily, Melissa, and Spudette:

It is so nice to hear from all of you. Lily, you are so right.  Many times overeating comes from bouts of loneliness.  I know mine is related to those emotional feelings, too. 

My questions is one for the group.  As women, how can we deal with loneliness without overeating.  My heart is encouraging us to develop an emotional support system or literally a weight loss buddy in your neighborhood.  Walk with a friend.  If no one is around, walk with God.

Melissa, your class reunions sounds confusing.  I hope you had a lovely time anyway.  Also good luck in school.  I am so proud of you.

Spudette, welcome back.  I'm so happy Cathy is helping you.

Yours truly,


Flag sabrinaswinter June 26, 2009 1:13 PM EDT

Dear SoonB2:


Welcome abroad.  I know my medical condition also contributes to my weight gain.  You're with friends.

It is a pleasure to have you!


Yours truly,


Flag westlilies July 9, 2009 8:46 PM EDT

Dear ones, failing is not an option.  So let's do as Wendy suggests...find a pass time that both occupies and satisfies.  When I am lonely I eat too much and too fast.  I haven't found my answer yet but most of the time I've noticed that this behavior is more prevalent after dark.  Once in a while a good movie will captivate my attention.  I enjoy mysteries, old romantic comedies and old classics.  I also play some of the games available on the computer such as "free cell" and "spider solitaire." 
My church group never got off the, excuses, excuses!  So, here I am again, hoping and praying someone or something inspires me to be more responsible for myself.  Prayer: God, Your mercies are new every morning...we ask that tomorrow morning we each wake with Your strength to own and love our bodies enough to just do one day correctly.  One day...and we'll deal with the next day when it arrives.  I thank You God, in advance because I know You hear our cry for help and I know You are faithful to answer us.  Amen     Lily

Flag sabrinaswinter July 19, 2009 9:52 PM EDT

Dear Lily,

I feel for you, too.  I also eat due to loneliness.  Let's try together.  I am 47 year's young and have joined AARP.  They have a great Christian forum. Do try it.  You can check my poems out at AARP  under the same handle.

It is so inspiring.  I love and admire you.  Let's work on this together.  God bless.




Flag Svetlana August 22, 2009 12:48 PM EDT

Something to bear in mind as you set your weight goals:

"Television and fashion ads have made it seem wicked to cast a shadow.  This wild, emaciated look appeals to some women, though not to many men, who are seldom seen pinning up a Vogue illustration in a machine shed."          ~ Peg Bracken, author of the I Hate to Cook Book

Or, as the man said to Rosie O'Donnell when she asked why he was hitting on her rather than her supermodel friend, "Bones are for dogs, meat is for men."

So ignore the banner ads about how thin celebrities are.  Set HEALTHY goals.

Flag dksbeliever September 9, 2009 9:13 AM EDT

I can't believe I found you guys!!  Is it too late to join this forum?  I have missed you so. 

Flag iczbez September 9, 2009 4:01 PM EDT

Hi there dear buddy DIANA. This thread has been asleep for weeks or almost a month, I just started one up and I noticed your handle.

Hope all is well. How old is grandbaby and how are your sisters?

My husband goes to the Cancer clinic at the end of Oct for a furthur test, but he is doing excellent!! Praise GOD!!

luv Irene

Flag dksbeliever September 26, 2009 8:38 AM EDT

Hi, all.  Yes, looks like this one is lazy.  I am going to get into your other one, Irene. 


Taelyn is doing great!  She is almost 10 months old and is walking...or at least taking a lot of steps.  My sisters are all great too.  The one in Florida is coming home this week, so we have lots of things planned.  Can't wait to see her!

Flag iczbez September 28, 2009 3:00 PM EDT

Hi Diana, I just want to let you know that I am still around and who knows maybe some of the other girls will jump back in.

My mom passed away last week and I will be back on board as soon as I can. I'm doing ok, though.

luv irene

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