New Posts For Thread: he's in afghanistan, i'm lonely.http://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/28731803/hes_in_afghanistan,_im_lonely."This action of you not feeling loved because I don’t call, sounds like your problem. I could go 6 months without talking to you in person or over the phone and still know you love me, I don’t know why you can’t just feel the same.Mandee, whether your husband was deployed to Afghanistan or went willingly as a private contractor is immaterial. He's still in a very dangerous place! He may not be out on patrol, facing death by IED or ambush, but even in Kabul or other major citiehttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/28731803/hes_in_afghanistan,_im_lonely.?post_id=514899225#514899225Mandee, whether your husband was deployed to Afghanistan or went willingly as a private contractor is immaterial. He's still in a very dangerous place! He may not be out on patrol, facing death by IED or ambush, but even in Kabul or other major citieWed, 11 Jan 2012 16:51:28 -0600My husband and I have never been apart as you and yours. However the first times we were on business trips away from each other, we talked a lot and enjoyed breathing on the phone to each other, just knowing the other was there. I have noticed recenhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/28731803/hes_in_afghanistan,_im_lonely.?post_id=513370855#513370855My husband and I have never been apart as you and yours. However the first times we were on business trips away from each other, we talked a lot and enjoyed breathing on the phone to each other, just knowing the other was there. I have noticed recenSat, 03 Dec 2011 10:13:18 -0600thank you for this. I always feel that I approach him in non-accusatory, open and loving way. But, then I go back and read it and understand why he would be offended. I'll use your instructions as a template next time I feel frustrated towards himhttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/28731803/hes_in_afghanistan,_im_lonely.?post_id=513357573#513357573thank you for this. I always feel that I approach him in non-accusatory, open and loving way. But, then I go back and read it and understand why he would be offended. I'll use your instructions as a template next time I feel frustrated towards himSat, 03 Dec 2011 00:08:41 -0600I don't question his fidelity, and am 100% confident that he is faithful to me.Thanks, I think I will seek counseling before I fully address this issue with him.http://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/28731803/hes_in_afghanistan,_im_lonely.?post_id=513357543#513357543I don't question his fidelity, and am 100% confident that he is faithful to me.Thanks, I think I will seek counseling before I fully address this issue with him.Sat, 03 Dec 2011 00:07:15 -0600mandee-Perhaps phrasing that is non-accusatory may help, e.g.:'Honey, i'm a woman, and i need to hear that i am loved. i need to feel that i am loved. i need to be touched in a loving way, whether by your words or your hands or lips."If you avoid "http://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/28731803/hes_in_afghanistan,_im_lonely.?post_id=513355677#513355677mandee-Perhaps phrasing that is non-accusatory may help, e.g.:'Honey, i'm a woman, and i need to hear that i am loved. i need to feel that i am loved. i need to be touched in a loving way, whether by your words or your hands or lips."If you avoid "Fri, 02 Dec 2011 22:05:09 -0600Do you live close enough to a military base that you could network with other wives whose husbands are away?I suspect your real concern is that he might have something on the side over there. If so, he is not likely to admit it, and from home therehttp://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/28731803/hes_in_afghanistan,_im_lonely.?post_id=513256631#513256631Do you live close enough to a military base that you could network with other wives whose husbands are away?I suspect your real concern is that he might have something on the side over there. If so, he is not likely to admit it, and from home thereWed, 30 Nov 2011 12:46:39 -0600"This action of you not feeling loved because I don’t call, sounds like your problem. I could go 6 months without talking to you in person or over the phone and still know you love me, I don’t know why you can’t just feel the same.http://community.beliefnet.com/go/thread/view/43921/28731803/hes_in_afghanistan,_im_lonely.?post_id=513239857#513239857"This action of you not feeling loved because I don’t call, sounds like your problem. I could go 6 months without talking to you in person or over the phone and still know you love me, I don’t know why you can’t just feel the same.Wed, 30 Nov 2011 01:46:19 -0600