am impressed with your style and focus. I think you bring an intensity and awareness to these boards that is refreshing. BTW, I dig your doll work, Interesting medium. Reminds me that art has it’s own soul.

Thanks redfrog.  I haven't had much time lately to post or even do a lot of art work.  That is one of the reasons that the negativity here annoys me.  I don't need it right now.  Between work, my health, sick parents, sick kids I want to visit somewhere where I don't have to watch my back and every word I write.  So I have been hanging out on knitting sites.

So if so many felt unsafe because of some of the posters here. What is/was keeping you/anyone from speaking up at the time???? 

If you like posting here then you have to own the forum,too. 

It's damn silly that folks are afraid to post because they don't feel safe? If there is a hostile/violent/ disruptive element. Then speak up and deal with it, if the majority hold the space together. Then on single poster can ruin it for the rest. 

 I didn't see that so much. I know that I pitched a huge bitch and got no support to back me up. After a little while a few voices began to speak up. But that was late in the game, and ineffective.

 What would happen if folks spoke up to the self appointed and really held there ground? What if when a troll jumps in and really starts pushing there weight around, posters took them to task?

 One of the reason's I pitched such a bitch. Is because there are a lot of folks out there who are more then happy to tell you that you ain't this and you ain't that. Cuz I got's the blood and you don't. So any thing that you think you are doing is just bull shit. I'm not going to roll over for that crap. I know who I am and I know where I come from I know the prices that I have paid. I don't answer to some disembodied fat head who thinks he's the end all of shamanism. 

I ain't saying that folks don't have a right to disagree with each other. But I am saying that if someone is really bullying another poster, if you want these forums to be safe then you have to speak up and call the bully out. Abuse is abuse, if you see it then say so. Also where are the Mod's?? Certain posters should have been kicked off B-net for there conduct. I don't mean a slap on the wrist warning. I mean if the abuse keep happening, then that poster needs to be bared from the site. 

 I don't know I just think it's a sad thing people don't feel safe but then they don't take step up to make it a safe place. 

I have no problems facing bogiemen (or women) however I do have limited amount of time and energy and I am not wasting it doing the job the moderator should be doing.  At this point in my life I have to chose my battles wisely.  My family comes first.

I come to boards like this to be recharged not to be rundown.

Apr 22, 2009 -- 8:54PM, giertruidis wrote:

You should expect there to be challenge and learn to counter it with something other than hostility if you wish others to take you seriously. It is often through strife that we truly grow and come to know ourselves and the journey to perfection is more important than the attaining of it.

 

That  is what debate boards are for, besides there is enough of the stress & strife in real life.  Hostility is what seems to have become bNets second name.  

 

True, it is what debate boards are for, but don't rely on them to shield you entirely. Hostility has always been a part of nearly every board here on the site, as when people are truely passionate about something, they tend to get emotional.