New Posts For Thread: Premarital Sexhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43931/24955097/Premarital_SexI'm hoping to get some insight on a scenario from people that are Christian or Catholic, but I would love to hear from anyone. My girlfriend is Catholic. I'm not. We've been dating for about nine months. We've been having sex the whole time. SheMy initial ("knee-jerk") response is to feel that if continuing to have sex now is more important to you than the long-term relationship you would gain after marrying, that doesn't seem to me like caring about her very much; you are saying you wouldhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43931/24955097/Premarital_Sex?post_id=506942613#506942613My initial ("knee-jerk") response is to feel that if continuing to have sex now is more important to you than the long-term relationship you would gain after marrying, that doesn't seem to me like caring about her very much; you are saying you wouldMon, 19 Sep 2011 20:01:03 -0500Dear Luke,You are caring for her at least a little. She has to stand up and fight her own spiritual battles.You can't fight them for her. She must decide for herself. She may decide to give you up.She was wrong to use sex to get you and is equally wrhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43931/24955097/Premarital_Sex?post_id=465694065#465694065Dear Luke,You are caring for her at least a little. She has to stand up and fight her own spiritual battles.You can't fight them for her. She must decide for herself. She may decide to give you up.She was wrong to use sex to get you and is equally wrSat, 11 Sep 2010 01:59:27 -0500I'll be blunt with you. Almost a decade ago, I was in a not so serious relationship with a guy. Honestly, I was confused at the time and extreemly lonely and he was very interested in me. I don't think he at all understood exactly what was going onhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43931/24955097/Premarital_Sex?post_id=465513001#465513001I'll be blunt with you. Almost a decade ago, I was in a not so serious relationship with a guy. Honestly, I was confused at the time and extreemly lonely and he was very interested in me. I don't think he at all understood exactly what was going onThu, 09 Sep 2010 17:17:38 -0500Hullo again"Well Benzant, part of what you said I didn't mean to imply, that I thought that following the Christian Dogma was easy. While I may have left that impression, I know that it isn't easy, in fact I might argue, impossible. I could even go shttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43931/24955097/Premarital_Sex?post_id=452772693#452772693Hullo again"Well Benzant, part of what you said I didn't mean to imply, that I thought that following the Christian Dogma was easy. While I may have left that impression, I know that it isn't easy, in fact I might argue, impossible. I could even go sSat, 19 Jun 2010 12:32:50 -0500Well Benzant, part of what you said I didn't mean to imply, that I thought that following the Christian Dogma was easy. While I may have left that impression, I know that it isn't easy, in fact I might argue, impossible. I could even go so far as tohttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43931/24955097/Premarital_Sex?post_id=452527153#452527153Well Benzant, part of what you said I didn't mean to imply, that I thought that following the Christian Dogma was easy. While I may have left that impression, I know that it isn't easy, in fact I might argue, impossible. I could even go so far as toThu, 17 Jun 2010 18:31:03 -0500Well the problem with this is that in order to follow this line of reasoning, one has to assume that you ARE in fact LITERALLY "God's vessel" and know without question what deity wants. Now I know that you do feel this way, but not everyone is as surhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43931/24955097/Premarital_Sex?post_id=452211729#452211729Well the problem with this is that in order to follow this line of reasoning, one has to assume that you ARE in fact LITERALLY "God's vessel" and know without question what deity wants. Now I know that you do feel this way, but not everyone is as surTue, 15 Jun 2010 15:26:36 -0500Well the problem with this is that in order to follow this line of reasoning, one has to assume that you ARE in fact LITERALLY "God's vessel" and know without question what deity wants. Now I know that you do feel this way, but not everyone is as surhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43931/24955097/Premarital_Sex?post_id=452199205#452199205Well the problem with this is that in order to follow this line of reasoning, one has to assume that you ARE in fact LITERALLY "God's vessel" and know without question what deity wants. Now I know that you do feel this way, but not everyone is as surTue, 15 Jun 2010 14:19:18 -0500A follow up here...by character, temperment and personality, marriage just doesn't suit me....very few happy marriages exist today, in my view..everything is disposable..and I didn't invent this game called life nor did I make the rules...and if Godhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43931/24955097/Premarital_Sex?post_id=452146941#452146941A follow up here...by character, temperment and personality, marriage just doesn't suit me....very few happy marriages exist today, in my view..everything is disposable..and I didn't invent this game called life nor did I make the rules...and if GodTue, 15 Jun 2010 08:48:52 -0500Hullo LukeHmm. I've a friend who dated some bloke not long ago. As a matter of fact neither is religious but sex was kind of an issue as he would've liked to but she didn't want to. When I asked her why she dated him in the first place, she said, "Ihttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43931/24955097/Premarital_Sex?post_id=452069837#452069837Hullo LukeHmm. I've a friend who dated some bloke not long ago. As a matter of fact neither is religious but sex was kind of an issue as he would've liked to but she didn't want to. When I asked her why she dated him in the first place, she said, "IMon, 14 Jun 2010 17:45:58 -0500Some others here do not see it as a problem that you will not be in a relationship without sex. I am a Christian, and I do see a problem with it. If my boyfriend would leave me if I did not put out, the message to me is that he is only using me for shttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43931/24955097/Premarital_Sex?post_id=452013509#452013509Some others here do not see it as a problem that you will not be in a relationship without sex. I am a Christian, and I do see a problem with it. If my boyfriend would leave me if I did not put out, the message to me is that he is only using me for sMon, 14 Jun 2010 11:04:09 -0500